NLP and Psychic Development

In my journey of exploring the depths of human consciousness and potential, I have delved into numerous studies and a wealth of literature. During part of this journey, I supported my partner in developing her psychic skills however, we often had conflicts. The first books in NLP were called ‘The Structure of Magic Vol.1 & 2″ and was based on deciphering how psychotherapist/healers did their magic! Yet, those on the psychic development path would say, don’t deconstruct the Magic. Just believe in it. Both perspectives are absolutely beautiful.

This exploration has led to a fascinating discovery of the points of convergence and divergence between Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Psychic Development. This article aims to illuminate where these two realms support each other, their distinct characteristics, and areas where they might conflict. This understanding is not just academic; it offers practical insights into how we can harness the strengths of both disciplines for personal growth and deeper self-awareness. More will definitely flow from this as I develop more in both spaces. The Psychic / ESP world is very real and perhaps everyone has the ability to grow.

 

1. Conflict between NLP and Psychic Development: The Locus of Control

  • NLP’s Internal Locus of Control: Experienced NLP practitioners understand the risks of believing too strongly in control. They advocate for a more internal locus, where individuals feel they have power over their actions and responses.
  • Psychic Development’s External Locus: Conversely, psychic development often leans towards an external locus of control. Practitioners might interpret signs like ‘888’ as messages from external entities like spirits or guides, influencing their actions.

2. Common Ground: Pattern Detection

  • Pattern Recognition in NLP: NLP focuses on identifying and understanding patterns. These patterns are mainly in thought, communication and behavior. It emphasizes verifying these patterns and differentiating between presuppositions (what is in the actual communication) and mind reads. While you can use mindreads and intuition, there is a leaning to test, validate, and verify.
  • Psychic Development and Patterns: Psychic practices also involve pattern recognition, often attributing meaning to minor details such as seeing specific numbers or a feeling. This highlights the importance of confirming and validating insights, especially in the early stages of psychic development. If someone is pursuing psychic development I believe its imperative to establish clearer communication and validation processes early.

3. Higher Levels of Development: Unity and Interconnectedness

  • Spiral Dynamics in NLP: Some NLP training includes spiral dynamics, which addresses various levels of psychological and emotional development. The higher levels of Spiral Dynamics (Tier 2) emphasise the interconnectedness and unity of life, a key belief in psychic development.
  • Diverse Levels of Students: It’s important to recognize that both NLP and psychic students may be at different levels of this spiral. Those deeply involved in psychic or mindful practices at the true ‘Guru’ level, tend to operate at higher levels, indicating a more integrated belief system. Some Gurus embrace this higher level yet aspects of them are still in the Shadows. It is said that Osho, a highly controversial guru was very developed but may have had unintegrated shadow aspects. Perhaps the same with Tony Robbins.

4. The Role of the Unconscious

  • Conscious and Unconscious in NLP: NLP delineates between conscious (aware) and unconscious (unaware) mind states. Simply what is and isn’t awareness. What is, is conscious, what isn’t is unconscious. NLP is constantly utilising the best of both worlds to create change. Hypnosis, Trancework, Rituals (a set of frames), Modelling and getting to the level of ‘unconscious competence’ is the name of the game.
  • Psychic Development’s View on Unconsciousness: Similarly, psychic development respects the unconscious, albeit with different terminologies. Both fields value the unconscious for its role in fostering congruence and guiding actions, as seen in practices like channeling and trance.

In summary, while NLP and psychic development have their distinct approaches, they both contribute to a broader understanding of human cognition and spirituality. Their intersection offers a rich tapestry for exploring the depths of human consciousness and potential. Take note and put your effort into ensuring the elements that conflict become integrated, a possibility and a complimentary rather than a hinderance.

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Coaches often forget that the person that needs to be coached and developed the most is themselves. As you continue your coaching or NLP journey a deeper goal is to develop mastery within ourselves. Hence I wrote this short article on Self Mastery Coaching or Self Mastery for Coaches/Neuro Linguistic Programmers/Brain Hackers.

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Some of the key qualities of Self Mastery

Compassion: an understanding and empathy towards another person or our own difficulties combined with an attitude or actions designed to help. Compassion is different from sympathy. Compassion is a vital key preceding whatever attitudes or actions are designed to help you cannot have coaching awakening. inspiring, empowering without compassion.

 

Clarity: having a deeper understanding and certainty that ultimately involves an awareness that we don’t really have a full understanding, there is always more we don’t know yet we can proceed with clarity and certainty in ourselves. Clarity is knowing the higher logical level, the higher intention or perhaps the spiritual intent and that it is more important than the behaviour.

 

Detachment: a key concept in Buddhism, however, it is just as applicable here. We do not allow ourselves to be unduly influenced, imbalanced or negatively affected by our attachments or actions of others. We understand that we cannot force change, perfectionism or our ways of thinking on others, or even fully onto ourselves. For deeper seekers we also need to be careful of becoming attached to being unattached! Detachment is a fine line. And we must learn to let go more and more. Let go of our views, our stories, our goals, our beliefs,  our desires. Let go of the need to change anyone or change anything. A concept well worthy of far more exploration.

 

Nonjudgement: being able to let go of our judgments, let go of our criticism, let go without losing discernment and insights. We want to be eliminating the elements of reproach and blame while maintaining keen perception. Nonjudgement and Detachment bring ease and equanimity.

 

Equanimity: balance, self-possession, self-assurance and presence of mind that brings calmness peaceful and tranquillity. Equanimity as described by Shinzen Young, was like a honeycomb being warmed up so that the old structures, beliefs, stories can melt and the blessings can pass through the mind.

 

Love: the process of loving. The capacity for tender warm feelings mixed with joy and deep affection focused on the greater humanity, groups, individuals and ultimately on a deep, heartfelt devotion to ourselves, to a god or divine consciousness or something much greater than us.

 

Where to next?

Loving, Detached, Service: combining the above in the act of service that intrinsically involves these states in attitudes and actions with compassion for a greater good.

 

I thoroughly love my work, and I’m attached and non-attached to it at the same time. Black and White or ‘Either Or’ thinking is rather limiting. One can be attached and not attached at the same time. I am attached to my self-mastery, I am attached to desires to give service, yet at the same time, I can withdraw. I love my work as it provides continuous and never-ending opportunities to grow in so many physical and metaphysical ways. I hope you love it too. Please come along to one of our free workshops (With Motivate Community) and get involved. Blessings!

 

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What on earth is going on? Are we all being MANIPULATED?

 

Hi guys,

 

Being a coach I’m on the phone every day to different cities. On the 25th January 2020, I started one of the most full-on courses I’ve ever run. I love to share a bit more about that but before that I’ll share some inside information, experiences you may really appreciate about what’s going on it the world today and in 2020.  

 

I’ll never forget when I was a kid, this one time my friends and I were mucking around at a school on a Sunday afternoon. Being a little troublesome. The police came and we got in trouble. That night there was an article on the TV about it which said something like ‘5 boys caught vandalising a school’ and they went on to show classrooms covered in paint and trashed. This actually happened but some 24hours earlier totally unrelated us. Police, us boys and the general public have very different views. It was pretty embarrassing considering we hadn’t damaged anything. 

 

Years later I was in Afghanistan exposed to …. And what I saw on the media again…..very different. I held a Top Secret clearance and it raised a lot of curiosity as to ‘bigger games’ being played. I was also in Syria, Iraq, Iran, Israel and more…. Very different realities again. 

 

So let me share a little bit about my experiences with CoVid. 

From the 25th January till the 3rd February we were running our big NLP Coaching Practitioner and we had a Chinese Doctor sharing updates every day. We had about 12 people from China at our training as well. And every day since then I’ve had updates over the phone with clients around China and the Asian cities. 

 

Yes I do think there are bigger games being played. Yes I do think the masses are being misled. Yes I am concerned about our future but not health-wise, it’s the economic outlook that concerns me. People losing jobs. I’m not sure exactly how or why there is so much misinformation going around but I know somethings from first-hand experience.

 

During the last TEDx I was at, I welcomed the then VP of IBM, Dr Matt Wang who spoke about AI. One of my wonderful clients founded his own AI company and AI is incredible. We are at serious risk of losing countless jobs! (That is one reason I committed 100% to coaching, it can be replaced but EQ is harder to mimic with AI). People working effectively from home opens up and makes movements towards replacement by AI or outsourced team easier. If your teams are working from home, AI can learn more as all ‘important’ movements are carried out online. If you can have a designer working from home, you may be able to save money having a designer in the Philippines or a designer from France that lives in the Philippines or a regional city doing the work. 

 

And then there is the ‘who is at most risk’ question? Those that are at most at risk are said to be those that have lower health, immunity problems or existing health problems. Well, what would happen if let’s say a large percentage of those with existing health problems left the hospitals for the graveyards. It would be terrible. A disaster. Over the longer term would it be economical disaster? It would certainly be an economic disaster if it took out the working classes. 

 

So on the Macro level, yes economical concern. But for you now. For you and your family…

 

The biggest thing I want people to know is it is OK. Just as life in China is starting to resume, life in the west will get there. It’s just we are on our way IN, while China is on the way OUT. With that, maybe we should be watching whats happening and happened in places like China, HK, Singapore, Japan. Instead of Italy! (I’ve got training in Italy in May, Norway in June, I haven’t booked those flights and will wait. I am running a ICF & NLP Training in Bali in July, I have booked flights and booked a hotel for 20 people.

 

Manipulation at home….

If you found yourself watching more news or social media especially in the morning watch out you are being brainwashed. Just the same, if you are sitting outside watching the birds and trees every morning you are being brainwashed by mother nature. No one, including me, can sit there and watch 20 minutes of TV and not be influenced by it. What the world needs right now is more family time, more time listening empathetically to each other. Yet right now Netflix & Pornhub usage is going through the roof and the parks are empty. 

 

What to do instead…

It is an excellent time to take the family to the countryside. Two of my French clients in China took their families to their parents home town in the French countryside at the very start of the outbreak. They returned to China had their quarantine and now resuming work. 

 

Another client in the south has also been with inlaws a couple of hours drive from their home. They spent a lot of time together and working remotely. Life is now more returning to normal. 

 

It looked very scary for Singapore and Hong Kong but they are getting life back on track. 

 

More manipulation…

Now what I see in Western Media isn’t a focus on calming or preparing people. It’s shocking people with death tolls but this is BUSINESS. Media is a business. If reporters go to China and come back with footage of people being calm, following rules the reporters won’t get paid it really is that simple! Media reports are worthless until they are bought or paid for (directly or indirectly). If reporters don’t come back with something that can be sold, there is no money in it and they wouldn’t go. If they can really find or make something appear controversial they get paid. The worse their report is, the more the report is worth! Simple business fundamentals. 

 

As these crises go on, a small number of people make big gains while the majority are at effect. 

If you want to be less at the effect and taking charge in your life, let me know. Our training, our coaches, maybe even my own coaching, maybe just what it takes to turn things around for you.

 

 

 

Procrastination is a constant battle for a lot of people. You can dramatically reduce or even eliminate procrastination with effective application of NLP.  So our lives are full of anchors and these save us a lot of time and effort. Anchors help us in many many ways. But some anchors, bring us down.

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My top 8, for everyone I work with (or care about):

How to hire a coach in China Build your mindset and motivation skills daily through creating small habits. Constant small improvements are the key. 

Improving your physical fitness and health in joyful ways. Use it as me time, de-stress time, or social time. Running/swimming clubs have multiple advantages and remember men often need extra testosterone building activities such as competing or weights, while women need estrogen building activities such as collaborating. 

Reduce negative influences and habits incrementally.

Read at least 5 minutes a day. Reading a little every day can help you learn and put to practice far more than reading for hours in one day. (Notice if you read for over an hour you can barely recall more than 5-9 key points. Our brains don’t handle more than 5-9 points of chunks of information, it has to drop one to pick up more)

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Build or reconnect with positive supportive friends. Schedule a time to call them if you think of them late at night and make it a high priority when that time comes. 

Spend a little more time doing things you love that are away from technology. Nature is wise. It’s outlived every animal species on earth. You can learn a lot meditating or walking in nature. 

Contact those you love more often. Enquire about their model of the world. For example, when you were young, what did you think about money? What did you value in your life? Where do you think those values came from? How did you know you were doing the right thing… Etc. I do this with my parents often. It’s important and we don’t judge them. It really gives me insight, develops my listening and nonjudgemental skills. It also helps raise our relationship and my self-awareness to higher levels.

If your religious, get back in touch with your roots. If not, spend more time breathing. Consider giving more away to those in need. Various religious text mention giving away 10% or spending 10% on your own development. How much have you given away or spent developing your self recently?

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The conscious mind is what we are aware of and it steers and guides us, setting outcomes and deciding directions.  The conscious mind is also critical of suggestion. So, if you want to make sure that your suggestions to someone are taken on board, then it is best to communicate with the unconscious mind.

The unconscious (mind) is everything that is not conscious. It is a container for different thoughts, feelings, emotions, resources and possibilities that we are not paying attention to at any one time. When you switch your attention then they become conscious.

It is important to know the difference as you can control your unconscious via your conscious thought processes.  As in give it instructions. You need to communicate with both to gain excellence.

Altered states of consciousness

Ways of bringing about altered states of consciousness (which can have very positive therapeutic purposes due to the fact that it enables access directly to the unconscious mind):

  • Sleep
  • Using the NLP Milton model.
  • Use of nested loops and metaphors.
  • Deep rapport – matching breathing and trance induction
  • Yoga
  • Chanting
  • Ecstatic Dance
  • Hypnosis

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In Webster’s dictionary self mastery is defined as the ability to control one’s own desires or impulses. Psychologists call it self-discipline or self-control, and it’s the ability to get yourself to consistently behave in ways that move you toward your goals rather than away from them. It’s the ability to set a course of action and keep moving forward no matter how hard it gets or how unmotivated you feel. The ability to recognize, understand, control, and make the most out of your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual self. 

How to achieve self mastery?

First step is to become aware. To be aware is to be present—to live in this moment, the NOW. To be aware is to always keep coming back to what is happening NOW. The NOW is where you connect with your Higher Self, with your Essence. Being aware is to witness your thoughts, emotions, actions, and the world with non-attachment.

Second step is to make difference. Making difference allows to choose wisely. You need to be aware that there are choices and then choose consciously—to become the conscious choice-maker. Everything in life is a choice. Your choices create the life you live. This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t use your commonsense, but always remember that first impulse from the heart when making the final decision.

Third is to decide on your action. You have to have the courage to act on your choice. You must also be focused on your goal to master yourself. It requires you to be one-pointed without being rigid. It requires you to stay alert, unemotional, and mature.

And lastly you must come to your realization. Imagine what it will be like to have no boundaries or limitations, to be free, and for all your actions to be spontaneously correct and all desires spontaneously fulfilled.

Benefits of Self Mastery

Self Mastery can help you develop attitudes and habits in order for you to create and live your life. If you have developed self mastery you can control yourself at any given situation. You can move towards your goals with discipline. You will have the confidence to do things in a  purposeful way. Self mastery will also help you have clarity on what is really important to you. It teaches you to live the moment with happiness, love and gratefulness.

Hi guys, I’m  Adrian Cahill. Going to share how to start your small business quickly!

 

One of my highest values is Community. Everyone that knows me, knows I’m a sharer.

The more we share resources, the more we can all enjoy our lives. 

Here are a couple of things that may help you start your small business quickly and effectively. I use this for my personal coaching business, MOTIVATE Shanghai & MOTIVATE Community. In my opinion, these solutions fit most freelancing, consulting or small businesses.

 
1. My IT Guy’. Junaid Ali Syed has been with me since about 2012 and you can use him too.

  • He has made webpages for me and a lot of my clients. Trustworthy! I give him full access and Logons. Even my personal email. To be secure, change your password after.
  • Here is a live website he made recently for a client in Australia. www.bellingerselectrical.com.au 
  • He is based in India with clear communication. I appreciate his excellent resourceful skills most. Also, he is very upfront saying what he can and can not do
  • He can make logo’s and graphics however he is not an expert in that field. 

To use most efficiently,

  • Send him all text that will be on your webpages as text that he can copy/paste.  
  • Consider writing your webpage in Word Document or similar. 
  • Have him do logo’s, graphics, and making connections to AgileCRM, MailChimp, Zapier/IFTT, Zoho all that so you can start with your business.
  • Launch fast, come back and improve after. Many people get stuck trying to make the perfect webpage/funnel/webinar. JUST DO IT. 
  • To use him, you can email him directly:  sjunaidali@gmail.com   or add him on Skype: sjunaidali   

 

2. CRM. AgileCRM
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CRM stands for customer relationship management. It’s a category of integrated, data-driven software solutions that improve how you interact and do business with your customers. CRM systems help you manage and maintain customer relationships, track sales leads, marketing, and pipeline, and deliver actionable data. I used MailChimp from around 2010 to 2016. MailChimp and it’s alternatives are ok, but why spend the money and time with them when you can build a CRM. For basic use, AgileCRM may take an extra hour to learn. But you can easily schedule Zoom Screen Sharing sessions with the Tech Team for free to solve your challenges. Because AgileCRM is newer, it’s in my opinion that they are focused on Growing and customer success. The difference in cost between AgileCRM and Mailchimp is similar.

I was being coached by an amazing coach/financial lady from Sydney, UltimateCFO, she is a CFO (Cheif Financial Operator) you can hire her to be a CFO for your business. Anyhow, I hired her, it was great and she recommended ZOHO. ZOHO is better and more developed. After trialling ZOHO and trying to sort out connection issues, I prefer AgileCRM for small businesses, consultants, coaches, speakers, but ZOHO maybe better for those with 250k + Turnover, or a small business aiming to develop into 250K+ businesses and willing to put the manpower into working ZOHO.
 

 
3. How to start your small business quickly  – get the Mindset for success!

If your parents were Entrepreneurs, or you grew up around millionaire business owners don’t worry much about this point. If like me, you didn’t grow up with millionaire parents, you need to realise how we are programmed. In a nutshell, without interference, we are destined to be like or the opposites of our parents (or those we saw most of growing up). It is highly UNLIKELY that we will develop the mindset to be rich and successful by chance. We should, therefore, be taking the actions to make it happen.

Reading biographies, modelling, spending time with more successful people give us an insight into their beliefs, strategies, ways of being. For most of my life, I was an avid reader/modeller through literature. It helped me with my first investments but I wasn’t getting the ultimate results I was after so I sought out coaching and later became a coach. Coaching/mentoring is far faster. It may appear to cost more, certainly more than the cost of a few books, however, what my average client accomplishes in 6 sessions around wealth creation, or building business is often what takes most people years reading books. Calculate the cost of the time involved and coaching is suddenly very cheap. For those on the edge, or really striving for greatness, feel free to check out my course and packages. You can find them on my homepage.
 

4. Outsourcing. 

I Adrian Cahill, made this article. It took me 45 minutes. I’m a touch typer (Colemak).  I’ve chosen to do it myself because it’s 45minutes, done and I can send it to my buddie Kai (who is an excellent business trainer in Germany). Kai just asked me about Junaid and why I choose AgileCRM over it’s competitors. Besides the above tips, a big one would be to start using outsourcing. Get a VA Virtual Assistant, and others to help you. Get used to the process of delegating and handing over control!

I have several assistants. Junaid my ‘IT Guy’ and the others were all sourced from ODesk, now known as Upwork.com (How to start your small business quickly = Outsourcing)

It’s a bit old now, but here are some articles my team and I wrote years ago to assist you in outsourcing. Apologies they are old now, but still very relevant and based on my desire to assist and share.  www.adriancahill.com/outsourcing/ 

Note:   Some people use Content Writers. I have an article on how to use them but I don’t recommend them if you are a real expert or you want to share real expertise. I had a coaching call this morning from an Entrepreneur who is launching a brand. He and others like him, tried to hire content writers but found he spent 20-30minutes editing each article. (+hours hiring, training, firing them). Meanwhile, I’ve finished this in 55minutes! Now I look forward to lunch than phone coaching with a gentleman who works for one of the worlds biggest finance companies on how to be twice as effective with his new VP and Team. Bon Appetite, Guten Appetite, Preetno, 

Helping startups, small business and a variety of consultants in Shanghai

Entrepreneurship can be a complicated field to enter. Especially in China. Walking in its path without any preparation will be such a risk which is magnified in a foreign landscape and often expatriates want a quick and effective solution which may be easy in the West, but not so in the East.

This is where SmallChina comes in and I’m really delighted to share this. You can have your own website, Bio, or even sell your consultation/coaching/training services/products on a Chinese server, in HOURS! And, it gets better. It looks better than when you do it yourself, far better, for just a couple of hundred dollars.

