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Mindset Strategies For Effective Dating. (If you’re single this is a must read!)

Short read which will dramatically help you boost your dating life just by changing your mindset.

This will take 3 to 15 minutes depending on if you really do the activity and make the decision. Or just 3 minutes if you read it, yet you may not get the results.

 

key frames of dating

  • When I say dating, what comes into your mind?

 

  • What are the first 5 words that you would think of?

 

  • Seriously, do it. What comes to your mind? Write them down.

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If they are words like hard, challenging, annoying, difficult or any words alike, then we have a problem.  The words you just said set your frame or mindset. If you think them, you live them.  If you think dating is hard, it’s not going to become easier. If you think it’s easier, will it be easier?

Possibly. It certainly won’t get any harder!

Makes sense right? Try talking about the general topic of dating with your friends.

Just ask them, “When I say dating what are the first things that come to your head?”

Suggest asking some friends that are successful or enjoy dating, and some that don’t!

 

 

 

3 Mindset Strategies For Effective Dating

Dating is fun.

a)      Be optimistic. – You attract positive experiences when you think of positive things. Having a positive attitude makes one attractive. Nobody wants to be with negative people.

b)     Don’t pressure yourself. – There are a lot of possible partners anywhere; keep trying until you find the one. Don’t quit. You just haven’t found the right person for you yet, and  it’s not because of you.

c)      Lighten Up. – Don’t take dating and finding your “soul mate” too serious.  Dating should be an enjoyable process and not a checklist of do’s and dont’s. Have FUN because dating is fun … it’s supposed to be!

 

Dating is intense.

a)      Fear, anxiousness, relief, laughter, happiness are part of the adventure. We go on a roller coaster ride of emotions.

b)     Intensity & Passion comes naturally.

c)      Just consider that anything you are “intense” about is part of the filtering process for finding the right one.

 

Dating is supposed to be natural.

a)      It’s hard that all of a sudden you are supposed to like and be liked by someone you just met. You know how to make friends right? Apply the same logic to dating, take the pressure off yourself and your date. Start by trying to be their friend.

b)      Dating is not just finding love but meeting new friends.

c)      Dating is a natural way to make new friends and perhaps find a new partner.

d)      Dating is a natural process, we need to do it. It’s probably better if we do more than less of it right?

 

 Dating is fun, dating is intense and dating is natural!

There is a lot more reasoning and science behind this. I’ve kept it short, simple and effective as I value your time. For single men, I have more content in my private collection for mindset strategies/frames, along with techniques and tactics for quick results. Ultimately, getting better with the other sex is through personal development.

 

Have fun with it. Make these three mindset strategies part of your day to day life and dating will become much easier. After all, how are we going to find our soul mate if you won’t give it a try?

 

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Friends coming together to meet, all boys and girls were single….

 

5 thoughts on “Mindset Strategies For Effective Dating. (If you’re single this is a must read!)

  1. So true, so true. This is really good Adrian. It is the best advice. Thanks for sharing. Do you know Redpole Q.?

    • Yes, I know him. He is in Shanghai right now. We had a 5 hour dinner together last week. We both share passion for helping others, E Marketing, and actually we are both about to release books in SelfHelp field. His book is called “The Perfect First Date”. I will gladly promote it when it is released to the public.
      PS. I don’t teach PU. I teach better techniques for dating sometimes, but not PUA. I do not want to teach PUA. If you read my article, http://adriancahill.com/2012/04/09/improved-dating/ you will understand more of my approach.

  2. so true.. when you date, don’t pressure yourself just had fun. Thanks Adrian for the good advice. Thumbs up!

  3. On behalf of everyone we like to thank you for such a great speech Adrian. We hope to see hyou at our Young Leaders for Change club again soon!

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