There are a couple of elements to SmallChina secret sauce. (Which isn’t really secret anymore).

  1. Staff are expatriate and driven by passion.
  2. Your website becomes like yourwebsite.smallchina.cn Now this is not cool in the West because we think yourname.com is best. But in China .cn is clearly better. The process of getting a .cn and a Chinese server cost hundreds to thousands of dollars more than a .com you also need registered company etc etc.
  3. Yourwebsite.smallchina.com is featured as part of a highly passionate, experienced, dedicated community so the .smallchina.cn element will dramatically increase your exposure. (possibly eliminating any need for SEO)
  4. If you do post your link myname.smallchina.cn in forums, on Linked etc. it brings more credibility than a myname.com unless you are like a B2B or a MNC (B2B and MNC generally have 50k + Marketing budgets anyway)

Expanding a few points:

Smallchina.cn is a community nurtured by Sinaweb. They offer fast-loading China-based access. All there sites load far faster than highly optimized .com sites which can easily be blocked.
They help you gain followers which is very convenient.

You don’t need to create your own WeChat Official Account. Smallchina.cn have their own WeChat Official Account which even offers a mini-program directory. It is simple and convenient access and sharing.

Aside from that, they also have their headquarters in the heart of Shanghai. They provide convenient rates and organize events that can help you connect and engage with your local community. Their community also provides different services depending on the amount you are willing to provide. (I’ve spoken there before, have a smallchina.cn site and I had the founder Tommaso come and speak to a handful of coaches on how to start coaching businesses in China in record time!)

The platform of this organization is all about unity and collaboration. If you want to be a consultant or start a business in China contact Tommaso or the staff at SmallChina.cn directly.

The business industry is one of the widest scopes in our world. It has an environment which is always fluctuating, always opening to the newest innovations and always answering to the needs of the billion people around the world. If one enters this world without being equipped with the proper tools, he may fail. We may seek guidance and training from a lot of people for us to succeed in this field.

Ultimahub is a Corporate Training Company based in Shanghai. They provide training and facilitation methods that are effective and unique. They have established a strong reputation for providing corporate individuals and teams with key insights helping them to rise above the competition in today’s increasingly aggressive business climate.

The service and assistance that they provide is absolutely astounding. They did a good job during their speech in Motivateshanghai. The things that they shared during the event surely motivated the crowd.

The company strives hard to answer to the needs of the people who trusted them. Their goal is to make the businesses of their beneficiaries fruitful. They value trust and loyalty above all others. Ultimahub did an amazing job in motivating and helping people. They deserve recognition and applause for the things that they did.

Know more about Ultimahub.

Our mind is something so deep that we can’t comprehend right away what it wants. It is a complicated system managing our personality, emotions and feelings. It is what makes us unique from others. Managing these turbulent sensations is not that easy especially when you are doing it alone.

This is why Babiana Rueda Bueno wanted to help these individuals who are struggling in keeping it all together. She uses a therapeutic approach called Psychogenealogy. The method all about understanding one’s ancestral patterns. Her workshops are full of honesty, humor, and relevant experiences that help one to understand specific topics.

Bibiana will be guiding you in a complete reconstructive experience in order to let go of the past and open you to a more gratifying present and future. During her speech at Motivateshanghai, she was able to inspire a lot of individuals. She did an amazing job in sharing them this holistic approach that can help the people become emotionally healthy.

Babiana is a renowned psychologist who wants to help. Toxicity and pessimism will be right off the bat because of this method. The end goal of her approach is to live a life which allows one to fulfill your purpose and ultimately, to be what you are, unique and extraordinary expressions of universal energy – your authentic selves.

Know more about Bibiana.

NLP Kunming Yunnan China

Neuro Linguistic Programming(NLP)in relationship – 改善人际关系沙龙 – NLP Kunming

 Adrian Cahill KAIKIBU开启步  NLP Kunming Yunnan Province China

你的生活质量取决于你的人际关系的质量

伟大的关系 = 伟大的人生。

The Quality of your life is dependent on the quality of your relationships. 

Great relationships = Great life.

想要改善你生活中的每一段关系吗,是一点点的改变还是很大的改变?

来参加这次工作坊吧,去学习如何做到。

在这个沙龙我们将会研究使用NLP来改善我们的关系。这些关系可以是商业、家庭或爱情的。

我们将特别关注提高觉知和意识,因为觉知带来选择

Want to improve EVERY relationship in your life just a little or a lot?

Come to this introductory workshop to learn how. 

This workshop (NLP Kunming Yunnan Province China) we are looking at using NLP to improve our relationships. Relationships could be business, family or romantic.              

We will focus specifically on increasing awareness. Awareness leads to choice. 


时间-when:NLP Kunming

2018年10月15日晚上6点-8点

6-8pm, October 15th, 2018

地点-address:

云南省昆明市五华区新月花园A座1单元3202

Room 3202, unit 1, building A, XinYun garden, wuhua district, Kunming, Yunnan province

 

NLP Kunming, NLP Training Kunming Yunnan

NLP Training Kunming Yunnan

 

什么是NLP:

N(Neuro)指神经系统  ,也意译为身心。指我们的身心素质、结构与状态。

L(Linguistic)是指语言,也指沟通。这指的语言或沟通,都是广义的,这里的“语言”是指你与自己及外界沟通的各种方式。

P(Programming)是程序。它的意思是具体的,步骤清晰的方法。

我们就是通过语言来影响自己与他人的身心。同样,他人也通过语言来影响我们。这个影响的过程,NLP称之为程序。

从诞生到现在,很短的时间内,神经语言程序学(NLP)已经被传递到了世界的每个角落。

理解神经语言程序学(NLP)的最好方法之一是把它看作计算机的操作系统。我们每天都在使用电脑或头脑,但很少想到或知道如何提升或改善我们的思维。学习或应用NLP就像提升自己的思维一样。它能迅速使普通人聪明,聪明的人更聪明。

我们都有不同的梦想、目标、抱负、偏好。但不管文化如何,我们都有相同的需求。在我们的习惯和日常生活中,都有一些可以被改进的模式。

NLP Kunming, NLP Coach Kunming Yunnan

NLP可以被视为改善意识和无意识的过程。NLP Kunming

NLP has been carried on the wind to all corners of the earth in the short time it has existed. The initial work by its creators began in the mid – 70’s in California and it is still being improved today. 

One of the best ways to understand NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming is to think of it like the operating system of a computer. We all use computers or our mind as we go about the day but we rarely think or know how to upgrade or improve our mind. Studying or working with NLP is just like upgrading one’s mind. It can rapidly make average people smart and smart people smarter.  

We all have different dreams, goals, aspirations, preferences. But regardless of culture we all have the same needs. We all have patterns in our behavior and daily process which can be improved. NLP can be seen as improving ones conscious and unconscious processes. 

一个定义将神经语言程序学(NLP)描述为卓越的研究。有人说,这是一套工具和信念,能够迅速扩大和影响情商(EQ)。有谁不想变的更优秀,情商更高呢?。

One definition describes NLP as the study of excellence. Some say it’s a set of tools and beliefs to rapidly expand and influence emotional intelligence (EQ). And who wouldn’t want to be more excellent or emotionally intelligent?

关于神经语言程序学的文献,它的方法和策略已经被翻译成多种语言,适应了各种各样的文化背景,并融入了无数的应用领域。它直接而深刻地影响着成千上万的人的生活,对他们的生活质量作出了积极的贡献。以不太直接的方式,它影响了好几亿人,就算没有好几亿,也有千百万人。

Tony Robbins Kunming Yunnan

仅仅通过Tony Robbins,神经语言程序学(NLP)领域的一个专家,神经语言程序学(NLP)就已经惠及了超过5000万人。每年有成千上万的中国人飞往澳大利亚和美国等国参加Tony Robbins转型活动。学习神经语言程序学(NLP)或托尼·罗宾斯工作法的人遍布全球,他们经常称自己为人生教练、转型教练、NLP教练、关系教练。虽然他们并不总是被认可,但他们都热衷于帮助人们提升他们生活中的方方面面。

Literature on NLP, its techniques and strategies have been translated into many languages, adapted to a large number of cultures and integrated into countless domains of application. It has directly and profoundly influenced the lives of hundreds of thousands of people, making positive contributions to the quality of their lives. Less directly it has influenced millions, if not billions of people. 

NLP has reached over 50 Million people alone by just one expert in the field known as Tony Robbins. Thousands of Chinese every year fly to countries like Australia and America to attend Tony Robbins transformational events. People studying NLP or Tony Robbins work are all around the world often calling themselves life coaches, transformational coaches, NLP Coaches, Relationship Coaches. Their not always accredited, but they are generally passionate about helping people upgrade various elements of their life.

在即将到来的工作坊中,我们将研究Tony Robbins和其他NLP专家使用的NLP元素,以增强我们与他人的关系。

In this coming workshop we are looking at NLP elements used by Tony Robbins and other NLP experts to enhance our relationships with others.

关于导师:About the facilitator for NLP Kunming:

导师-Adrian Cahill,在世界的好些地方因为他的NLP教学而被是众所周知。他是一名得到高度认可的教练同时在国际教练联合会(ICF)中担任领导角色,他一直致力培养职业教练意识。

Adrian Cahill 曾两次受邀在TEDx上演讲,一次在2013年,另外一次2015年。他创办了MOTIVATE上海,现在已经有90多位演讲者在为这个世界最大的城市之一鼓舞和创造真正的变化。Adrian Cahill会不时地访问中国的其他城市,他每年都要和妻子及两个孩子在昆明度过几个月的时间。他非常高兴今年十月首次在云南进行推广。要了解更多关于Adrian Cahill,请访问,www.adriancahill.com.

The facilitator, Adrian Cahill is well known in some parts of the world for his NLP and Coaching events. He is a highly accredited coach whom holds a leadership role with the International Coaching Federation (ICF) developing awareness of professional Coaching. 

Adrian Cahill spoke on TEDx twice in 2013 and hosted in 2015. He founded MOTIVATE Shanghai which has now featured over 90 speakers to inspire and create real change in one of the worlds biggest cities. Adrian Cahill visits other cities in China from time to time and spends a couple of months every year in Kunming, Yunnan Province with his wife and 2 children. It is with great pleasure he will be facilitating for the first time NLP Kunming this October.  To learn more about Adrian Cahill, feel free to visit, www.adriancahill.com.

 

更多关于神经语言程序学(NLP)的思考:

More reflections on NLP: 

对Ralph S.来说,是NLP挽救他的婚姻和家庭完整性。它给了他工具,让他学会去调整自己的交流方式,以适应妻子无意识偏好的要求。Ralph和他的妻子现在在彼此的陪伴中找到了极大的乐趣,因为他们肩并肩为他们成长中的孩子提供成长环境。

Linda和John V.曾梦想有一个属于自己的孩子。经过大约十年的婚姻和大量的应用生育技术,他们丧失了信心。是NLP模式的深入应用成功地消除了对概念的无意识障碍。他们现在对他们两岁的可爱女儿有点疯狂,琳达几个月后将会拥有他们的第二个孩子,一个儿子。

George U.一直是一位敬业的老师——数学是他的激情所在,他怀着一种强烈的愿望,要把自己的热情传递给年轻人,为下一代打开形式思维的神奇大门。他因无法指导和激励学生而感到沮丧。为什么有些学生“得到了”,而其他人却从来做不到?现在,他小心翼翼地校准,高兴地调整他的陈述,以适应学生精确的无意识学习策略要求,尽管他的工作还没有100%成功,但他正在实现他的梦想。

Cynthia D.有一个想法,她想把它带去硅谷。她直觉地知道她开发的东西接近“杀手级应用”。她缺乏自尊心,无法建立必要的关系来招募和组织她需要的团队,以便将自己的所做的转变为一家充满活力的高科技公司。在特定的个人变化模式的帮助下,她正在为一个非常有利可图的IPO做准备。

For Ralph S., NLP is what saved his marriage and the integrity of his family. It gave him the tools to learn to adapt his communication to fit with the requirements of the unconscious preferences of his wife. Both Ralph and his wife now find great pleasure in one another’s company as they work side by side to provide the context for their growing children.

Linda and John V. had a dream of having a child of their own. After some ten years of marriage and a host of applied fertility techniques, they were discouraged. A deep application of NLP patterning succeeded in removing the unconscious obstacles to conception. They are presently more than bit crazy about their lovely daughter of two years and Linda is expecting their second child, a son, in several months. 

 

George U. was always a dedicated teacher – his passion is mathematics and he carries a burning desire to pass his enthusiasm on to young people, to open the magic portal of formal thinking for the next generation. He was frustrated by his inability to instruct and inspire his students. How is it that some of the students “get it” and others just never do? He now calibrates with care, gleefully adjusts his presentation for the precise unconscious learning strategy requirements of his students, and while he is not yet at 100% success in his work, he is living his dream. 

 

Cynthia D. had an idea she wanted to take to Silicon Valley. She knew intuitively that what she had developed was close to a “killer app”. Her low self-esteem prevented her from making the necessary connections to recruit and organize the team she needed to transform her work into a dynamic high tech firm. With the aid of specific personal change patterning, she is now preparing for a very lucrative IPO.

 

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If you want to join the NLP Kunming workshop,contact us

 

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This is a collection of over 15 suggestions for easier natural sleep. For years I’ve struggled. Far more so when I’ve had a lot going on in my life. I’ve tried a variety of things and read a lot. This is all from my experimenting and reading. Everything here, in my opinion, is powerful. 

My first experience with Non-Violent Communication was through an Executive Coach I had hired to assist me with balancing some stressful issues I was handling. I hired this Coach as I was really curious what it could do for me and one of the biggest things I learned is that I was communicating rather ‘roughly’ or not seeing ‘eye to eye’ with some people in my life. Anyhow, I got through the situation, got a positive result but knew there was still more to go. A year or two later I watched the Coach deliver a workshop on NVC. Later getting some books and audio programmes to deepen my learnings. Here are my translations and short form of the topic.

It’s amazing, even world champions can find themselves reacting to challenging or even little things. I’m completely guilty of overreacting very often in my relationship with my wife and sometimes simple things in a social media group would ‘trigger’ me and set me off in a rage. Many of my clients shared the same struggle. One of them, a C-Suite Executive, very successful career-minded woman, asked me for a solution and we ‘coached’ on it regularly as she changed her direction in life. Yet what I’m about to share, is ‘next level’. I’ve shared this with clients in 2017-18 and they have greatly reduced re-activity in days! So this is super powerful stuff if you implement it.

What is an Enlightened Relationship

In this article, we are going to cover what is and how to create an Enlightened Relationship.

The traditional “Til Death Do Us Part” and “They Lived Happily Ever After” are falling away as evidenced by the growing divorce rates in almost every country around the world. Recently I travelled to Bali, Singapore, Shanghai and in every city I heard single people complain about not being able to find the one, or not wanting to date. I also met a lot of couples who seemed to be in the common stage of living together but perhaps because of convenience or fear of the unknown rather than together for love. So I think it’s kind of official that Failed relationships are the new norm and that SUCKS. I’m going to share here not just hope, but a deeper description of an Enlightened Relationship and how to move towards creating one rather than repeating the same old same old. 

What is an Enlightened Relationship?

There are multiple stages and states in relationships. Stages are like levels, states are temporary. Sometimes states go on too long and seem like levels. The ‘Honey Moon Effect’ or ‘Puppy Love’ could be viewed as a state or a stage. Either way, what if a Traditional Relationship was also a stage? Divorce another stage? Enlightened Relationship is the stage I want you to get to.

So the Enlightened Relationship is a stage where most relationships don’t get to and if your anything like me, or most people I’ve worked with over the past decade, a lot of our parents weren’t there either. Relationships deserve an overhaul. Most of us are destined to stay at low stages of development but thank god you are here reading this now! If you have read a single article or blog of mine, then you already know I love transforming lives I hope you can be next.

 

How to go beyond the Honey Moon Effect, and beyond a Traditional relationship?

Personal development is the name of the game and when people transcend their lives, they transform not only their lives but the lives of those around them as well. So please do this for you, and for all those around you! The big secret isn’t such a secret. It’s in developing your self. See most people in the lower stages of relationships are at a level of blame. I’ll explain the level there. A second problem is priorities. Another is a lack of quality knowledge. And lastly presence, or BEing. Being the person. Rather than not finding the one, stepping up and BEing the One.  

 

Problem 1. 

Victim to Trancendance:

Level 1. Victim. Blaming others. The outside world is at fault.

Level 2. Responsibility. I’m at fault. I have to go out there and try. 

Level 3. In the flow. Enjoying life. 

Level 4. Transcendence. Oneness. 

Most of our society is at Level 1 or 2. Seeking to get into 3 occasionally 4. Level 4 is pretty rare and it’s more like a temporary state unless you are a monk.

As a Coach I’m having a few deep conversations every day. Typically when my clients (or myself for that matter) are having problems in our relationship, we often go straight to Level 1. Blame! But I remind my clients, to step up, step into Level 2. And then step into Level 3.  Another great example of this is to listen to anyone going through a breakup or divorce. A lot of divorcees will spend years at each level. On the upside, when they ‘let go’ enough they start to really enjoy each new level. 

So in your relationship, which level are you at? Want to move up? 
Exit Level 1 by letting go of blame and accepting personal responsibility.

Exit Level 2 by letting go of control and embracing uncertainty.

Exit Level 3 by letting go of duality. (Advanced stuff not covered here)

 

Problem 2. 

Priorities:

Many 30year olds in China find that dating and relationships are a struggle. In Australia, it’s very common too but the priorities are so different. Very very rough here but look, most of us grow up as a member of a family with mum and dad. Or grandparents. Their belief system affects ours. People have a different order of priorities. Education, Career, Money, Family, Fun, Health, Spirituality, etc. I know very very few people who have a very high priority for LEARNING how to have successful relationships. Yet I met a lot of people with a very high priority for finding the one. Or for dating. Or being social. Or working hard to get an apartment/job/title, and then I’ll get married and have kids. 

Remember Education is a business. Businesses funded by the government, or shareholders, often both. Yet few educational institutions teach EQ or relationship skills. I’ve never heard of a school teaching the models featured in my articles. Yet self-learning, self-directed learning could be a priority. I launched MOTIVATE Shanghai in 2012 and we have had over 200 events where people come and learn all kinds of things from communications, NLP, coaching, relationships…… 

Before expecting to magically have a wonderful relationship, put some time into learning how to create one!!!  

 

Problem 3.

Quality Knowledge:

Hire me! or Ask me for directions to cheaper solutions if you’re on a budget.  Skip Youtube and Social Media. Look for books that are 10+years old. A great indicator is books that become classics. Kahlil Gibran, Rumi are just as relevant today as ever. John Gottman and John Gray are good in my opinion, however as men, they are not very masculine. Masculinity attracts Femininity. Vica Versa. Even in gay relationships, one partner plays the other energy. Learning to understand this energy is valuable. Gary Chapman, 5 Love Languages. Insightful.

Learning to understand self is priceless

 

Problem 4.

Presence:

Remember the levels from Victim to Transcendence. Going up the levels requires letting go of the past levels. Being really mindful and IN ONESELF, present with oneself will lead to letting go of blame, maybe even letting go of level 2 or 3. 

I feel a real presence, mindfulness is real strength/compassion for both men and women. It’s not for the fake brave. Not for the go-getters that are so busy go-getting, they don’t have time to confront their own stuff. This surface-level presence, or surface-level mindfulness, can lead to some benefits, but those benefits are more in line with the lower level needs. Going really deep with your self, fully aware of yourself often leads to new awarenesses and insights. Some writers/psych people talk about shadow work or a dark side. This shadow work is really powerful with our own personal development and is then reflected in leaps and bounds in our relationships. 

See a lot of us live our lives chasing more and more material wealth believing that when we have enough material wealth, then we will be happy or suddenly be fulfilled. It’s a false life based on the Ego. But it sells. Just like the Mindfulness Teacher on Social Media telling everyone how mindful he is. 

To enter the Enlightened Relationship we need to move towards our own enlightenment while accommodating and supporting our partner in theirs. We must find ourselves in our own ways.

 

 

Now we have covered the problems, the process is pretty clear. Some points are refreshed here in a different light and some may be new. 

To be in an Enlightened Relationship starts with 3 requirements:
happy enlighted couple. What is an enlightened relationship

1. It takes 2 conscious beings, in other words, a couple that has both transcended or have been exposed to their true selves. Both are willing to be 100% accountable for themselves and their relationship. Not just 50% or sharing responsibility. Both take full accountability. David Hawkins sums it up brilliantly: “By taking the responsibility for the consequences of his own perceptions, the observer can transcend the role of victim to an understanding that ‘nothing out there has power over you.’ It isn’t life’s events, but how one reacts to them and the attitude that one has about them, that determines whether such events have a positive or negative effect on one’s life, whether they’re experienced as an opportunity or as stress.”

2. You have to know and work on yourself. For you to own yourself and speak your truth about whatever comes up for you in honesty and authenticity. This begins by working on your shadow, your fears, and your dark side. You need to accept the traits you don’t like, or that may not seem positive as all traits contribute to the whole. When we do this ourselves, the relationship changes in our eyes. As this happens it makes space for external changes. Change becomes more easily and natural.

3. Recognise that it’s not natural to be right so often. As babies and children we learn through making mistakes, not by avoiding them. Yet perhaps school or ego, doesn’t seem to appreciate this. As we get older perhaps we get conditioned to strive to be right, rather than happy!

We must let go of our attachment with being right. This goes further. You have to let go of your expectations as to how the relationship should look, how the other should be, or how you should feel and be ok with letting go. Letting go, surrendering, loosing are often portrayed as negative things we should avoid. Could you imagine playing a game of cards if you never lost? Now would you enjoy playing with someone who never or couldn’t handle losing? Losing is an essential part of life. Hence my comment about Ice Cream on Pooh and the motivational world. We have to be negative at times in order to be positive at times. We need bad to know what good is. Being wrong is vital and if you can focus on being wrong, “being ok with being wrong” then being ok with the unknown suddenly becomes a lot easier.

 

 

Would you like to assess where you are or develop more? 

Enlightened Relationship and Esteem Test

I created this myself through my coaching studies and work with clients. You need to be completely honest. Please EMAIL yourself a copy and one will be saved in the system. If you ask for a consultation session, this will help greatly.

 

For those interested in relationship coaching, couples coaching and counselling. Please feel free to reach out for a consultation, even if I’m not the one, I can point you in the right direction perhaps. My wife is studying with The Gottman Institute. They are one of the world leaders in understanding and developing relationships. Lin is already creating success stories and very capable.

So the best starting point is having a discussion with me over Skype or Phone and I’ll happily recommend or help you find something in your budget and time frame, to your particular style. Schedule a free chat with me here Free call to Adrian. 

 

Have a great day. Talk soon.

 

What is an Enlightened Relationship, by Adrian Cahill
 

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Are you curious?

What is mBraining. Is mBraining available in Shanghai. Is mBraining available in China?

Yes it is.

What if, God asks you after you die ….
“So how was heaven??”

It’s interesting how much of our world today is focused on everything else but the perfection of the present.

This highly interactive session will present some of the latest advancements in the ‘motivational’ world, and fuse them with ancient wisdom.

Is mBraining available in Shanghai, China. Yes it is and here it comes!

“Educating the mind without educating the heart is no education at all” – Aristotle

“The body is the instrument of the mind.. The mind is an instrument of the heart.” – Hazrat Inayat Khan

Is mBraining available in China“The way is not in the sky. The way is in the heart.” – Buddha

“The sage knows this in his gut, and is guided by his instinct and not by what his eyes want.” – Tao Te Ching

And we have all heard “Follow your gut”, “Don’t lose your head”, “Be true to your heart”.

Rummi, Osho, Eckhart Tolle, Deepak Chopra, are all well known spiritual teachers who in various ways tell us to listen to our hearts. But what does this mean? Is this just ‘mindfulness’ or spiritual wish wash?

Finally, western science is playing catch up!

A snippet of what is to come:

“Research in the new discipline of neurocardiology shows that the heart is a sensory organ and a sophisticated center for receiving and processing information. The nervous system within the heart (or “heart brain”) enables it to learn, remember, and make functional decisions independent of the brain’s cerebral cortex. Moreover, numerous experiments have demonstrated that the signals the heart continuously sends to the brain influence the function of higher brain centers involved in perception, cognition, and emotional processing.

In addition to the extensive neural communication network linking the heart with the brain and body, the heart also communicates information to the brain and throughout the body via electromagnetic field interactions. The heart generates the body’s most powerful and most extensive rhythmic electromagnetic field. Compared to the electromagnetic field produced by the brain, the electrical component of the heart’s field is about 60 times greater in amplitude, and permeates every cell in the body.” Rollin McCraty, Ph.D. Heartmaths

Science is also pointing to intelligence in our gut. It may not be brain cells, however the gut also has a quantity of Neurons which make up it’s own intelligence network. Which is really interesting as the gut was the first of the 3 brains discussed here to be created. Most of us can relate to the experience of having butterflies in our stomach, or to a visceral gut-wrenching feeling, and how often are we told not to ignore our “gut-instinct” or “gut-feeling” when making a decision.

Poor gut health has been implicated in neurological and neuropsychiatric disorders. There is now research that is linking depression as an inflammatory disorder mediated by poor gut health. In fact, multiple animal studies have shown that manipulating the gut microbiota in some way can produce behaviors related to anxiety and depression. However which is the side affect and which is the cause? Is it Psychology leading the body or the body leading psychology?

Further studies and a methodology known as mBraining, or mBIT (multiple Brain Integration Techniques) was developed by Grant Soosalu and Marvin Oka. Grant and Marvin have backgrounds in behavioural change technologies which include NLP, Modelling and traditional Psychology. (Hence the titles or first lines, What is mBraining. Is mBraining available in Shanghai.Is mBraining available in China?)

In their book mBraining they explain the prime functions of the 3 brains.

prime functions of the 3 brains. Is mBraining available in Shanghai ChinaThe Heart Brain:

  • Emoting
  • Relational Affect
  • Values

The Gut Brain:

  • Mobilization
  • Self-Preservation
  • Core Identity

The Head Brain:

  • Cognitive Perception
  • Thinking
  • Making Meaning

Please note, I’m not saying these prime functions are limited only to the particular brain they’re associated with. Obviously the head brain, with it’s approximately 100 billion neurons is far more complex then the heart or gut brain and is involved in all functions at some level.

In this upcoming session with Adrian Cahill we will look at where this all comes from, what we need to learn from it, and how we can best use it to gain more wholesomeness in our life. MBraining is extremely useful in decision making and living an integral life.

With an understanding of mBraining and Heartmaths (a tool/technology for measuring heart rate variability) it is possible to add new layers of depth and awareness to EVERYTHING we do. We are really looking forward to sharing more exercises, examples and demonstrating how you can implement this in your own life or practice.

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Is mBraining available in Shanghai China

mBraining and Heartmaths combined is even more powerful

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Actually, mBraining, and Heartmaths technology is accessible everywhere and you are more than welcome to add me and ask me for a quick chat about it or full session on how you can use this technology to change your life. It doesn’t work for everyone, and I’ll tell you straight away if I think it will or won’t work for you.

 

 

WHY COACHING IS ESSENTIAL FOR COUPLES
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Hi there, Adrian Cahill here. I have performed the role of Relationship Coach in Shanghai for many clients however I’m certified and accredited in the fields of Life Coaching, NLP & Psych-K, not relationship therapy or counselling. I’m experienced enough to have been married, divorced and remarried. Now a happy husband with my 2nd super child on way.

My wife is studying how to be a relationship coach for women in China (or Chinese abroad). Meanwhile, I continue coaching full time expats in China and in many other cities. There are very few full-time relationship coaches in China so I thought important to share this article.

relationship coach shanghaiThere was so much that I learned from my own experience, and then it was multiplied after a few years professionally coaching individuals which time and time again ask for help with their relationships. I learned a lot through having an unsuccessful marriage. Almost losing my second marriage. Becoming a dad. I was coached extensively by one of the most expensive coaches in China. Later I found my self-coaching so many smart single men and women. Coaching parents through the hardships and tough times that are natural when children come along. I’ve personally been to multiple relationship counsellors and my wife is studying from one of the best relationship courses on the planet so I think I know what I’m talking about but I know I could easily be wrong.

I can confidently say, I am still learning, still making mistakes, still surprising myself at what I was saying 12 months ago. You too will find a lot of value in this article but you should enjoy it with a cup of tea or coffee and 10 minutes of peace. Please enjoy.

In this article I’m going to share from a Life Coach or Relationship Coach perspective WHY COACHING IS ESSENTIAL FOR COUPLES IN THE 21st CENTURY.

In the past a successful relationship may have been living together and not killing each other. For some, a successful relationship may be like the ones seen in romantic movies. We spend many years being educated to be good employees yet how much time do we spend learning key skills essential to a growing relationship?

Successful relationships are full of learning curves. Preferably smooth but most times it’s jagged and often painful. The less we are ready to learn, the more painful and challenging it will be. If you are already well educated, some kind of expert or find yourself thinking “you don’t know what your talking about, my situation is different” than of course your situation will be incredibly hard to solve by yourself. Hence the saying “You can’t solve a problem with the same thinking that created it.” In 95% of conversations I have with smart, intelligent people, their intelligence is one of the biggest obstacles standing in our own way.

For years I stood in my own way. We need to learn how to unlearn.

relationship coach for women in China, relationship coach in chinaWe need to unlearn.

What do you think that means? If you just had a ‘aha’ moment you may have gotten it. If you understand it logically, then maybe you get it logically. And that’s certainly different from true knowledge.

After coaching hundreds of men and women I see a very common trend. It’s so common one may think it a human nature. We think we know best. We think we know the way. We forget that the way we believe is right is just the way it is right with that kind of thinking.

Each person I assisted with relationship challenges has shared with me their beliefs on what a relationship should be. They often describe what I call a “Traditional Relationship”. In this relationship they are living together in peace, but small-medium fights are a natural. Some people describe relationship which is more like a magical never ending honey moon. Occasionally I hear something much more. And that is what I call an “Enlightened Relationship”. However to get there we must first understand and embrace this article.

So each person shares with me their beliefs on hat the relationship should be. In the reality, it’s not being like that and they blame the other person or communication problems or generally something else. But in simple terms, we want this wonderful relationship, we are not getting it.

Often what we say and do is different to what we really want. Events are dictated by circumstances but we have the power to affect the outcome greatly if we control how we react to that circumstance. No matter what the circumstances or events are, how we react is HOW WE REACT. Here is where we can take control or responsibility.

People often express the desire to be great, gracious, peaceful, patient, loving, and caring partners. But in reality most people stray either a little or quite far from what they expressed as their ideal. And then instead of taking control or responsibility for their actions or reactions, it’s easier for our ego to point a finger at someone or something else. This is not a relationship problem. This is a self problem.

WHY COACHING IS ESSENTIAL FOR COUPLESIf you prefer to say it’s a relationship problem or a partner problem. If you want to blame the other person or just say, they are not mature, or whatever, that is ok for now. Either way, here is a more detailed breakdown of:

WHY RELATIONSHIP COACHING OR LIFE COACHING IS ESSENTIAL FOR COUPLES.

    1. Average couples act as if there are just 2 people in a relationship. As Bruce Lipton describes it brilliantly in ‘The Honey Moon Effect’ there may be 2 people but after a little time it becomes more like 4. Both partners have a conscious and unconscious mind which plays out vitally different roles. At first we show our partners what we want them to see. We put in extra effort. We show our nice side. Then in time, our more natural unconscious starts to raise it’s head.
    2. The unconscious mind stores long term memory. It remembers how your parents handled challenges. How your parents dealt with problems and the roles they played. Only it remembers events from an incomplete and distorted point of view. Young children firstly have a vastly different angle and awareness. And then the mind captures certain things but it’s impossible to capture everything. Some sticks such as the emotional reaction. The fear when people yelled perhaps. Later in life they marry a Greek or a Chinese person who speak loud and with little awareness their subconscious may start to feel fear.
    3. The unconscious mind is more likely to hold negative memories with emotional charges than positive memories. This is a survival mechanism yet it causes havoc in relationships. Both partners are basically loaded with negative memories which may or may not be deeply suppressed. These may lead to: fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of success, imposter syndrome, low self esteem, and a variety of anxieties or complexes.
    4. It takes time, discipline, and energy to reprogram the unconscious mind. Sometimes it can be sped up by having a good relationship coach, or a transformation coach. Going through some Psych-K or NLP Process. Various forms of meditation. But it still takes work. I help people change beliefs through simple conversation. Through Psych-K one can experience rapid shift in self esteem or release of trauma yet very few are qualified and experienced in this in China or working over Skype. (It can also be hard to explain to your partner that you getting some quiet time to meditate is so important.)
    5. Then let’s say all the above gets sorted out well, then you are really ready for ultimate success. We still need a few more capabilities such as: setting the foundations for each other to grow; how to be patient when something triggers you, how to help your partner support you better, how to listen to your partner without making suggestions or judgements, how to make your partner feel they are the most loved and cherished person on the planet, understanding each other’s ‘Love Languages’.

Relationship Coaches in ChinaI think it’s extremely clear why people are screaming out for Relationship Coaches in China.

And it’s not just China. I know Relationship Coaches in Japan and Korea are basically nonexistent. I’ve seen Dating Coaches for men, but never a Relationship Coach for men. In Australia we have organisations like Relationships Australia or Centre Care which offer relationship counselling. Occasionally there are well-experienced people in these organisations but I’ve coached countless people who have struggled even after months seeing these qualified counsellors.

Coaching support is the forward I feel. My clients are constantly developing themselves. They grow like palm trees on the beach in Hawaii. Every session they are raising their awareness and taking full responsibility for themselves. They are constantly transcending challenges. We may start coaching for a better relationship, and then they get promoted at work. We may coach for career, and then they get a better relationship or more intimate with a partner. The benefits of raising awareness, helping clients transcend challenges and then finding ways forward is what coaching is all about.

It’s not about feeling better, temporarily relieving stress, a magic pill, or worse yet, a prescription for pharmaceutical drugs. It’s about getting the results you really want.

Feel free to reach out. I am happy to listen to your situation. I may offer to coach you on the spot or provide some pathways forward for you. Don’t worry if you are not having the best success with relationships so far, in reality, most people aren’t. But you now have the choice to step up and take control. I often work with people for 3-18 months. It’s common for them to find themselves in Enlightened Relationships after a period of growth. Some clients have gotten engaged within 8 weeks Coaching.

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     28/11/19 Running an amazing online course, 5 people are about to complete and holding a 9 day NLP Coaching Practitioner Retreat with ICF Credentials. Anyone wanting Training, call me quick price is going up each month. Will hold a Master Practitioner and Master Mind in the following months. Enjoy this article I wrote for YOU! 

    I’m writing this article for anyone considering a Business Coach or an Executive Coach in China as there appears to be a lack of credible information here behind the Great Wall.

    For actual “Coaching/Mentoring” location can be irrelevant. But this article is focused for Executives in China. Hence Executive Coach in China is repeated. 

    This is article will highlight the differences and also what to look for. The signs or clues of competency.

    In respect to all my writings please note: I’m a professional Coach not a writer. I promise you will find and be able to understand everything despite errors. (‘Executive Coach in China’).

    Tip 1.  I recommend phone/Skype calling as it makes it incredibly easy for both parties. Really, it’s so simple. They can go to another place in the office environment or go for a walk in a park if the call is in work hours. Or what I recommend most is sitting in nature, finding a quiet place to sit, or going for a walk (if weather and pollution is manageable).

     

    The difference between a Business Coach and an Executive Coach in China?

    Let’s draw some distinctions in terms of; emphasis, focus, and training.

    “Business Coaching” is an alternative term or derived from the field of consulting. Some research shows: “Many Business Coaches refer to themselves as consultants, a broader business relationship than one which exclusively involves coaching.”

    I regularly work with an amazing woman. She is very business savvy, on the ball, a top notch business owner, business developer, business adviser, business consultant. She also calls herself from time to time a ‘Business Coach’.

    Would I want her coaching me on my business?

    “Hell yeah!”

    Business Coaches can be like sports coaches and I like how clear and simple it can be. Only, the industry is less regulated and perhaps doesn’t need regulation. Business Coaches typically meet clients through referrals and people judge them on their reputation. Hence they get hired based off their results and the confidence the client has that the coach can help them achieve their goal.

    Several good friends of mine have hired Business Coaches to help them grow their business. I’ll be happy to recommend and connect you to their coaches because my friends have already earned their money back and are now stepping up their businesses to new levels. I see this over and over again. People are great at what they do but have weaknesses. The Business Coaches have helped them with their weaknesses. Have also held them accountable for specific changes, hitting milestones, and staying on track.

    Overall I have heard mixed reviews therefore am happy to recommend one that has proven success with one of my friends or clients. The Busines Coach I mentioned, sold her last business for something like $6Million USD so I think she knows a bit about Business.

    What Coaches actually do, their experience and ability is not always clear. Especially with Coaches in Asia and the developing countries.

    In these and many places Coaches are often consultants using a label of ‘Executive Coach’ or ‘Business Coach’. So it’s really good to identify if they fit into this diagram. If not, what and how do they work?

    what does an executive coach do, what does a business coach do.

    As the diagram above illustrates, Executive Coaching focuses more on personal or individual success which can lead to business success.

    Business coaching is focused on business success not individual success. I feel this is why it so often fails. I believe it is best for your average participant to undergo a life or executive coaching program first to ensure individual success is imminent. Then the participant can afford an expert Business Coach highly suitable for their business or business goals. The Business Coach then doesn’t have to worry about the participant not following through or not being able to lead the team to growth.

    So there you have the Executive Coach in China working on individual success while the Business Coach works on Business Success presuming the participant already has the aptitude to make the engagement successful.

    You may also feel or see a slight overlap between Executive Coaching and Business Coaching. You may see an even bigger overlap between Executive Coaching and Life Coaching. After all Executive Coaching is more like ‘Advanced Life Skills’. Both Executive and Life Coaching can be used to help someone with teamwork, leadership, delegation, time management, interviews, public speaking, conflict resolution, and the list goes on. It is possible to view Executive Coaching as a ‘higher level’ of Life Coaching. (Higher as in more professional and generally more expensive).

    Note: Sadly Life Coaching is often associated with Tony Robbins or High School Guidance Counsellors. However, it is the core skill or most abstract type of coaching. Often there is a time when Executives and Business Owners may need to simply ease up on goals, and get more focused and in touch with their lives. 

     

    Who is an Executive?

    Textbook definition, Executive is anyone who makes decisions.

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    Personally, I’ve assisted a lot of executives with improving their team skills, leadership skills, presentation, confidence and communications which has lead them to prompt promotions and salary increases. My average client receives salary improvements of at least 20% in the first 6 months of coaching. An ROI on time alone of 260%. Full ROI’s averaging over 500% in the year of coaching. Most of my coaching engagements go from 3 to 18 months. My coaching can be taken as Life Coaching, or Executive Coaching. 50% of my clients own or are creating business but I certainly don’t consider or call myself a Business Coach. I feel strongly drawn towards working with business owners, C-Suite, successful business/career orientated people.  

    Executives value the completely confidential and judgement free space to discuss and dive deeper than your average great conversation. In the coaching space, executives can really stretch further into possibilities, stretching beyond what they originally thought was possible. You may find yourself highlighting and choosing to confront beliefs and perceptions that limit you and then choose alternatives. It’s truly taking responsibility and taking a hold on your perceptions and destiny. It often described as gaining clarity, seeing the bigger picture, but it’s all that and so much more.

     

    If hiring your own Coach

    An Executive Coach in China, a Business Coach or even a Life Coach:

    I’m certainly available to engage in a conversation and help advise yet please consider the following 3 tips to ensure you find a good fit:

    1. Check for work/life history on Linkedin.

      • If the Coach comes from your industry can appear great and it should feel more natural. Be aware, it can also be a hindrance as the Coach may buy into the same limitations that you see. The Coach may also share similar thinking styles and approaches. Someone that hasn’t been in your industry, will certainly see things with fresher eyes. Differences offer opportunities for new insights and depth.
      • Rather than time your industry, a Coach that has gotten results with people in your industry or people wanting to achieve similar goals to you.
      • If they are a full time coach or a successful coach, than their current Linkedin occupation should reflect this.
      • If you see previous experience in Marketing or Sales, expect that their marketing or sales skills may be higher than their ability to actually perform coaching roles.

     

    2. Check for references and testimonials that lead to real people. It is sadly becoming common practice online for people to write their own endorsements and sign it off as ‘Jay Blogs, MD’ or ‘Annette, IBM’. I know for a fact IBM has a strong Internal Coaching program and if Annette was really impressed why would she not leave her full name. Again Linkedin is a great way to check for real references and testimonies. Also be aware of programs valued at thousands of dollars, are often sold at huge discounts in exchange for a video reference. This is common practice for $10,000 plus programs.

     

    best executive coach in china best business coach in china3. Check for ICF (International Coaching Federation) Accreditation for any Executive/Life/Personal Development/Performance coaches. It’s where the proficient full time coaches are. For Business Coaches check for Business training and history like a MBA, a business Diploma or AICD (Australian Institute of Company Directors).

     

     

    Feel free to email in with your questions or schedule a time to chat. Happy to answer, recommend other coaches, or even help you on the spot from my own experience.

    Ok. This article should make it much easier for anyone looking to hire a coach, interested in working with a Business/Executive Coach in China.

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    Flexible and easy to talk to.

    Click here to schedule your free session.
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    As an x-soldier serving on various deployments in places like Afghanistan and running my first team in ‘hot’ live-action filled places, most people would say I might know a thing or two about Leadership. This includes Leadership Development in China where I have lived and continue to funnel efforts into social enterprise and development. I find leadership development in China is an exciting field to be in. I personally enjoy a ‘piece of the action’ nowadays through being a coach for Expats and small business owners behind the great wall of China. 

    People are often surprised when they hear about my Army background. They say things like, but you’re so calm. I may be calm. But I’ve had my fair share of unexpected demons along with a ride of ups and downs. People often say they don’t have the discipline to be in the armed forces and I respect that. Often I find myself talking with high-quality men and women from a variety of backgrounds and find we have a lot in common. But yes, soldiers generally do have a lot of discipline.

    For years I thought the best characteristic for being an effective soldier was discipline. It is vital yet my struggles lead me to deep research and endless studies with some surprising findings.

    I would like to share one particular study with you as this links back to the Article about Yin and Yang which is actually a comparison between the Eastern or Taoist Yin Yang and the Western Autonomic Nervous System (ANS). This will all make sense in less than 5 minutes.

    Leadership Development in China is missing the point.

    Discipline is vital, but so is self-leadership, self-efficacy, self-motivation. In fact, there is a pile of vital keys which may make leadership development or leadership coaching a hot topic but they are missing the point.  Leadership development in China and beyond will soon be realising some new truths and slowly, very slowly it’s coming out. 

    A recent study compared Navy SEALs to “non-elite” conventional military groups (elite vs. non-elite). The SEALs had higher heart rate dipping, which means that during sleep, when the parasympathetic system takes over to induce recovery, their heart rates dropped by an average of 29%, whereas the non-elites dropped by only 21%.

    The SEALs also had lower baseline levels of the stress hormone cortisol during the day while in a non-stressed environment, despite an equal level of cortisol release during a stressful survival course. Cortisol is released by the ANS.

    battlefields-of-afghanistan-leadership development in China-leadership-coachingThat’s a crucial point. The elite performers had stronger parasympathetic tone during non-stressful living conditions. Meaning they had lower heart rates, and lower stress hormones when they were in safer conditions. The ability to relax well is an asset. If they were unable to relax, their body would not recover and they would suffer more long-term issues arising from excess stress.  The ability to quickly switch from sympathetic to parasympathetic is something that can be learned and developed.

    In another study comparing Australian Special Forces soldiers to conventional troops during an intense training course, the Special Forces soldiers were found to have higher levels of sympathetic-driven nor-epinephrine during the stressful scenarios. When the training was over, the nor-epinephrine levels of the Special Forces soldiers returned to pre-training baseline, whereas the non-elite soldiers had significantly depressed levels. Their sympathetic system was exhausted. These elite soldiers, when stressed had even higher levels of stress-related chemicals to help them fight, and again, they were able to drop down into relax mode better than non-elite.

    The vital key missing from a lot of leadership development coaches, speakers or leadership development experts in China and greater Asia, the key is this awareness and skill in influencing the ANS. Being able to fully be in the sympathetic system when required. Being able to access well. And then switching to the parasympathetic system and really recovering.

    The sympathetic system and parasympathetic system are in my opinion the real Yin Yang often spoken about in the East and in traditional Chinese Medicine. Elite soldiers, elite leaders are often unaware of this terminology, but they thoroughly understand the concept of ‘Work hard, rest hard’. By being able to fully swing high on each end of the Autonomic Nervous System we are able to gain a broader reach with our bodies system, emotional flexibility, over all capabilities and both long and short term success.

    This skill of switching consciously, (by choice) can be trained and developed. Making it happen faster and further is something I experienced first hand as a soldier preparing for Afghanistan. It’s something I enjoyed teaching and challenging my team to do better in.

    Currently, I’m working with a few executive clients in the Asian cities. We work pre-dominantly through simple coaching conversations. In these conversations we can role play, create visualizations, or use more complicated technology like the HeartMaths systems (a device for monitoring Heart Rate Variability (HRV).

    If I were to ‘sell you’ Leaderships Coaching’ or ‘Leadership Development Coaching’ I might empathizes discipline, or time management but these are smaller details or smaller skills which are a side effect of an effect coming from a ‘better place’ emotionally/calmly/physically. Hence you can focus (or sell) development products all day. And this can be good business. Like, keep selling motivation tapes. Go faster, go harder. To get real results fast and easily it’s about the maximizing the emotional and behavioral flexibility of the individual. This is greatly assisted by having them control there own Autonomic Nervous System, like the aforementioned ‘Elite Soldier studies’. When soldiers (or executives) are in the right mode, they are more likely to naturally display the calmer, more preciese behavior and flexibility which leads to far better resluts. Naturally developing, naturally growing, naturally becoming more and more elite through mastering ones ability to become centered. 

    Leadership Development in China and beyond…

    If you would like a short session on how to train your body to automatically switch between systems more efficiently or you think we should engage in a conversation, please just reach out. There are various 3-minute power meditations, HRV training, or Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) exercises I would love to recommend. Particularly for veterans. For any veterans experiencing PTSD or anxiety, I am happy to give extra free time. Although my expertise is more along Leadership Development in China, I am happy to help out fellow veterans when I can.

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    Hi all. I just completed PSYCH-K training in Australia. I will be using PSYCH-K in Australia and the Asian Cities I work in. I plan to use it as a complimentary service, tool or methodology offered/used for my clients in turning obstacles into milestones. Here I’ll cover what it is, how I found it, and a few video’s from it’s creators. 

    Psych-K free your mindI first came into PSYCH-K after some 5 years after I started NLP & Coaching. So already pretty clued up, skilled and working with my own clients before I found this. Then it happened. I had my first PSYCH-K and WOW.

    The session I had was over Skype with Dr Preet Khatiri. That’s right. Over Skype. And, in that one Skype session, I experienced such a large shift that I lost my voice for maybe 4 or 5 hours.

    Since then I’ve met a few practitioners of PSYCH-K in Australia and yet to meet any outside. I’m sure they are there though and like any modality, there is low and high quality amongst practitioners. Ensure you look for certification and testimonials.

    As mentioned I will be using PSYCH-K in Australia, Asia and of course virtually. 

    Ok so what is PSYCH-K

    Bruce Lipton Free Your Mind

    PSYCH-K® is the user-friendly way to change the software of your mind. This profoundly effective, verifiable, repeatable and simple process helps us identify and change our programming. Terminology varies but basically, every cell is affected by its perception. “Realty” depends on our perception. So it’s actually our perception of reality that shapes us.

    The Biology of Belief, Bruce Lipton

    Bruce Lipton is largely responsible for the growth and popularity of PSYCH-K.

    PSYCH-K in Australia The Biology of BeliefAs a Cell Biologist, Bruce Lipton made a phenomenal discovery. He was teaching and lecturing that genes had the codes/master plan to grow and act accordingly. This was/is common accepted western science. Yet through his research Bruce Lipton discovered that cells movements and growth are heavily affected or even directed, by the environment they are in. The important thing is that it wasn’t actually the environment. It was the perception of the environment. When cells perceived food or danger, they moved accordingly. Therefore cells acted according to the perceived environment rather than the real environment. And this continues through to full grown adults. We respond to the world we perceive. Add to that, your perception is based on your beliefs. Hence:

    “Your beliefs control your psychological and biological reality” Bruce Lipton Ph.D. Author The Biology of Belief”

    If you believe that it’s cold outside you may take a jumper. It doesn’t matter if it cold or not. If you believe that it is cold, you perceive it as cold.

    If you get outside and it’s 15 degrees and if you believe or perceive that as cold, you will react however you react. If you get outside and it’s 30 degrees, then your belief and perception may quickly change. Yet to some people 15 degrees may warm. And sometimes, I see people wearing a jumper even when I feel it’s quite warm.

    I believe almost everyone in this world is loving and caring. I believe strangers are just friends I haven’t met yet. These beliefs support me in my day to day life.

    Your beliefs are the foundation of your personality. They ultimately shape you as worthy or worthless, powerful or powerless, competent or incompetent, trusting or suspicious, belonging or outcast, self-reliant or dependent, flexible or judgmental, fairly treated or victimized, loved or hated. Your beliefs have far reaching consequences both positive and negative, in your life. Beliefs affect your mood, relationships, job performance, self-esteem, physical and mental health, even your religious and spiritual outlook.

    PSYCH-K in AustraliaAccording to traditional psychology, we inherit most of our beliefs from the people and the environment that surrounds us before the age of 7.

    When I was 7, I was taught don’t talk to strangers. Imagine being 30, trying to network but still having this belief.

    I also remember seeing people regularly fighting or arguing over money. Who knows what beliefs I had lodged in my poor 7-year-old brain.

    As an adult, I tried to change these beliefs. Sometimes I bought programs, books, cd sets, dvd’s and seminar tickets.

    A lot of this doesn’t work for 2 main reasons:

    1. They often work on a conscious level. (Common knowledge now that you need to work the subconscious level)
    2. You often do the reading/listening/actions by yourself. (Trying to push a car uphill)

    To create real change PSYCH-K or preferably, working with a coach that understands PSYCH-K and NLP it is so much easier. PSYCH-K by itself is great and from my experience here are the 3 main reasons.

    1. Solid foundations for identifying which belief can cause problems.
    2. PSYCH-K has researched and supplied a collection of beliefs to check and work on. They have done groundwork.
    3. We can discuss and choose a way to handle or change that to a supporting belief.

     

     

    PSYCH-K is a user-friendly way to change the software of your mind and the print out of your life!

    Popularly characterized as a kind of spiritual process with psychological benefits or the “short-cut” to personal change, PSYCH-K is a quick, direct and lasting way to transform stress or trauma and establish or hardwire powerful self-supporting beliefs at the subconscious level of mind where nearly all-human behavior exists.

    Its overall purpose is to accelerate personal and professional growth. Individual and global consciousness. It can target specific beliefs or can focus on aligning your belief system with the collective belief’s of the world’s greatest spiritual and intellectual traditions. It makes wisdom a self-fulfilling prophecy.

    Rob Williams Personal History and PSYCH-K® Philosophy

    PSYCH-K® High Speed Mindset Change

    I regularly do Coaching, NLP, PSYCH-K in Shanghai China and PSYCH-K in Australia, however, I love to travel. Also, it is amazing what we can do over the phone in a simple conversation.

    PSYCH-K in Australia

    adrian-qr-codeIf this isn’t right for you RIGHT NOW, feel free to follow, or schedule a time to just chat and get more information or ask your questions. PSYCH-K in Australia.

     

    Thank you dearly.
    Adrian Cahill

    28/11/19 Running an amazing online course, 5 people are about to complete and holding a 9 day NLP Coaching Practitioner Retreat with ICF Credentials. Anyone wanting Training, call me quick price is going up each month. Will hold a Master Practitioner and Master Mind in the following months. Enjoy this article I wrote for YOU! 

    Hi all. I just completed PSYCH-K in China and Hong Kong as a complimentary service, tool or methodology offered/used in helping my clients solve challenges, hit new highs, achieve balance, fulfillment and more. (I can’t wait to share PSYCH-K in Shanghai)

    PSYCH-KI first came into PSYCH-K after some 5 years after I started NLP & Coaching. So already pretty clued up, skilled and working with my own clients before I found this. Then it happened. I had my first PSYCH-K and WOW.

    The session I had was over Skype with Dr Preet Khatiri. That’s right. Over Skype. And, in that one Skype session, I experienced such a large shift that I lost my voice for maybe 4 or 5 hours.

    Since then I’ve met a few practitioners of PSYCH-K and like any modality, there is low and high quality amongst practitioners. Like always look for certification (it’s not just a piece of paper, it means their committed to pay for training) and testimonials (they have actually have gotten results).

    As mentioned I use PSYCH-K in China, Hong Kong, and Australia. I may use PSYCH-K in Bali, Tokyo & Malaysia when I travel to those places next. I’m not going to use it instead of other methodologies I have, it’s a wonderful addition and tool I am looking forward to offering to others.

    Ok so what is Psych-K

    Bruce Lipton Free Your Mind

    PSYCH-K® is the user-friendly way to change the software of your mind. This profoundly effective, verifiable, repeatable and simple process helps us identify and change our programming. Terminology varies but basically, every cell is affected by it’s perception. “Realty” depends on our perception. So it’s actually our perception of reality that shapes us.

    The Biology of Belief, Bruce Lipton

    Bruce Lipton is largely responsible for the growth and popularity of PSYCH-K.

    The Biology of BeliefAs a Cell Biologist, Bruce Lipton made a phenomenal discovery. He was teaching and lecturing that genes had the codes/master plan to grow and act accordingly. This was/is common accepted western science. Yet through his research Bruce Lipton discovered that cells movements and growth are heavily affected or even directed, by the environment they are in. The important thing is that it wasn’t actually the environment. It was the perception of the environment. When cells perceived food or danger, they moved accordingly. Therefore cells acted according to the perceived environment rather than the real environment. And this continues through to full grown adults. We respond to the world we perceive. Add to that, your perception is based on your beliefs. Hence:

    “Your beliefs control your psychological and biological reality” Bruce Lipton Ph.D. Author The Biology of Belief”

    If you believe that it’s cold outside you may take a jumper. It doesn’t matter if it cold or not. If you believe that it is cold, you perceive it as cold.

    If you get outside and it’s 15 degrees and if you believe or perceive that as cold, you will react however you react. If you get outside and it’s 30 degrees, then your belief and perception may quickly change. Yet to some people 15 degrees may warm. And sometimes, I see people wearing a jumper even when I feel it’s quite warm.

    I believe almost everyone in this world is loving and caring. I believe strangers are just friends I haven’t met yet. These beliefs support me in my day to day life.

    Your beliefs are the foundation of your personality. They ultimately shape you as worthy or worthless, powerful or powerless, competent or incompetent, trusting or suspicious, belonging or outcast, self-reliant or dependent, flexible or judgmental, fairly treated or victimized, loved or hated. Your beliefs have far reaching consequences both positive and negative, in your life. Beliefs affect your mood, relationships, job performance, self-esteem, physical and mental health, even your religious and spiritual outlook.

    PSYCH-K free your mindAccording to traditional psychology, we inherit most of our beliefs from the people and the environment that surrounds us before the age of 7.

    When I was 7, I was taught don’t talk to strangers. Imagine being 30, trying to network but still having this belief.

    I also remember seeing people regularly fighting or arguing over money. Who knows what beliefs I had lodged in my poor 7-year-old brain.

    As an adult, I tried to change these beliefs. Sometimes I bought programs, books, cd sets, dvd’s and seminar tickets.

    A lot of this doesn’t work for 2 main reasons:

    1. They often work on a conscious level. (Common knowledge now that you need to work the subconscious level)
    2. You often do the reading/listening/actions by yourself. (Trying to push a car uphill)

    To create real change PSYCH-K or preferably, working with a coach that understands PSYCH-K and NLP it is so much easier. PSYCH-K by itself is great and from my experience here are the 3 main reasons.

    1. Solid foundations for identifying which belief can cause problems.
    2. PSYCH-K has researched and supplied a collection of beliefs to check and work on. They have done ground work.
    3. We can discuss and choose a way to handle or change that to a supporting belief.

     

     

    PSYCH-K is a user-friendly way to change the software of your mind and the print out of your life!

    Popularly characterized as a kind of spiritual process with psychological benefits or the “short-cut” to personal change, PSYCH-K is a quick, direct and lasting way to transform stress or trauma and establish or hardwire powerful self-supporting beliefs at the subconscious level of mind where nearly all-human behavior exists.

    Its overall purpose is to accelerate personal and professional growth. Individual and global consciousness. It can target specific beliefs or can focus on aligning your belief system with the collective belief’s of the world’s greatest spiritual and intellectual traditions. It makes wisdom a self-fulfilling prophecy.

    Rob Williams Personal History and PSYCH-K® Philosophy

    PSYCH-K® High Speed Mindset Change

    I regularly do Coaching, NLP, PSYCH-K in Shanghai China, however, I love to travel. Also, it is amazing what we can do over the phone in a simple conversation.

    book-consultation-today

    adrian-qr-codeIf this isn’t right for you RIGHT NOW, feel free to follow on Facebook or Linkedin, or schedule a time to just chat and get more information or ask your questions.

    Thank you dearly.
    Adrian Cahill

    Three simple steps to raise awareness of money beliefs or blockages:

    Step 1: Raise Awareness

    Self AwarenessOpen a notepad or word document. Complete these twelve sentences about money, wealth and riches to uncover the key elements of your current unconscious programming. Reading this isn’t enough. You will need to write out your answers for full effect.

    1. People with money are _
    2. Money makes people _
    3. I’d have more money if _
    4. My parents always thought money would _
    5. Money causes _
    6. I’m afraid that if I had more money I would
    7. Money is _
    8. In order to have more money, I would need to _
    9. I think money _
    10. If I were really rich, I would _
    11. My biggest fear about money is _
    12. Money is _

    NLP PSYCH-K wealth money mind set Shanghai China Townsville

    Step 2: Decide

    Do you want to keep going on this path your going now? What will happen if you keep going down this path and what will happen to those around you, those you care about if you continue getting the same results over and over again?

    Is it time to change? Is it time to grow?

    Do you want to use the Law of Attraction, Manifestation techniques, PSYCH-K, NLP, Coaching, Meditation techniques to change your mindset to attract and create wealth?

      Wealth Belief Checklist Notes

      NLP can be used to clear your wealth blockages

      NLP can be used to clear your wealth blockages.

      A common problem is most practitioners have their own blockages. That is why this exercise, and the PSYCH-K Wealth Beliefs checklist is very useful for identifying what needs to be changed.

      Step 3: Take action, Contact me

      take-actionI’m Adrian Cahill, I have spent some 4 years in Shanghai China where with a few co-creators we created Motivate Shanghai. I’m actually from Australia and regularly spend time here, I help people all over the world via Skype and remote coaching. It might sound strange, but it’s actually much easier to create change over the phone then sitting face to face.

      We don’t have to worry about body language and we are able to create rapid shifts and remove blockages holding you back with ease. It’s time for you to shift your mindset to wealth. I use NLP to create wealth, PSYCH-K to remove roadblocks to wealth, and Coaching to ensure you gain and maintain traction. It’s the ultimate wealth mindset solution.

      Go to the Free Resources page where you can find free resources showing you specifically how to measure you net wealth, cashflow and also, assess your current Wealth Mindest!

      I wrote this up in 2014 and still talk about it regularly. It is one of the most amazing and comprehensive models I’ve ever come across and it I hope it will blow your mind as much as it has mine. I can see on slide share that it has been viewed over 1000 times, but downloaded over 100 times. People don’t just look at this, they keep it and often refer back to it. There are hundreds of ways to use the model.

      It’s very valuable to anyone interested in personal or organisational development.

      Be aware, you are where you are. Don’t try to push yourself or pretend to be somewhere you are not. Simply be aware of the level you are playing at, perhaps the level of the people and organisations around. From that awareness, you can make conscious decision to play at your regular, lower or higher value level.

       

      Spiral Dynamics by Adrian Cahill

       

       

      Spiral Dynamics with Adrian Cahill

       

      Spiral Dynamics by Adrian Cahill

       

       

       

      2020 write up, for those concerned about where the world is headed next:

      We live in turbulent times, in which many questions and problems are facing us.

      At the same time the interdependence of living things rapidly increase.

      We experience great climatic changes, political changes, power changes, in an ever interdependent, interconnected world.

      I can work as a coach, but as I get more into it, there are more and more systems, processes, possibilities. As I work with staff the complexities expand exponentially, and THIS IS THE NATURE of systems.

      My Boy draws a picture, his big sister draws a picture, I draw a picture, each getting more complex.

      An indigenous person climbs a tree and gets a coconut. Meanwhile perhaps a family drives along the beach collecting as many coconuts as they can which they sell in a market. Someone from the big smoke buys the land and farms coconuts. Someone from a supermarket chain or distribution network sell these coconuts on the other side of the globe.

      The free market economy often means ‘freedom to operate’. Any of you can go and get coconuts or fruit from a tree. Many might call it smart to get into collectives and harvest together. But Indigenous in Australia thought it was more important to live in balance. So many of the indigenous valued and did their best to live in balance with the land. While the collectives sometimes hired them, sometimes took possession of the land, moved the ‘less developed’ off their land. Aboriginals, Indians, Palestinians. Same Same but different. The system repeats getting more and more complex.

      Collectives/Colonies/Companies grow rapidly and on an unprecedented scale. The lands are abundant in some natural resource, on a higher level of complexity, the people themselves become the resource, on a higher level again, the towns, states, countries are resources. Just consider colonization.

      Just as few kids can become a gang, neighbours can become tribes, tribes can become states. Gang, Tribe, State, entities. Each bigger and more complex again.

      As entities they may explicitly or implicitly have their own vision, identity, values, goals. As the bigger entity expands, it dissipates smaller entities. Just like microscopic cells, eating or being eaten. Supermarket chains buying out, or putting competitors out of business. It’s their destiny!

      Public and private companies have their vision, and results are considered of paramount importance for their Board, Managers, and Shareholders. Their workers are a cost! Parts of this leads to a focus on short term profits, part focus on long term profit, but workers are a cost, perhaps quality is a cost. It becomes cheaper to plant coconut trees in rows and use fertilizer. It takes years or generations to notice the decline in quality and the source of increasing waistbands. As the Board does it role pursuing the vision and protecting shareholders, conflict arise, our visions and values are at risk from being sued, we have to care about the end of day customer, but it means losing millions, ‘I know, lets appear like we care’. Make a policy, put on a show. On an even ‘bigger picture’ this values conflict has negative effects on the environment and society, they can cause a systemic problems across the human race. Confusion, collective hate, suppression of the masses, perhaps population control. Ultimately bigger picture, collapse of our planet’s natural resources.

       

      This same behaviour has happened infinite times. Slave workers were freed from their shackles, and received the luxury of hourly pay and the freedom to choose to work (or starve). The most successful earned the luxury of owning some land or resources, yet they were enslaved to the land they bought. The more successful you were, the more land resources you had, the more you had to manage. There was always some form of rule. Rulling class. Government, authorities, regulations, or back in the day nobles, tax collectors and kings.

      NLP, Neuro Linguistic Programming is fundamentally Patterns.  We see the STRUCTURE where most people see the content, you can see both.

      For those with more interest into patterns and more specifically the patterns in Value and Value Systems, I suggest a couple of weeks learning about Spiral Dynamics. Spiral dynamics looks at how the value system in an individual, or an organisation grows as it matures and evolves. You may find your own level of development on the spiral. Be true to where you are at and who you are. Aim forward to evolve into the higher level, note that if you undergo stress, most people will fall back to the old ways, but the way to success, the way to fulfillment, the way to enlightenment, is to fall forward. Step into the underknown and consider embracing your next level.

      You may be reading this because you stumbled upon my page or perhaps your fascinated with East to West methodologies. Or perhaps some other reason but, either way it boils down to this:

      Yin and Yang is a simple concept. One of the biggest killers of people in this world I strongly suspect, and this has probably been backed up and written about by scientist, is DIS-Ease. Dis-Ease comes from living out of balance. In the West, too much unhealthy stress. In the East, too much unhealthy Yang.

      I’ll cover here a bit more ‘factual’ or western explanation of mindfulness, balance, stress, Yin/Yang and demystifying East to West philosophy your in the right place. This article is the western science applied to Yin Yang and how it affects the Autonomic Nervous System (ANS) which you will learn about in the next minutes. You will also have some action steps to improve your own balance and awareness.


       

      two_wolves_sketch_by_caroline_leideritz

      A native American father tells his son

      There are 2 wolves battling in my heart.

      One is violent and dangerous.

      The other is full of warmth and compassion.”

      The son ask “Which wolf will win

      The answer “The one I feed

       

       

      I just read this story for the second time. Only this time from a different book. This story is a theme for life and expressed in many different ways which I’ll share for you.

      The book I just reread this in was by Daniel Goleman and the Dali Lama, A Force for Good. Highly reccommended for building compassion and depth of understanding.

      It was through Daniel Goleman  that I first started ‘formally learning’ about Emotional Intelligence. After reading just one book I got hooked and ever since have been focused on developing Emotional Intelligence (and Social Intelligence) in my life and for others.

      WARNING: You may get hooked too!

       

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      So looking at the wolves, you may wonder, you may ponder different meanings. And that is the magic of metaphors. You take your own meaning out of it. Since you take out your own meaning, it’s more powerful then simply being told the reason or answer.

       

      The more you think about how you have feel towards the story or metaphor, the more internal or self focused you may become. Through focus comes awareness. So take a moment to really feel the picture above.

       

      I’ve been fortunate to study with some of the best thought leaders known. By chance, I read this metaphor by Daniel Goleman and the Dali Lama and a week later I was working through a Emotional Intelligence in Leadership course by Dr. Richard Boyatzis. Last year I also heard Dr Bruce Lipton share similar work. Dr Boyatzis and Dr Lipton shared different stories but from a scientific, highly logical or masculine angle. So what we have is a pile of experts explaining something in various different language patterns and also emphasizing how important this is to individuals and the collective whole.

       

      In Taoism, or The East: They say (in very brief words) Yin Yang represents the dualistic nature of life. Yin Yang is also represented in our body/souls. Yin Yang are opposites. In the above picture one is evil one is good which is completely wrong in Taoism however it’s the translation. It may help you understand, one is compassion, peaceful, kind. While the other is non-compassion, anger, superiority.  I say it’s wrong in Taoism as the label of ‘evil’ in western language means something to be avoided and really bad. Sometimes it’s natural and perfectly good to feel anger. Don’t avoid either side, as all sides and emotions make up the whole. Life should be whole rather than dualistic.

       

      How does Taoism or Yin Yang come across in Western Science: It’s comes out through the Autonomic Nervous System. Western Science hasn’t caught up to the traditional Eastern ways yet so it’s largely based on what can be seen. If it can’t be seen, it’s hard for Western Science. Hence doctors today no longer use sense of smell and systemization generally takes precedence over intuition.

      Under that Western Science approach, the two wolves form the Autonomic Nervous System (ANS) which in short, regulates which wolf body’s unconscious processes get the most energy. The two wolves become the Sympathetic Nervous System (SNS) and the Para-sympathetic Nervous System (PNS).

      ANS

      SNS             PNS

       

      System 1.
      The Sympathetic Nervous System (SNS).

      It’s primary process is to stimulate the body’s fight-or-flight response. When we undergo stress or anger, this sympathetic nervous system fires up accelerating the heart rate, and constricting blood vessels which increases blood pressure along with a couple of other changes to body. You see with more blood racing out to our arms and legs we are able to run faster or fight more efficiently.

      As a consequence, we have less blood in our brain. Our ability to think logically goes down. When fighting with someone or running from an animal you don’t need logic. Run! Fight!

      In fact when fighting an instinct takes over not logic.

      Another example is when you’re running late, and can’t find your keys. You start stressing, look frantically and then relies there in your back pocket.

      Or your are stressed but instead of relaxing deeply, you are submerged in social media or someone else’s drama.

       

      System 2.
      The Para-sympathetic Nervous System.

      The parasympathetic system kicks in through mindfulness, faith, hope, compassion, seeing kids laugh, patting a dog, experiencing joy with friends, having intimate moments with a lover.

      When we do these things the parasympathetic system lowers the heart rate, lowers blood pressure, allows more blood to flow into the head. This results further in boosting the immune system. It not only works again but the body goes into recovery mode, rejuvenating, rebuilding the body.

      It’s with this system that you’re at your cognitive best. And on every measure done, you’re in a better state.

      We are human beings that are meant to be relaxed and able to spring into action when required. Not full action animals that just relax at night.

      Sympathetic and Parasympathetic divisions typically function in opposition to each other. It’s rare they are activated together, however they do with some specific emotions such as Bliss.

      This natural opposition is better understood as complementary in nature rather than antagonistic. Hence previously mentioning good and evil as being not so resourceful. They compliment each other and are both necessary in life. Yin and Yang is a break down of the whole. You can’t remove either one. Too much of either side can bring imbalance or be the result of imbalance creating a variety of Dis-Ease, or lack of purpose/love/fulfilment.

       

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      ACTION: You need to do is to simply be aware of what nervous system mode you are in. The more you are aware the more you can influence. So I would like to ask you to consciously ask yourself through out the day, where am I? Am I in the stressed sympathetic or relaxed para-sympathetic mode. Alternatively, keep more awareness on your heart or your breath. Heart Rate Variability or Breath Cycle are indicators of how your ANS is functioning.

      ASK YOURSELF: When have I been using each system? What could happen if I used the other mode?

      IF YOU FIND YOURSELF: Reacting in situations, this is typically your SNS taking over often leading to an Amygdala Hijack. Medical jargon for the blood is not flowing to the parts of your brain required to communicate, self regulate and calm down. In fact, many people today really struggle with getting out of the SNS, Amygdala Hijacks and are reactivating with their following actions. This is simply due to the way our societies and technologies are built with a capitalistic, short term, self-gratifying nature. Technology companies that can control the ANS in it’s users are set to dominate any rivals that require delayed gratification. Human nature is to take the easiest path and without education, people will take the shorter, easier, route.

      In our modern lives we really need to ensure we have our parasympathetic systems kicking in as much as we can. The stress will come in due course, that’s for sure. But don’t put off getting back into balance. If you’re going to be out of balance, consider being out of balance with laughter and compassion so you can bounce back, rather than anger and stress.

      Have a great day, thanks for reading and sharing this with your friends. Much love and warmth.

       

       

      Adrian Cahill

       

      Update. 2017.

      Have had amazing success reducing stress in clients through using Heartmaths and mBraining. Here is a diagram from Heartmaths which illustrates what happens when you become to out of balance with too much Sympathetic Nervous System. This is serious stuff. If your suffering like this, simply schedule a session with me. We can help in less than 50 minutes.

      https://www.calendly.com/adriancahill/virtualcoffeeamisufferingburnoutsyndrome

      Metaphoric Positive Reframe,

      A technique for the entrepreneurs, positive leaders or anyone interested in positive psychology.

       

      Have you ever wondered what other people or perhaps society thinks about your strengths? For about $15USD you can complete your own Gullups Strength Finder assessment and be given a breakdown of each of your 5 key strengths.

      Recently I reflected on my Strength Finder results. My no.1 strength was Positivity. It made me wonder how can I share it in a much better way than simply a motivational quote by someone famous, put over someone else’s photograph 🙂

      From that, I figured that if I could share with you one of the most powerful techniques or strategies, perhaps you can gain a lot more positivity naturally in your own life. However this technique is not limited to simply positivity. It can also assist with cleansing, mindfulness, relaxing, even productivity.

      The technique that you are about to learn I’ve called the “Metaphoric Positive Reframe” or MPR.

      Anyone can learn to do a MPR and the real big bonus is that this is something that is easily turned into a habit.

      Let’s get into it:I remember my first real paid job. I was 14yrs old and the job was on a farm. It was physically really hard work. In fact my boss actually paid me adult wages because it was so tough. And there I was starting my weekend or school holiday on the farm from 6.30am.

      The work was as hard as manual labour can get. Naturally I wanted to give up. I hated the heat, the sun, the sweat rolling into my eyes. I couldn’t wait till sunset, but it’s only the early hours in of the day.

      In this time I went through numerous psychological processes as one would naturally do. I tried singing to myself. Focusing on what I could buy. Calculating how much money I already earned or would earn. Thinking about other things. None of it really worked for more than a few minutes. But this work went on throughout the whole summer.

      In time I created a strategy which was amazing simple and effective. I started to look at things differently. This is what people consider hard work. I’m doing it. I’m succeeding. I can do it. As much as I didn’t like it, the work became symbolic.

      This work was making me tougher. This work was helping me become a ‘hard worker’. The farm itself became part of me. As I worked on the farm I was working on my self. I was employed, earning and saving, just as the farm was employing, earning and saving. The work became less about a job and it became part of my development as a young man.

      Every time I went to work, I said things to myself like, “I’m building my character. I’m building my empire”. Sometimes I would even repeat this like a mantra.

      “I’m building my character. I’m building my empire”.

      “I’m building my character. I’m building my empire”.

      “I’m building my character. I’m building my empire”.

       

      Another example

      A lot of great things come out of South Korea. Gangnam Style or Kimchi may come to mind for you. However personally for me it would be memories of a week in the area of Noonsan learning Maum Meditation. Here they were very clued on to the MPR. They just didn’t call it that.

      Students reaching higher levels in their practice would be ‘blessed’ with the option of doing chores like serving food or doing the dishes (for the entire meditation centre). Each of these tasks were given deeper meaning. Washing plates, could be experienced as washing away bad habits. Scraping leftover food into compost bins could be experienced as feeding the garden. Students learned to reframe the task and actually enjoy it. It goes to show that:

      • You can do a MPR on any task.
      • You can turn your whole life into a collection of positive rituals and habits with the MPR method.

      Examples of specific MPR’s:

      Having a shower, bathing or washing dishes:

      Washing away the stress, cleansing, purifying.

      Releasing negative thoughts from the mind.

      I purify my thoughts and clean my mind to be more successful.

      Turning on power, fan or light switches:

      Control, ability, influence, helping others

      I’m able to positively influence my environment.

      I’m in control of my life.

      I connect with that which I need to make my body and those around more healthy and comfortable

      Waking up:

      Realization, waking up, recognition.

      I awaken to greater opportunities for success and abundance

      I awaken grateful to have slept and appreciate the opportunity to be here today

       

       

      How can you do this?

       

      1. Pick a regular task. Showering, brushing teeth, cleaning, putting on make up, shaving, catching a subway, riding a bike, setting your daily alarm.

       

      2. Picking a symbolic meaning behind each task. Cleansing, being alive, positive energy, revitalizing, recharging, motivating, contributing.

       

      3. Create a physical reminder to do the MPR when you do the task. For example, put a note on the mirror, a rubber band around a shampoo bottle, a sticker on your bike.

       

      4. Write out your intent, and your mantra. Writing it down makes it planned and repetitive.

      Write out your intent: “When I set my alarm, I will stop worrying about the day, I will put the day behind me and rest”.

      Write out your mantra: “I’ve put my day behind me, and will enjoy resting now.”

       

      5. Consciously or out nice and loud repeat your mantra at least 3 times while you do the task.

       

      6. Bask in the glory. Yes, I’m doing this! By actually doing this, you are in fact succeeding and adding growth to your day naturally.

       

       

       

      Imagine for a minute.

      What could happen, if you applied the MPR for just 3 routine mundane tasks?

       

      Created and written by Adrian Cahill. 

      Adrian Cahill is an Executive Coach/Mentor working predominantly over the phone with clients across Asia.

       

      One of my clients was asking me about helping them with finding their life purpose. It’s actually a question I encounter regularly and from my experience, it’s a much bigger challenge then it first appears. But once people are more aware of their purpose, pathways to pursue it magically appear. Just like in Martial Arts or The TAO, when the student is ready, the teacher will appear.

      For finding your life purpose, don’t stop. Even if you feel you have it at your finger tips, keep looking deeper. Soon your life may just transform. Finding your big WHY is possible. Once on track the hows will reveal themselves. So here are 8 simple tips for you my friend.

      Finding your life purpose

       

      Find your life purpose with Adrian Cahill. Passion Paid Competence

       

      8 Simple tips to finding your life purpose:

       

      1. Identify the activities that are meaningful for you.

      These are the things that just feel right when you’re doing them, they have purpose and you feel authentic when you’re doing them. ACTUALLY WRITE THEM DOWN. Don’t just think about them. Make a list. At least 5 things that are really meaningful and another 5 that are so so.

       

      2. Identify the things that you enjoy doing, are good at, and something that the world needs.

      You may be good at watching TV, but does the world need more TV viewers? Well perhaps TV critics, TV show bloggers… But does the world need more of that? Perhaps the world needs people that are passionate about higher quality TV programs for improving people’s lives.

      Are you good with communicating? Helping others through problems? Perhaps even something like cooking (creating). You should feel at your best when you are doing this. It may be something you don’t get paid for. Personally I’ve been very passionate about helping others my whole life. EQ/SQ became passions of mine around 2007 and it wasn’t until 2013 that I started to get paid for it.

      When you enjoy doing it, become very good, and you figure out how to create massive value for someone somehow… It’s just a matter of time till there is enough value in what doing that more valued exchanges start to take place.

      “Don’t let mental blocks control you. Set yourself free. Confront your fear and turn the mental blocks into building blocks.”
      ― Roopleen,

       

      3. Create a brief statement that ties together what you are good at and what provides you with a sense of purpose.

      In finding your life purpose you probably like to end up with a brief mission or vision statement. A short sentence, a paragraph or even a mantra. Ensure it’s memorable, short and to the point. It can be repeated in times of vain or yelled out over and over again in your car on your way to the next business meeting. Tony Robbins talks about this in some of his programs. A leader needs a mission or vision. Your purpose is that mission or vision.

      Steve Jobs, had a very clear why. Profits and Apple were by products of his clear why.

       

      Finding your life purpose with Adrian Cahill, Be a Boss

       

      4. Check how your statement or mantra supports your current direction.

      Are your daily habits and rituals in line with this. How much of your daily life can be nearer to this?

      Remember waterfalls start from little streams.

      Steve Jobs was a futurist. A dreamer. Highly intuitive. Would he settle for working in a manager role? No! His why drove him to be in a highly intuitive, dreaming, creators role.

       

      5. Develop new insights and skills that help you to live closer and closer to your statement or mantra without creating big changes.

      I’ve worked with over 40 clients now, most of them thought they needed to quit their jobs. Many ended up changing their jobs however, many found that quitting wasn’t required.

      Us human being have very common human needs. Often these needs are not met. Hence we end up looking to meet them else where in resourceful, or un-resourceful ways. If creativity is a need for you, and you don’t get to be creative, you may feel an unmet need. Rather than quit your job, doing something more creative on the weekends, or even some smaller creativity time or creative task may fill the void.

      Helping people become aware of un-met needs, and un-resourceful thinking and habits are one of the primary results experienced through the initial stages of coaching. It all begins with awareness, then little changes (or complete transformation) can occur.

       

      6. Take the time to reflect, savoir the moments and be 100% present.

      In finding your life purpose, it’s very important we take the time to reflect. Recognize that sense of internal fulfillment and calmness when you’re doing things you love. Or doing things that assist you to be completely present. Consider a variety of meditation practices.

      It’s very powerful and often underestimated. Especially with finding your life purpose or fulfillment.  Meditation retreats, time out at a Kung Fu school or Yoga Camps are a great way to regain balance, composure, reflect and recharge.

      Making a big life change is pretty scary. But, you know what’s even scarier?  Regret.”

       

      7. Find ways to spend more time doing the things that link to your purpose, or find ways to link what you do to your purpose.

      Can you turn your passion/purpose into a small cash flow system. This may not be evident right away. In 2011 and 2012 I was a NLP Practitioner trying to change the world. I was guiding people through healing and change processes. But I had no idea how to charge or even if I could. I stumbled upon a podcast and discovered a path that lead to becoming a professional and PAID Life/Executive Coach. That training and being able to monetize it meant that I could really focus on my calling. My calling is not to be a Life Coach, but this is part of my journey.

      One of my clients has changed her job every year for the past 3 years. She knows her calling and after working in 3 different companies, in 3 different positions, she had learned the skills required to start her own business and has a pile of valuable experiences, good memories and connections from those 3 years.

       

      Finding your life purpose with Adrian Cahill, being blessed.

       

      8. If still required, then look at creating bigger changes.

      Despite the previous example, which is a rare case, it still amazes me how quickly my friends in China quit their jobs. I wonder, are the problems they are faced with really going to be solved by changing jobs? Changing jobs regularly if it is for your purpose is great! If changing jobs and changing cities regularly, while not following your purpose is a problem. Perhaps instead of a change of environment, maybe a change in self is required. Perhaps a life overhaul or servicing. Check your self in to see a professional (or even a training) Life Coach to map out your life and purpose. Finding your life purpose is often something best done with help.

      You may even find some of your experiences from the past (often between 3-9 years age) may be holding you back from being able to access your best self or cause problems in your relationships. It happens all the time. A coach is great for that. Finding your life purpose while suppressing emotions is a challenge. Finding your life purpose while suppressing childhood trauma or memories of mum and dad constantly unhappy or fighting is certainly a challenge.

      If you don’t want to see someone to help you, or you really really want to do it by yourself, perhaps 1 – 3 weeks of Maum Meditation (in Noonsan Korea) or Viapasana Mediation (at temples and retreats all around the world now). Travel by yourself. Time in your religious center if you have one. Finding yourself, your passion, finding your purpose in life is a journey that will change your world forever.

      “If you are given a chance to be a role model, I think you should always take it because you can influence a person’s life in a positive light, and that’s what I want to do. That’s what it’s all about.”
      Tiger Woods

       

       

      Please feel free to share your thoughts on 8 Simple tips on finding your life purpose.

      Would you like to have a real conversation?

      For those that would like a 30 minute chat on “why I’m struggling to find my life purpose” or “I think I have blocks” please schedule a 30 minute chat here Adrian’s Calendar. It’s free for you because I’ve been there! I was stuck for years. But once I got through it, wow! Life has been so so good. Don’t sit idling, wasting time or procrastinating! Life is to good.

       

      Kind Regards,
      Adrian Cahill

      Finding your life purpose with Adrian Cahill

       

      Chris Chen

      阿迪是一位幽默而且富有活力的培训师。凭借广泛的旅行和职业经历,他在全球多个场合提供生活培训服务。
      他丰富的人生经历,使他容易与人交往,包括和那些与他文化背景完全不同的人。他在人际交往方面有天赋,他很擅长与人交谈。
      阿迪是我见过的非常随和、友好的人之一。
      阿迪也是一位很好的语言教师。他会说几种不同的语言。他积极组织社交活动。他是沙发客团队上海地区的财富。

      Chris Chen,

      Founder Life Talk Series, Shanghai China

      Adrian Cahill
      2014-06-03T10:25:44+00:00

      Chris Chen,

      Founder Life Talk Series, Shanghai China

      阿迪是一位幽默而且富有活力的培训师。凭借广泛的旅行和职业经历,他在全球多个场合提供生活培训服务。 他丰富的人生经历,使他容易与人交往,包括和那些与他文化背景完全不同的人。他在人际交往方面有天赋,他很擅长与人交谈。 阿迪是我见过的非常随和、友好的人之一。 阿迪也是一位很好的语言教师。他会说几种不同的语言。他积极组织社交活动。他是沙发客团队上海地区的财富。

      Kristen Van Nest

      Adrian is an excellent coach. He’s focused on helping you achieve your goals, listening closely and asking directed questions. For me, he helped me with a key career vision rut, so that I could create a clearer trajectory for the long-term and actionable steps in the short-term. He has great analogies and stories to make a complex problem more understandable and approachable.

      Kristen Van Nest, 

      Globalization Specialist, Shanghai China

      Adrian Cahill
      2014-09-16T05:12:04+00:00

      Kristen Van Nest, 

      Globalization Specialist, Shanghai China

      Adrian is an excellent coach. He’s focused on helping you achieve your goals, listening closely and asking directed questions. For me, he helped me with a key career vision rut, so that I could create a clearer trajectory for the long-term and actionable steps in the short-term. He has great analogies and stories to make a complex problem more understandable and approachable.

      Natalia Skirtenko-Harm

      I got to know Adrian during NLP Master training course and was really impressed by Adrian's coaching skills and ability to connect with people around him. I would definitely recommend Adrian as a very effective coach for anyone who is willing to make positive changes and to achieve more in life.

      Natalia Skirtenko-Harm,

      Relocation Adviser at Outpost Global Services, Shell, Beijing China

      Adrian Cahill
      2014-09-16T05:18:53+00:00

      Natalia Skirtenko-Harm,

      Relocation Adviser at Outpost Global Services, Shell, Beijing China

      I got to know Adrian during NLP Master training course and was really impressed by Adrian's coaching skills and ability to connect with people around him. I would definitely recommend Adrian as a very effective coach for anyone who is willing to make positive changes and to achieve more in life.

      Vitali

      I've been working with Adrian as a coach since December 2013. I have found insights obtained in working with Adrian to be extremely valuable. I can say that I've had a measurable and a considerable positive impact in a number of areas of my life. Diversity of his experience, knowledge and expertise also enable meaningful discussions around specifics and hence the ability to develop solutions. I can highly recommend Adrian to help anyone reach their potential.

      Vitali

      Engineer, Australian Distribution Utility Company

      Adrian Cahill
      2014-09-16T05:20:17+00:00

      Vitali

      Engineer, Australian Distribution Utility Company

      I've been working with Adrian as a coach since December 2013. I have found insights obtained in working with Adrian to be extremely valuable. I can say that I've had a measurable and a considerable positive impact in a number of areas of my life. Diversity of his experience, knowledge and expertise also enable meaningful discussions around specifics and hence the ability to develop solutions. I can highly recommend Adrian to help anyone reach their potential.

      Xiaofang Su

      作为一位专业的人生导师,平易近人、幽默风趣的Adrian总能引导你自己找到各种问题的答案,可谓是授人以渔。他学富五百车,行过万里路。听他一席话,胜读十年书呢。

      Adrian is a professional life coach. He have the ability to guide you to find the problem and solution by yourself. He is not going to give you a fish for a day, but teaching you fishing skills which you can use to feed yourself for a lifetime.

      Xiaofang Su,

      Assistant Showroom Manager at Lululemon Athletica, Shanghai China

      Adrian Cahill
      2014-09-16T05:21:58+00:00

      Xiaofang Su,

      Assistant Showroom Manager at Lululemon Athletica, Shanghai China

      作为一位专业的人生导师,平易近人、幽默风趣的Adrian总能引导你自己找到各种问题的答案,可谓是授人以渔。他学富五百车,行过万里路。听他一席话,胜读十年书呢。 Adrian is a professional life coach. He have the ability to guide you to find the problem and solution by yourself. He is not going to give you a fish for a day, but teaching you fishing skills which you can use to feed yourself for a lifetime.

      Brian Peters

      The saying goes, "Learn from those who have done it". When it comes to Adrian it's all experience. Being able to leave his full time job and travel for over 4 years before the age of 28 is an accomplishment most people dream of at the age of 58.

      Brian Peters,

      CEO Peters Partnerships, Adelaide Australia

      Adrian Cahill
      2014-09-16T05:48:05+00:00

      Brian Peters,

      CEO Peters Partnerships, Adelaide Australia

      The saying goes, "Learn from those who have done it". When it comes to Adrian it's all experience. Being able to leave his full time job and travel for over 4 years before the age of 28 is an accomplishment most people dream of at the age of 58.

      Yene Assegid

      Adrian has been a great source of learning and insights in our work together. I have been amazed at his ability to take complex organisational challenges and turn the situation around to allow members of the team see different perspectives that lead to breakthroughs.


      Yene Assegid,

      MBA, PhD, PCC, Author

      Adrian Cahill
      2014-09-16T05:49:31+00:00

      Yene Assegid,

      MBA, PhD, PCC, Author

      Adrian has been a great source of learning and insights in our work together. I have been amazed at his ability to take complex organisational challenges and turn the situation around to allow members of the team see different perspectives that lead to breakthroughs.

      Sayako Miyamoto

      Adrian helped me take my passion and turn it into a business. I still work however I am also turning my passion into profit.

       

       

      Sayako Miyamoto,

      www.awesomejapanesehelp.com, Osaka Japan

      Adrian Cahill
      2015-02-16T08:52:34+00:00

      Sayako Miyamoto,

      www.awesomejapanesehelp.com, Osaka Japan

      Adrian helped me take my passion and turn it into a business. I still work however I am also turning my passion into profit.    

      Peter Buki

      I met Adrian the first time in Hungary in 2009 and at the time we were both heavily into Personal Development. Only Adrian was traveling the world and doing it while most people, were stuck in a job.
      Years later I was still stuck in my job. I told Adrian I had problems with starting my photography business, he offered a helping hand. He really does have skills in finding your mental blocks and pushing you forward. To be better put, he helps you push yourself through your blocks and barriers. I will certainly recommend your services to my friends!

      Peter Buki,

      Freelance Photographer & Specialist for Vodafone, Budapest Hungary

      Adrian Cahill
      2015-02-16T09:14:11+00:00

      Peter Buki,

      Freelance Photographer & Specialist for Vodafone, Budapest Hungary

      I met Adrian the first time in Hungary in 2009 and at the time we were both heavily into Personal Development. Only Adrian was traveling the world and doing it while most people, were stuck in a job. Years later I was still stuck in my job. I told Adrian I had problems with starting my photography business, he offered a helping hand. He really does have skills in finding your mental blocks and pushing you forward. To be better put, he helps you push yourself through your blocks and barriers. I will certainly recommend your services to my friends!

      Rob Vickery

      Since our powerful session, I have cut down my sugar consumption by about 80% and this has had a dramatic and positive effect on my life, especially my moods and overall feeling.

      Rob Vickery,

      Interview Specialist and Coach, Gold Coast Australia

      Adrian Cahill
      2015-03-04T02:27:12+00:00

      Rob Vickery,

      Interview Specialist and Coach, Gold Coast Australia

      Since our powerful session, I have cut down my sugar consumption by about 80% and this has had a dramatic and positive effect on my life, especially my moods and overall feeling.

      — Yvonne Li

      之前失去了工作,对自己的未来和人生没有了信心,心情也不是很好。听朋友介绍,认识了Adi。然后听了他的几次NLP培训课。我慢慢对自己有了新的认识,认识到了自己真正的问题所在,更清楚自己下一步要做什么,同时也让我对生活渐渐重拾了信心。Adi帮助了我,我真的很感谢他!也想推荐给需要相同帮助的朋友们!

      Yvonne Li

      Founder iMeetUp

      Adrian Cahill
      2015-03-06T07:55:09+00:00

      Yvonne Li

      Founder iMeetUp

      之前失去了工作,对自己的未来和人生没有了信心,心情也不是很好。听朋友介绍,认识了Adi。然后听了他的几次NLP培训课。我慢慢对自己有了新的认识,认识到了自己真正的问题所在,更清楚自己下一步要做什么,同时也让我对生活渐渐重拾了信心。Adi帮助了我,我真的很感谢他!也想推荐给需要相同帮助的朋友们!

      Shansong Yu

      I got a chance to work with Adrian on a workshop. He is a highly motivated man. He can always deliver his message in an active and professional way. People like his workshops and learn a lot.
      Shansong Yu

      Financial Services|Joint Honours Economics and Finance|McGill University

      Adrian Cahill
      2015-08-28T05:07:17+00:00
      Shansong Yu

      Financial Services|Joint Honours Economics and Finance|McGill University

      I got a chance to work with Adrian on a workshop. He is a highly motivated man. He can always deliver his message in an active and professional way. People like his workshops and learn a lot.

      Margarita Lukavenko

      I have been informally receiving some Coaching from Adrian for quite some time, learning a lot as we build language and speaking programs. Now I am paying for his Coaching to get even more and Adrian has really stepped it up. Since starting a formal coaching arrangement I saw my life changing from good to fantastic. I wish I had started earlier!

      More than that, Adrian is very flexible and can handle any challenge thrown at him. He has done just about everything from Corporate Training to Afghanistan and that really puts him into the "must know&learn from" category of people around you.

      Margarita Lukavenko

      Managing Director, The M & Y Group

      Adrian Cahill
      2015-08-28T05:13:55+00:00

      Margarita Lukavenko

      Managing Director, The M & Y Group

      I have been informally receiving some Coaching from Adrian for quite some time, learning a lot as we build language and speaking programs. Now I am paying for his Coaching to get even more and Adrian has really stepped it up. Since starting a formal coaching arrangement I saw my life changing from good to fantastic. I wish I had started earlier! More than that, Adrian is very flexible and can handle any challenge thrown at him. He has done just about everything from Corporate Training to Afghanistan and that really puts him into the "must know&learn from" category of people around you.

      Meng Zhao

      I have invited Adrian to give an educational and entertaining talk, on personality profiling and partnership selections, to the members of our Toastmasters Club. That was the first we had him as our expert speaker, and I was really impressed by the inspiring ideas and methods he shared with us, as well as the way he interacted with audience. Adrian really knows how to talk to and give practical suggestions to people with different backgrounds and personalities

      Meng Zhao

      Planning Engineer at Shanghai Volkswagen, China

      Adrian Cahill
      2015-08-28T05:17:37+00:00

      Meng Zhao

      Planning Engineer at Shanghai Volkswagen, China

      I have invited Adrian to give an educational and entertaining talk, on personality profiling and partnership selections, to the members of our Toastmasters Club. That was the first we had him as our expert speaker, and I was really impressed by the inspiring ideas and methods he shared with us, as well as the way he interacted with audience. Adrian really knows how to talk to and give practical suggestions to people with different backgrounds and personalities

      Katy Allen

      Not only a warm, confident and approachable guy, but also an excellent mentor, teacher and coach. Adrian has built, grown and become an integral part of the Shanghai community of people seeking self-improvement. I have met many who he has directly influenced in a positive direction. On a personal note, Adi's workshops have additionally fed and enabled my own development as a teacher and influencer of others, given me an invaluable skills and knowledge set about NLP and opened my mind and heart to mindfulness. Thank you Adi!
      Katy Allen
      Primary Reception Homeroom Teacher
      Adrian Cahill
      2015-08-28T05:19:21+00:00
      Katy Allen
      Primary Reception Homeroom Teacher
      Not only a warm, confident and approachable guy, but also an excellent mentor, teacher and coach. Adrian has built, grown and become an integral part of the Shanghai community of people seeking self-improvement. I have met many who he has directly influenced in a positive direction. On a personal note, Adi's workshops have additionally fed and enabled my own development as a teacher and influencer of others, given me an invaluable skills and knowledge set about NLP and opened my mind and heart to mindfulness. Thank you Adi!

      Maya Roesch

      Adrian helped me get my goals and order and he made sure that I had some Ideas on how to get there. Since I have seen Adrian many things in my work environment and personal life has changed for the good and it is getting better each day. He can be a great asset to each business if you are stuck and not sure to which direction to go to.

      Maya Roesch

      English Teacher, Photographer and Designer

      Adrian Cahill
      2015-08-28T05:30:14+00:00

      Maya Roesch

      English Teacher, Photographer and Designer

      Adrian helped me get my goals and order and he made sure that I had some Ideas on how to get there. Since I have seen Adrian many things in my work environment and personal life has changed for the good and it is getting better each day. He can be a great asset to each business if you are stuck and not sure to which direction to go to.

      Nate Dudhill

      I've had the privilege of meeting Adrian and having coaching sessions with him for a few months. From lesson one he gave facilitated me in finding my goals and helped me to set targets to achieve what I wanted to. I recommend anyone to see Adrian if they want to make a real difference to their career or personal life.

      Nate Dudhill

      Helping People To Invest In UK, USA & Australian Real Estate

      Adrian Cahill
      2015-08-28T05:33:51+00:00

      Nate Dudhill

      Helping People To Invest In UK, USA & Australian Real Estate

      I've had the privilege of meeting Adrian and having coaching sessions with him for a few months. From lesson one he gave facilitated me in finding my goals and helped me to set targets to achieve what I wanted to. I recommend anyone to see Adrian if they want to make a real difference to their career or personal life.

      Boon Jim Chuah

      I first met Adrian thru one of his workshops, where he offered great insights and resources on how to approach some of the sticky things in relationships and life.

      Adrian is well read and displays in depth knowledge & expertise as a capable motivational life coach.

      As i got more opportunities to work with Adrian on other projects, I realized that far from being a cookie cutter coach, Adrian demonstrated the ability to tailor a strong program according to one's situational needs.

      To top it off, Adrian takes an honest interest in helping each individual, with a good balance of patient space and motivational push.

      I have no qualms recommending his services and have already put several of my own students in touch with him.

      Boon Jim Chuah

      Senior Accounts Manager, THREAD

      Adrian Cahill
      2015-08-28T05:34:01+00:00

      Boon Jim Chuah

      Senior Accounts Manager, THREAD

      I first met Adrian thru one of his workshops, where he offered great insights and resources on how to approach some of the sticky things in relationships and life. Adrian is well read and displays in depth knowledge & expertise as a capable motivational life coach. As i got more opportunities to work with Adrian on other projects, I realized that far from being a cookie cutter coach, Adrian demonstrated the ability to tailor a strong program according to one's situational needs. To top it off, Adrian takes an honest interest in helping each individual, with a good balance of patient space and motivational push. I have no qualms recommending his services and have already put several of my own students in touch with him.

      Yizhi Guo

      Having Adrian as a coach is a pretty curious thing. After our first session, I had high doubts about whether or not I wanted to continue. Having never tried a coach before, I found our first session pretty weird and underwhelming, and I was skeptical of his ability to help me.

      Counting my father and best friend, to date a year later I can say that unexpectedly meeting Adrian has to be one of the most profoundly positive impacts on my little life. Had I not continued seeking Adrian out of curiosity, I would be in a whole lot of pain today at what I could have been, what I could have changed, instead of the unstoppable and overwhelming awesome that is today's morning.

      If your committed to making your way down the mountain you'll always end up there in time. What Adrian'll do is blow up the mountains in the way and strap a rocket to your back. I now know of Adrian's character that he is someone truly on the path to bettering the world and it's people, with a great arsenal of tools to help you get what you want whatever that may be, and an all around a great guy. I cannot recommend my fantastic coach, and now good friend, more.

      Yizhi Guo

      International Sales, Easy Coating Co., Ltd.

      Easy Coating Co., Ltd. | www.easycoating.cn/en
      Fineshine Technology
      Adrian Cahill
      2015-08-28T05:43:29+00:00

      Yizhi Guo

      International Sales, Easy Coating Co., Ltd.

      Easy Coating Co., Ltd. | www.easycoating.cn/en
      Fineshine Technology
      Having Adrian as a coach is a pretty curious thing. After our first session, I had high doubts about whether or not I wanted to continue. Having never tried a coach before, I found our first session pretty weird and underwhelming, and I was skeptical of his ability to help me. Counting my father and best friend, to date a year later I can say that unexpectedly meeting Adrian has to be one of the most profoundly positive impacts on my little life. Had I not continued seeking Adrian out of curiosity, I would be in a whole lot of pain today at what I could have been, what I could have changed, instead of the unstoppable and overwhelming awesome that is today's morning. If your committed to making your way down the mountain you'll always end up there in time. What Adrian'll do is blow up the mountains in the way and strap a rocket to your back. I now know of Adrian's character that he is someone truly on the path to bettering the world and it's people, with a great arsenal of tools to help you get what you want whatever that may be, and an all around a great guy. I cannot recommend my fantastic coach, and now good friend, more.

      Janine Jakob

      I would like to deeply say thank you to Chris and Adrian for this amazing NLP training. We're only halfway through but it already changed my life. If I tell Adrian or Chris, the lead coaches "Hey can I have a session with you?", they don't even ask, they've even offer me sometimes a session like on the same day because they literally dare to support you. So much value already even if I'm only halfway through. I just want to say thank you so much to Adrian and Chris for this amazing training. I can't wait to continue the next to most.

      Janine Jakob Founder of Full Potential Partners and Monday Morning Motivation

      Adrian Cahill
      2021-06-02T04:17:13+00:00

      Janine Jakob Founder of Full Potential Partners and Monday Morning Motivation

      I would like to deeply say thank you to Chris and Adrian for this amazing NLP training. We're only halfway through but it already changed my life. If I tell Adrian or Chris, the lead coaches "Hey can I have a session with you?", they don't even ask, they've even offer me sometimes a session like on the same day because they literally dare to support you. So much value already even if I'm only halfway through. I just want to say thank you so much to Adrian and Chris for this amazing training. I can't wait to continue the next to most.

      Yi Zhang

      I wanted to increase my sales skills, and then someone suggests me about Adrian, and then I joined Adrian's program. At that time, global pandemic happens and of course it hits Osaka, then suddenly I was put to a one month off without pay. Right at that time, Adrian is doing free session before the official NLP session, this gave me another opportunity to look at what my skills has. And I studied to become a coach. And I had a paid coachee right after I found Adrian. We have some phone calls and Adrian helped me to improve my sales call. Adrian is a very caring person. And I don't know how to describe, but Adrian is just different to other people. He is so attractive as a person, and the way he is talking is be like; I want to be like him.

      Yi Zhang High Performance Coach, Sales Professional, Participant of July 2020 NLP Online Training

      Adrian Cahill
      2021-05-31T03:25:41+00:00

      Yi Zhang High Performance Coach, Sales Professional, Participant of July 2020 NLP Online Training

      I wanted to increase my sales skills, and then someone suggests me about Adrian, and then I joined Adrian's program. At that time, global pandemic happens and of course it hits Osaka, then suddenly I was put to a one month off without pay. Right at that time, Adrian is doing free session before the official NLP session, this gave me another opportunity to look at what my skills has. And I studied to become a coach. And I had a paid coachee right after I found Adrian. We have some phone calls and Adrian helped me to improve my sales call. Adrian is a very caring person. And I don't know how to describe, but Adrian is just different to other people. He is so attractive as a person, and the way he is talking is be like; I want to be like him.

      Maria Raquel Seabra

      I've been working with Adrian for a long time with Motivate Shanghai. Adrian knew that my goal was to go into coaching and NLP to add that to my experience. When this opportunity to do it online came up, I just couldn't help like just sign up. I wasn't really expecting it to be as good as it was. I feel like I took so much out of this course, so much knowledge, so much insight about this course on the business side. I have nothing but good things to say about this course, it was very organized. I will absolutely recommend this course.

      And it's been a pleasure to work with Adrian as a coach. I felt like that was the meaning lacking with my life, I work with Adrian a little bit on that. And now like comparing myself to when I met him is just like comparing two different people almost. So I am very very happy to recommend him as a coach as well.

      Maria Raquel Seabra Life Coach, Healer, Participant of July 2020 NLP Online Training

      Adrian Cahill
      2021-05-31T03:36:01+00:00

      Maria Raquel Seabra Life Coach, Healer, Participant of July 2020 NLP Online Training

      I've been working with Adrian for a long time with Motivate Shanghai. Adrian knew that my goal was to go into coaching and NLP to add that to my experience. When this opportunity to do it online came up, I just couldn't help like just sign up. I wasn't really expecting it to be as good as it was. I feel like I took so much out of this course, so much knowledge, so much insight about this course on the business side. I have nothing but good things to say about this course, it was very organized. I will absolutely recommend this course. And it's been a pleasure to work with Adrian as a coach. I felt like that was the meaning lacking with my life, I work with Adrian a little bit on that. And now like comparing myself to when I met him is just like comparing two different people almost. So I am very very happy to recommend him as a coach as well.

      Priyal Thakur

      I just want to say a big big thank for both of you Adrian and Chris for bringing this course online. I have learned so much, I have gained much more deeper self awareness, I have learned communication skills, I've been able to go off my past limiting belief that I had and just getting started on this coaching. Being a part of this course is being so much valuable to me. The community that Adrian and Chris has built is truly wonderful and it's supportive in a collaborative environment. Adrian and chris are both wonderful trainer. If you want to change your life do it now and reach for Adrian and Chris. I am looking forward in doing more courses with them and the environment they built for us. I am super excited.

      Priyal Thakur Emotional Intelligence Coach, Participant of  July 2020 NLP Online Training

      Adrian Cahill
      2021-05-31T03:50:51+00:00

      Priyal Thakur Emotional Intelligence Coach, Participant of  July 2020 NLP Online Training

      I just want to say a big big thank for both of you Adrian and Chris for bringing this course online. I have learned so much, I have gained much more deeper self awareness, I have learned communication skills, I've been able to go off my past limiting belief that I had and just getting started on this coaching. Being a part of this course is being so much valuable to me. The community that Adrian and Chris has built is truly wonderful and it's supportive in a collaborative environment. Adrian and chris are both wonderful trainer. If you want to change your life do it now and reach for Adrian and Chris. I am looking forward in doing more courses with them and the environment they built for us. I am super excited.

      Ying Xing

      I was taking this NLP training with Adrian for the last of six months. I was taking new client while I was on training, and his team has been giving me huge support for real client issues.
      So I've been really practicing everything I learned on my client. I enjoyed helping people. Each client is very dear to me, when I apply NLP skills on them and we finished our session with joy and peace, that really really fulfills me.

      Ying Xing

      Holistic Life Coach

      Participant of July 2020 NLP Online Training

      Adrian Cahill
      2021-05-31T03:09:30+00:00

      Ying Xing

      Holistic Life Coach

      Participant of July 2020 NLP Online Training

      I was taking this NLP training with Adrian for the last of six months. I was taking new client while I was on training, and his team has been giving me huge support for real client issues. So I've been really practicing everything I learned on my client. I enjoyed helping people. Each client is very dear to me, when I apply NLP skills on them and we finished our session with joy and peace, that really really fulfills me.

      Emily Johns

      I was to join them for face to face training on July 2020, but due to travel bans and Global Pandemic, Adrian switched the coaching training to online. And this worked perfectly to me. I really enjoyed the opportunity to be able to coach, to be able to train with like-minded people. I really really enjoyed the training that Adrian gave on NLP. I really like Adrian's approach to training and coaching. He is friendly, and he's not gonna feel you like you are the one with an issue, you are the one with the problem, but you are the one with the answers and he believes
      that you can do it. Try out, try coaching with Adrian, I promise you it will change your life.

      Emily Johns Educator, Life Coach

      Adrian Cahill
      2021-06-02T05:33:58+00:00

      Emily Johns Educator, Life Coach

      I was to join them for face to face training on July 2020, but due to travel bans and Global Pandemic, Adrian switched the coaching training to online. And this worked perfectly to me. I really enjoyed the opportunity to be able to coach, to be able to train with like-minded people. I really really enjoyed the training that Adrian gave on NLP. I really like Adrian's approach to training and coaching. He is friendly, and he's not gonna feel you like you are the one with an issue, you are the one with the problem, but you are the one with the answers and he believes that you can do it. Try out, try coaching with Adrian, I promise you it will change your life.

      Diana Felix

      I met Adrian about 2018 I think. It was really nice because I had no Idea what coaching was, and I just reached out for Adrian. Honestly speaking, I could say my life was really really transformed. I know, just one coaching session I had with Adrian have really changed me into completely different person. Someone who was really shy to do anything, having this training with Adrian and just be able to experience, what coaching is pushed me a lot. I went to travel outside China, like something which I've never even done. For me my life has really transformed from the time I met Adrian and after I graduated the training. I encourage everyone to do NLP training because it is really a life changing.

      Diana Felix Life coach

      Adrian Cahill
      2021-06-02T14:00:02+00:00

      Diana Felix Life coach

      I met Adrian about 2018 I think. It was really nice because I had no Idea what coaching was, and I just reached out for Adrian. Honestly speaking, I could say my life was really really transformed. I know, just one coaching session I had with Adrian have really changed me into completely different person. Someone who was really shy to do anything, having this training with Adrian and just be able to experience, what coaching is pushed me a lot. I went to travel outside China, like something which I've never even done. For me my life has really transformed from the time I met Adrian and after I graduated the training. I encourage everyone to do NLP training because it is really a life changing.

      Jacky Shen

      Adrian, thank you for your thoughts. I went very deep into myself. Recently I talked to my wife, because I didn't know much more about myself before. So this year will be a little special, I put a lot of effort and time into myself, I would like to know much more about my self.

      Jacky Shen  Participant of NLP Practitioner Online Training

      Adrian Cahill
      2021-06-02T14:13:31+00:00

      Jacky Shen  Participant of NLP Practitioner Online Training

      Adrian, thank you for your thoughts. I went very deep into myself. Recently I talked to my wife, because I didn't know much more about myself before. So this year will be a little special, I put a lot of effort and time into myself, I would like to know much more about my self.

      Tapan Gadodia

      I met Adrian and had the opportunity to be coached by him. He's an amazing coach and makes such a big difference to me. And he trained me how to make a difference to others. So if you're looking for the coach, you're no further than looking for Adrian. Thank you.

      Tapan Gadodia Entrepeneur based in Shanghai, China

      Adrian Cahill
      2021-06-02T14:46:32+00:00

      Tapan Gadodia Entrepeneur based in Shanghai, China

      I met Adrian and had the opportunity to be coached by him. He's an amazing coach and makes such a big difference to me. And he trained me how to make a difference to others. So if you're looking for the coach, you're no further than looking for Adrian. Thank you.

      Michelle Pein

      I always wanted to get into NLP and learn more about it and get certified also in this direction of coaching. And I met Adrian in Shanghai and it didn't take long, he convinced me to go on this amazing coaching training in Bali, because he had everything I wanted to. For me as a coach, It is the step to take forward to scale my business from earning good to earning even better. I can't recommend it enough to join the next training in Bali.

      Michelle Pein Holistic Life Coach

      Adrian Cahill
      2021-06-02T14:50:35+00:00

      Michelle Pein Holistic Life Coach

      I always wanted to get into NLP and learn more about it and get certified also in this direction of coaching. And I met Adrian in Shanghai and it didn't take long, he convinced me to go on this amazing coaching training in Bali, because he had everything I wanted to. For me as a coach, It is the step to take forward to scale my business from earning good to earning even better. I can't recommend it enough to join the next training in Bali.

      Aydar

      Hey guys, we just finished our nine days training with Adrian Cahill at Bali location. NLP stuff, Coaching stuff it was great, great experience, amazing coaches, great atmosphere, cool activities, and experiences and stuff is all another level. That's really cool, it works, you have to try it!

      Aydar Participant in NLP Training in Bali

      Adrian Cahill
      2021-06-02T14:52:32+00:00

      Aydar Participant in NLP Training in Bali

      Hey guys, we just finished our nine days training with Adrian Cahill at Bali location. NLP stuff, Coaching stuff it was great, great experience, amazing coaches, great atmosphere, cool activities, and experiences and stuff is all another level. That's really cool, it works, you have to try it!

      Hannes

      Hi my name is Hannes, couple of months back I met Adrian in Shanghai at the Motivate Shanghai breakfast. And then he introduced this NLP Bali training and I didn't know what NLP was about but I was just curious. So I wanted to learn it, we just signed up without thinking about it because, it's an experience, and you just want to do something because it feels right, and it feels right. So here we are in Bali. After eight days of intensive immersive training, and it was super cool exhausting. We even did two dives, in NLP training. What can I say.

      Hannes Participant in NLP Training in Bali

      Adrian Cahill
      2021-06-02T15:01:10+00:00

      Hannes Participant in NLP Training in Bali

      Hi my name is Hannes, couple of months back I met Adrian in Shanghai at the Motivate Shanghai breakfast. And then he introduced this NLP Bali training and I didn't know what NLP was about but I was just curious. So I wanted to learn it, we just signed up without thinking about it because, it's an experience, and you just want to do something because it feels right, and it feels right. So here we are in Bali. After eight days of intensive immersive training, and it was super cool exhausting. We even did two dives, in NLP training. What can I say.

      Johnny Browaeys

      Before I decided to join this training I met Adrian, first online and then at Motivate Shanghai. He gave us some introduction of coaching and making business out of coaching. So here I am, just finished the nine days training here in Bali. And the most fascinating thing is I got to know Adrian as a person with the heart, and actually doing this with a purpose.

      Johnny Browaeys NLP Graduate

      Adrian Cahill
      2021-06-02T15:10:16+00:00

      Johnny Browaeys NLP Graduate

      Before I decided to join this training I met Adrian, first online and then at Motivate Shanghai. He gave us some introduction of coaching and making business out of coaching. So here I am, just finished the nine days training here in Bali. And the most fascinating thing is I got to know Adrian as a person with the heart, and actually doing this with a purpose.

      Elanie, Shanghai China

      我的名字叫Elanie, 我强烈推荐Adrian ( 生活导师, 感情导师). 有些时候, 人的感情是很难控制的, 特别是在和前男友分手后! Adrian 帮助我找到了我自己. 通过和他的交流, 我找到了自己到底在生活中要什么.
      我感受到他的意图其实不仅仅是要教你怎么去谈恋爱, 怎么去做交易, 而是教你如何找到你自己. 这是我在他身上真正学到的东西!
      每次和他交流后, 我感觉好多了. 我认识到其实生活是如此的美丽. 我被激发了, 我充满了对生活的希望!.. 再次感谢, Adrian, 谢谢你的支持和鼓励!

      Elanie,

      Shanghai China

      Adrian Cahill
      2014-06-03T10:25:18+00:00

      Elanie,

      Shanghai China

      我的名字叫Elanie, 我强烈推荐Adrian ( 生活导师, 感情导师). 有些时候, 人的感情是很难控制的, 特别是在和前男友分手后! Adrian 帮助我找到了我自己. 通过和他的交流, 我找到了自己到底在生活中要什么. 我感受到他的意图其实不仅仅是要教你怎么去谈恋爱, 怎么去做交易, 而是教你如何找到你自己. 这是我在他身上真正学到的东西! 每次和他交流后, 我感觉好多了. 我认识到其实生活是如此的美丽. 我被激发了, 我充满了对生活的希望!.. 再次感谢, Adrian, 谢谢你的支持和鼓励!
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      Adrian Cahill

       

      Hi guys, this is for all the Cashflow 101 players in Shanghai

      For the start of our course, please read this first summary:

      Robert Kiyosaki -Cashflow Quadrant Summary.pdf

      Secondly read this book or do the Audio series of it:

      Robert Kiyosaki – Rich Dad Poor Dad.pdf

      Robert Kiyosaki – Rich Dad Poor Dad Audio Book CD1
      Robert Kiyosaki – Rich Dad Poor Dad Audio Book CD2
      Robert Kiyosaki – Rich Dad Poor Dad Audio Book CD3

       

      Afterwards:

      Getting_started_in_shares (From Australian Share Market)

      Australian Share Price Movements

      Australia Option Market

      Go to the Free Resources page where you can find free resources showing you specifically how to measure you net wealth, cashflow and also, assess your current Wealth Mindest!

       

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      That’s actually my sister and I as little little kids


      8 years ago I was a complete nobody. I had hardly any friends. I struggled to talk to new people, couldn’t talk to strangers and certainly couldn’t talk to the opposite sex. My Social Confidence was at all time lows. Once I learned how to improve social confidence, and meet new people a whole new world opened up for me. I hope, and know it can do the same for you!

       This Article can be read here, downloaded in .pdf  or via Slideshare

      Today, there are a lot of people out there that don’t seem to have the charisma or ability to meet the people they want to meet. Sometimes it comes down to Social Confidence. As our readers are quiet smart and value self development, I thought we would write a little bit about the subject here. Especially for those that care about their communities and want to share a good read.

      Good Social Confidence can easily lead to:

      • Improved work relationships,
      • Through meeting new people increased opportunity for sales or networking
      • A dramatic increase in the chances of finding that special person
      • New ideas, concepts, friends and a whole lot more fun.

      So who wouldn’t want more of it!

      Let’s not talk to much about it, but what about the opposite. I see a lack of Social Confidence regularly and you probably see it too.

      Right now, do you believe that the community around you is regularly improving or losing Social Confidence?

      Personally, it never ceases to amaze me how common a lack of social skills is. I’ve seen this in most of the countries I’ve visited so far (70+ Countries). Every single week I meet people who struggle to make eye contact, can’t hold down a solid conversation and let’s not get started with Smartphones replacing real life conversation.

      Social skills are not something you learn over night or from a smart phone app. People traditionally learned through lots of experience and good guidance but since the creation of TV less and less real life interactions are taking place. Social skills are on the which is the main reason I chose to develop skills in Training & Coaching. This industry is booming, as more and more smart people turn to educated experts for advice.

      However I could be wrong.What do you think? Are these skills going down?

      Here is a six step process that helped me grow my social confidence and drastically improved my social skills to the point where I was on TEDx twice.

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      How to improve social confidence.

      lets get into it!

      1. Talk to strangers, daily.

      Talk to everybody! Talk to the security guard, the shop attendants, the delivery people, people anywhere you can. Even if its just hi. This habit of becoming more social and a natural hello to any person is also going to help the common occurrence of “wondering what to say next”. Something that commonly happens when trying to meet the opposite sex. The more you talk to people in your day to day life, the more comfortable you’ll become in these types of situations.

      It is a systemic desensitization approach to social anxiety and its effectiveness is evidenced by psychological research. For the majority of people, taking baby steps has proven to be the best way of overcoming social anxiety.

      Another reason for doing this, is that you will meet all sorts of people from different walks of life. Doing this regularly is a fantastic way of building a diverse, interesting and larger social circle.

       

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      Look at this little fella in the middle! That’s Pure Awesomeness.

       

      2. Learn to listen effectively.

      Seek first to understand. Imagine if every thing that came out of your mouth was twice as wise. How valuable would that be?

      That can actually be achieved a process I call

      “shut your mouth & listen first”.

      First listen with your ears, second listen with your mind. And if you really want to connect, listen with your heart. That’s what some people call, “third level listening”.

      Remember, it’s not just verbal, it’s also language patterns, tonality, context based, and we haven’t even got to body language yet. Effective listening can really assist you in connecting with people without even having to think about what to say.

       

      3. Everyone’s favourite topic is the same anyway

      Everyone has their own story and their favourite stories. I love talking about myself. You do to. What is your story you like to share?

      Think about that for a moment.

      What’s your favourite story you love to share?

      Perhaps you can prove me wrong, sometimes it happens. Pretty much everyone I ever spoke to across 70+countries I traveled had the same favourite subject. You know what it is, right? It was themselves. They want to talk about themselves.

      It’s human nature. Perfectly natural. We like talking about ourselves. Therefore, whenever you want to talk to someone new, just ask them about themselves and fully listen to what they say. Be curious, find out about them. If you listen deep enough and ask the right questions you can learn something from everyone.

       

      4. Don’t worry about what people think of you

      Despite what we’re neurologically programmed to do, we actually overdo it. We are supposed to be at least a little concerned about what other people think. That is part of Social or Cultural Intelligence. Part of being in a tribe is behaving to tribe norms. However we often overdo it.

      Most of the time, people are paying so much attention to themselves or what’s going on in their life (or phone) that they don’t pay much attention to you. It’s not necessarily a bad thing, it’s just, you’re not that important to them. They have their own concerns. In fact if someone thinks negatively of you, it is more often a reflection of something in their life and not yours. If someone is rude, neglecting or judging, it’s merely some drama in their own life coming out.

      When you meet this behaviour, have patience with the person. Remember: the person and the behaviour can be seen as separate things. Focus on your own happiness. Happiness inside will be reflected on the outside.

      Charles Chaplan and Confidence

      5. Laugh

      The psychological and physical benefits of laughing are often underestimated. If you ever get the opportunity, try checking out Laughing Yoga. I hear it’s a blast. Laughing is one of the best ways to ease stress, anxiety, tension, fear, trauma and the hiccups.

      As much as everyone loves a comedian, you don’t have to go that far. Laughing has a way of building connections between people so being light hearted and easy to laugh with is desirable.

      Laughing in the context of fear, or lack of confidence is a simple way of reducing hesitation. Laughing at myself, laughing at my own fear of doing something is a gentle way of reframing or rethinking about the fear.

      6. Want to really gain confidence?

      Go to events where you don’t know anyone, regularly.

      This would be one of the best habits for people trying to gain confidence in the steps mentioned above. How to apply tips 1-5 at a new event?

      One of the hardest things for me to do after ending my first serious relationship (7 years), was going out by myself afterwards. For me, it wasn’t a choice, I didn’t have friends. However even later after I made some friends, I still practiced and pushed myself to go out alone (+ I was really looking for a girlfriend, not drinking buddies). I’ll never forget moving to a new city, and getting an apartment down town (Spring Hill, Brisbane). I didn’t get the internet put on, so that I would have to walk down to different Internet Cafe’s instead of staying home. After a couple of trips, and not meeting people, I started to detour around places and occasionally go into a bar or cafe. Unfortunately I didn’t know about tips 1-5 so I wasn’t that good, but I was making progress.

      This tip is great for Meetup.com, festivals, house parties. A side benefit will be that it will force you to meet new people.

       

      How do you attack a big challenge like Confidence?

      The same way you eat an Elephant.

      One piece at a time.

      If you can read all of this article, then learning regular ways for how to improve social confidence is something you can certainly do.

      Since you’re an avid reader and got all the way to the end, I like to say a big thank you for your time. Please, feel free to follow, ask for more, or reply with a comment.


      After all, you don’t want to be latched onto the one person all night.Worse yet, you don’t want to end out like this man.

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      Neuro Logical Levels (or Neurological levels) is one of the most interesting frameworks I have ever seen in the Coaching / Personal Development world. It is in my opinion the best NLP Coaching Model to date.

      Regardless if you’re working as a change agent, or looking for change yourself, this will assist you in understanding and gaining a very high level of awareness of yourself and others.

      Reading this alone will give you insight. Spending more time with it and revisiting it will bring more. If you practice it, you may find yourself able to recognise or even track conversations as they go up and down the levels. As an agent of change, you may begin to recognise on what level a presented challenge is at, where the deeper challenge is, and if you develop skills in Coaching/NLP with me, you will learn which models/tools/questions to ask to create trance-formation, or rapid change (perhaps both) with a big smile on your face.

       

      Very brief background: Neuro Logical Levels is a METAPHOR. It was developed by Robert Dilts and is often taught in NLP and non-NLP Coaching Courses.

      I’ve trained under John Grinder, and Richard Bandler the Co-Creators of NLP, and there students, Dr Robert Dilts & Dr Stephen Gilligan.

       

      Deeper background: Neuro Logical Levels is a controversial but widely used model (and I would say effective model). One could say it is an extension of Logical Levels or Logical Types which was pre-NLP days. The levels and types were perhaps brought into the NLP world by Gregory Bateson. In his book, Ecology of Mind, (a challenging but enlightening read), Gregory eluded to deeper structures and in my opinion, was on the edge of many great discoveries of the mind. Gregory Bateson assisted the creation of NLP greatly and enthusiastically. He provided support and valuable introductions, like the introduction to Milton Erickson.  Both Gregory and Milton spent time with one of the young NLP students Robert Dilts. Robert like many recognised there was like layers or levels of the mind, perhaps between reality, action, beliefs and Robert brought this model into the world. On a far deeper look at what are logical levels and logical types, this model according to John Grinder, Co-Creator of NLP, is not true to the rules of logical types. I  was training with John Grinder and he showed my class how this model was false and not even a part of NLP however a fair few excellent trainers & coaches in the room disagreed with John. For me personally, military background, results-focused, this model worked a lot for me and I know it provides a lot of value to coaches so I’ll continue to use it.  I teach this on many of our Coaching Courses, and NLP Coaching Courses. In my Master Practitioner of NLP Program, the only one like it in Australiasia, we go far deeper into every level and find NLP and Coaching models that are applicable on each level.

      Note: this model has Values and Beliefs on different levels. This is the way it should be as a collection of beliefs make up a value. A value has but is not a belief. This is an important distinction as well trained (and experienced coaches) will often work more on a values level as it can collapse a collection of beliefs instantaneously rather than focusing on collapsing beliefs sequentially.

       

       

      Neuro Logical Levels:

      Best NLP Coaching Model (so far). NLP Coach in Shanghai China

      In the processes of learning, change, and communication there are, metaphorically speaking, natural hierarchies of logical levels. In logical levels, you have sets and subsets. wheels, frame, bumper, lights, can be parts of a car. Toyota, Ford, Tesla are cars. Cars are a form of transport. What is in and out of the level is upto the creators intentions. The intentions of Robert Dilts in creating this model, I believe was to assist agents of change in learning how to assist/create change.

       

      Robert calls them, Neuro Logical levels as they reflect levels in the way we can process or think about them.

      For example, if we are talking about offices in the context of; how noisy the office is, where the office is, how big is the office, how many people could fit in the office. These are all forms of focusing on the environmental level.

      If we were to talk about someone bullying in the office, coming to work early or late, procrastinating about what to do, etc. This is all forms of focusing on behaviour. Behaviour in the office.

      If we talk about a supervisor instructing staff to work overtime. This could be seen as a supervisor using their capabilities to affect behaviour.

      Why is the supervisor instructing staff to work overtime? This may draw out some of the beliefs of the supervisor. They believe it’s their role or in their capabilities to instruct staff to change them. They may value, a performance bonus, or efficiency.

      The supervisor, like all of us, has a value system, and perhaps they have a high value for work output. If they didn’t value work, they may not last long at the company. Some supervisors really seem to value, being in charge.

      It’s like part of their Identity, a responsible leader.  Perhaps at work, they assume the identity of a responsible leader. And at home, they may play the role or identity of a parent, or lover.

      Spirituality means many things to many people. To our Supervisor, he may consider it a connection to a god, maybe a higher purpose.

      All these words are metaphors, and this model is to assist us to process but don’t get to caught up or stuck in any part.

       

      The function of each Neuro Logical Level in the hierarchy is to organize the information below it.

      For example, a person’s behaviour results in changes to the environment around them. When a person walks into a room, they take up space and regardless of their behaviour, it will always affect the environment. The environment is generally the result of the persons behaviour. If the person regularly displays outstanding, high-performing behaviour, you would expect the environment to reflect this.

       

      Changing something on a lower Neuro Logical Level of the hierarchy could, but would not necessarily affect the levels above it. 

      For example, if a person is regularly depressed, very messy, has disorganised behavioural patterns, one may imagine that if he changes where he lives, he will still have those behaviours. It could affect his behaviour. He could suddenly become excited, happy and organised if he was placed on Hawaii. However, his old behaviours were there for a reason. Those old reasons could still be present.

      The problem as Einstein said, “You can’t solve the problem with the same thinking that created it.”

      Often I see people that suffer from procrastination attempt to fix it with behavioural changes. I congratulate them on trying and have compassion for them as it won’t work. I see this all the time. People struggle to complete tasks, so they form new tasks! Only this time they add an exclamation mark or write IN CAPITAL LETTERS. I’ve also seen people struggle with procrastination buying online courses or books on productivity and sadly (perhaps obviously to everybody else) not finish them. The book or course may on the same level, behaviours, or it may be working on a level above the problem, here that would be capability. To avoid procrastination forever, (a rather simple feat if you know how) you have to work on higher levels then the problem hence the top-down approach used by most expert coaches/agents of change.

      Making changes using a top-down approach.

      For example, take a disorganised person and help them develop multi-tasking, scheduling, and organisational skills. This might work, only we may be taking on the challenge at the same level or slightly higher.

      Making a change at the upper levels changes everything below it in order to support the higher level change. However working one level above the problem isn’t enough. The disorganised person, can still show a lot disorganised behaviour. Here the ‘Disorganised person’ is not a capability factor. Its part of their identity. The person may have grown up all their life being a disorganised person and no amount of capability changes will alter their behaviour if that behaviour is part of their identity. That’s like trying to move a tent, but the tent pegs are still in the ground.

      If we work with the disorganised person on the level of Identity. And say, the Identity of the person is shifted and they see themselves as an efficient, successful person, the Values shift too. If something like,  ‘Organised’ or ‘Being Organised’ becomes a high value, than the beliefs, capabilities and behaviour is also modified as a result.

       

      You can use this model yourself and I encourage you to print out or copy this article.

      Remember the following:

      • Spirituality – Change for whom and/or what purpose?
      • Identity – Does change reflect who I am?
      • Values and beliefs- Why make the change?
      • Capabilities and Skills- Change how?
      • Behaviours – Change what?
      • Environment – Where to change?

      An insight into how I create my magic.

      Honestly guys, 70% of what I do with people is work on the higher Neuro Logical Levels. This may be obvious, however often it’s done unconsciously. I may ask questions to someone about their challenge, then perhaps appear to ask unrelated questions about other things. These questions may lead to them focusing on the details of some of the biggest challenges they have accomplished. Then switch back to the challenge they were having currently and suddenly, they identify with the challenge differently. Suddenly, it’s not as big any more. So there you go and you can see how that can be very effective and also done without awareness.

      What I really love is the amount of times I speak with someone, feel like it was nothing, but then a week later, get a message from them going something like.

      “Adrian, you wouldn’t believe what just happened….”

      Often people get immediate results, sometimes they take weeks. It’s amazing though how effective it is. And you can do some of this yourself! In fact, many of us are trying to do it ourselves every 1st of January, or on our birthdays. We attempt to redefine who we are with new years/birthday resolutions or simply buying gym memberships. Sadly though, a lot of these changes are just surface.

      When we have enough leverage or need, things change. When we work with an NLP Coach we can manipulate and increase this need inside of a session.

      Coaches without NLP rely on guiding/pushing/pulling or cheering you on to change. But as an NLP Coach, can artificially create a lot of leverage and then push it all at once, and collapse life long habits in seconds. Yes seconds. It takes minutes, perhaps half an hour to set up, then in seconds, the beliefs are suddenly wiped out! Sometimes at this point, the client, does a ‘transderivatal search’, thats like, the rug has been pulled out under your feet, your eyes are darting around going what the…. and it’s like suddenly the problem isn’t there. Then with that rug pull, we put in better beliefs, better program! Again, this takes seconds but this may take 20 minutes to set up too. So 20 minutes setting up the rug pull, 20 minutes setting up the new program then, 3, 2, 1, SWISH!!!!  The brain grabs a hold of the new program, and were done. It can sound complicated. Most NLP Coaches in China can’t do it. Even higher percentage in my home country and USA probably cant do it. Being a NLP Coach in China, I got to practice it so many times, I nail it and can eliminate many habits, smoking, drinking (if the client really wants to kick the habit) in single sessions.

       

      When I first wrote this, I had a participant talk about the hard time he had cutting back sugar. I gave him an artificial near death experience, and guess what? It suddenly became much easier for him to say no to sugar. In fact when I spoke to him 7 days later he had cut back his Sugar content 80-90% and was on top of the world. There is a reference on my Linkedin from another client that did the same thing, only he wrote it in a my Linkedin. Nice man.

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      Now that you have learned this:

      Instead of listening deeply in every conversation, try listening briefly and keep an eye on the Neuro Logical levels. Now you should be able to identify which level the conversation is on. If you really want to take this to new heights join one of our coaching or training programs so you can not only know, but drive the conversation and create positive change in those you care about. Or perhaps just experience a lot of your own personal growth and development.

      Thanks guys, Neuro Logical Levels was brought to you by Adrian Cahill. NLP Coach, NLP Trainer and ICF PCC (2500+ Coaching hours).

      Feel free to contact me if you want to do any NLP or Coaching Training. I am lead trainer and often a co-trainer on various courses around Asia region and many of my colleges have great training in other areas. So just shout out!

      Want lots of FREE RESOURCES?? Check out my resources page here!

       

      A couple of us in NLP Trainers Training with John Grinder, Carmen Bostic and Michael Carroll

       

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      In this article, we are going to cover the basics of NLP Anchoring. Perhaps you will get some insight to how to improve or use this in your daily life. By the end you will know the various forms of anchors and how you can set one.

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      What is NLP Anchoring (or a Anchor in Coaching talk)?

      An anchor is a stimulus that creates a response in either you or in another person. It could be as simple as a stop sign or a word.

      When an individual is at a peak of an experience, during an intense. emotional state, and if a specific stimulus is applied, a neurological link is established between the emotional state and the stimulus. As Dr Joe Dispenza likes to say, Neurons that fire together, wire together. And with NLP we wire that neural activity to a anchor such as the stop sign or word.

      Some anchors span each of our representational systems (or senses) and these are generally more powerful then using just one system. Often I’ll meditate and prior to starting use a little oil or incense to anchor / prepare mentally for the coming meditation.

      We develop good and bad anchors automatically throughout our lives. Often people ask me to work with removing anchors even though they have no idea of that language. NLP Coaching or training will help enable you to identify and choose anchors while for most people it’s completely unconscious.

      A great anchor is ‘used against us’ when they have comfort breaks in the middle of the film at the cinemas. As soon as you walk into a cinema it’s pretty hard to not notice the smell of popcorn. Even people that don’t normally eat popcorn often find themselves buying it the cinemas.

      Greater or more mischievous anchors commonly exists in romantic and family relationships. If you are already in a relationship you may like to talk to a NLP Coach about collapsing anchors that already exist in your relationship.

      If you would like to learn more about NLP anchoring, including learning the various anchoring techniques described below, then you can join us at one of our NLP Training Courses or apply for a session with a NLP certified Coach.

       

      Keys to effective anchoring

      • Intensity of experience. Make sure that the intensity of the experience is high.
      • Timing of the anchor.  Apply the anchor when the intensity of the experience is at its highest.
      • Uniqueness of the stimulus.  Use a part of the body that is not normally touched eg Knuckle.
      • Replication of the stimulus.  Reapply the stimulus repeatedly to ensure that the anchor is firmly embedded into the neurology.
      • Number of times. Test the anchor repeatedly to exercise the neural pathway.

      You can generate visualauditorykinestheticolfactory, and gustatory anchors.  The least preferred representational system of a person is the one that it is most powerful to use with them as it is the one that you are most sensitive to.

       

      Steps in NLP Anchoring

      1. Recall a past vivid event, experience.
      2. Anchor – provide a specific stimulus.
      3. Change state.
      4. Test (Place the stimulus) – Evolve the state.

       

      Example Exercise: Anchoring the feeling of confidence.

      1. Recall a time when you felt really confident.  When you think of that time do you have a picture?  Get that picture.
      2. When you notice the picture place a finger from one hand on the knuckle of the other hand (remember which knuckle you selected!).  Release the finger after a maximum of 20 seconds or earlier if you get the sense of the picture or feeling leaving you.
      3. Change your state by looking out of the window or smelling the air in the room that you are in.
      4. Replace your finger on the knuckle and notice for that feeling of confidence returning.

       

       

       

      NLP Resource Anchor

      An anchor for when you want to boost energy, confidence, motivation, or any other powerful state of being. One that you do for yourself. Pray is a great example.

       

      NLP Stacked Anchor

      A number of anchors stacked together to increase intensity of the required state. Sometimes I have my clients creating a stacked anchor for excellence. Here we may stack confidence, excitement, fun, humour and compassion on top of each other. Next we an anchor this to a convenient stimulus like rubbing a ring while saying quietly “I can do anything with compassion”.

       

      NLP Chaining Anchors

      Sequential process of moving to a significantly different state.

      Useful for when a client has a significant difference between their present state and the desired state. Each state builds on the one before until the desired state is reached.

       

      NLP Collapse Anchor

      Replacing a negative anchor with a positive one for the same stimulus. 

      (Great for nasty relationships and bad habits)

       

      NLP Search Anchor

      An anchor used to identify the source of a problem or issue.

      (Great for personal development and certain types of meditation)

      Ok, now you have a good knowledge base, time for you to create your own Anchor for excellence or perhaps a powerful stacked anchor. Once you have created one, it’s up to you to build it up and make it more powerful and more useful through practice.

      If in China or on Wechat: feel free to follow our channel or connect with Adrian Cahill to ask any of your NLP, Coaching or Professional Development questions.

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      Why do some people achieve financial freedom and have great lives while others struggle? Today we are going to address the 3 biggest misconceptions or myths about wealth. This was trimmed up and inspired by Mr. Roger James Hamilton,  Founder of Entrepreneurs Institute. I’ve bought his book and his thoughts really aligned to a lot of things I learned from my experience particularly these Misconceptions.

      1st Myth: Wealth Comes from Passive Income

      MYTH

      You can get wealthy by going into debt to buy assets that will give you passive income so you no longer have to work for a living.

      TRUTH

      how-important-is-passive-income-to-your-wealth-building-strategyYou’ve just dug a hole, not a river! All income needs to be managed, which means you need to know how to manage a team and experts who can manage your portfolio of assets.

      A critical part of creating or building your wealth is building assets that make up cash flow. With the aspiration that they can provide continues passive income, a lot of people stretched their resources to purchase a property or any other assets and eventually encountered a loss. Then they would just discover that the value of these assets fall which causes a negative cash flow as well as the messing up of their credit ratings.

      But these things didn’t happen to the wealthiest people, do you know why? It is because these wealthy people understand that their assets (whether the business or properties) need to be handled appropriately, and there is practically nothing passive regarding it.

      2nd Myth: Wealth Comes from Multiple Streams of Income

      MYTH

      The more income streams you can start, the wealthier you will become.

      TRUTH

      Starting many streams at the same time is like trying to push many balls up a hill at the same time: You may get started, but you end up losing your focus and your time. Success comes from growing teams, not streams: multiple teams of income.

      When you’re just getting started, this myth just might be among the most dreadful ones. However, it’s risky at each point. In the event that everybody around you is uncertain what your major concentration and focus actually is, where you stand and what your spot on the field is – you will likely persistently run after that ball instead of letting it get kicked to you.

      Money doesn’t make money, people generate the income. This idea is what people recognize as they step up the wealth ladder. Prior to investing in the assets you shall take on, you must put the money into the most appropriate people, otherwise you end up being the only one performing all the necessary juggling and it is just a matter of time before you start dropping the ball.

      Myth #3: Wealth Comes from your Exit Strategy

      MYTH

      Wealth comes when you sell out: Plan an exit strategy where you can work hard now and earn the money later.

      TRUTH

      changenextexitKeep working, because you love what you do. Don’t strive to bake a pie so you can sell it; own the bakery so you can bake as many pies as you want, sell some, and keep the rest.

      Instead of an exit strategy which is leaving the game, change it with a success strategy or staying on top of the game. Remaining engaged in what they do is what makes the wealthiest people on earth who they are, because it doesn’t feel like working hard when you do what you love. Any kind of exit strategies are useless when moving up on the wealth ladder.

      Many of us are connected to one another through the market. The FACTS above are actually a better way in which building assets is changed by creating flow. In this flow everything is interconnected, so when you become a part of its enhancing, nurturing and expanding, it surrounds you. It makes aiming to work out different ways of making money and staying in the game that much more essential.

      Your greatest asset will be your time and effort. What matters most is to invest it properly. Maintain a success strategy in something which you are certain you love doing, wihout expecting any payment in return.

      You are welcome to follow us on Facebook here, and subscribe here to get the massive free educational series focused on raising your emotional intelligence, social intelligence and self mastery.

      Go to the Free Resources page where you can find free resources showing you specifically how to measure you net wealth, cashflow and also, assess your current Wealth Mindest!

      A few days ago I mentioned AirBnB and Couch Surfing.  A few people were surprised to know that I had used Couch Surfing in over 60 Countries and I still use it occasionally today. This is the story about my CS profile picture. People were asking where this photograph came from and I love to share a little story about how it came about.

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      This was one of my most fantastic cultural experiences EVER!

      I remember back before I had ever left my home country, back in my early 20’s, my partner at the time was reading the a book about the Masai. I was really focused on work making money and going to Africa was not on the cards. There was no way I could picture my self here in this place.

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      Chilling with the boys

      Maybe I was Couch Surfing and back packing but I was doing the Europe trip. Africa was kind of by chance. And in this village, there is no internet, no Wifi, actually, there isn’t even electricity. At night there was a house however there were no lights or plumbing. There is no running water. There were one or two buildings and the rest were all Mud huts.

      This village is one of the many Masai villages that are spread vastly across Tanzania and Kenya. Across the famous Serengeti Savannah. This is the scene for many books and adventures. The Lion King by Disney, was also made out here.

      After 10 months of backpacking Europe, my parents wanted to catch up. Since East Timor, Afghanistan, Backpacking I haven’t seen much of them and thanks to the deployments, we were all doing well financially. My parents organized a 2-3 week Safari in Kenya. They paid the Safari, my sister and I paid our flights and spending $. One of the first stops on our Safari (a truck with camping gear and about 12 Westerners) was near this village in Loita Hills, near the township of Narok. Although we were only there for a 2 days, I was at a bit of an advantage being x-military and already speaking basic Swahili.
      Within minutes of meeting everyone I was separated from the tour and by myself laughing and playing jokes with some of the Masai. We went on a bit of a walk, saw some huts, and they put on a dance and performance. Despite sounding touristy, and being on a Safari (which is a tour group) it was a pretty unique and ‘green’ eco conscious tour.

      At night time the Chief came to our Camp site and told us a story or two about the Masai. At the end of the story, he offered his hut if anyone wanted to spend a night in the smelly hot hut that we had visited during the day. The one with the cow and babies crying in it. Of course, no one was keen. So I said yes. And that was one of the best YES’s I have ever given in my LIFE. While the rest of my Safari were getting ready for quiet sleeps on Air mattresses in their tents, I walked with the Chief and the Masai back to their village. (Two Masai Stayed to guard the Safari from wild animals). The walk was ….. The Chief had his torch out ensuring the lion wasn’t near. Before we got to the hut, I could hear the music.

      We entered this hut earlier in the day. We walked in and out as there wasn’t enough room and it was hot, yucky smelly, but something you ‘had’ to see. But this night, there was a gathering inside. Fire blazing, at least 15 people were around the fire with a dance circle, kids at the back, and a baby cow by the fire. The music, was all made from their vocal cords. They were chanting and taking turns dancing. And I must have been one of the luckiest Muzungu (white person) to be alive witnessing this.

      The singing and dancing went on for some time. We drank some herbal, home brew drink, and even I had a dance. After everyone left, I went to sleep on one of the spaces, like a bench a foot off the ground, made of sticks, with cow hides over it for padding. The next day I returned to the Safari, breathless. I couldn’t and still can’t describe the sensation, the ultimate travel cultural experience of ones life time. After my family left Africa, I stayed for another month. I hitched a ride back to Narok. Met the village Chief. Bought a small goat. And joined them again. This time, no safari, just me, my 8kg bag, and a goat which quickly became barbequed.

       

       

      Motivate Shanghai by the way, is my Coaching & Training Company in China.

      These young men on the left of me are the Masai Warriors. They are only young. around 16-18 years old. They have left home. Their job is to patrol the outer perimeters of the villages. They are responsible for chasing and hunting out any Lions or big predators.

      The boy to my right, he comes from a far away village. He comes to work and live as a ‘herder’ in this village. He spends his day with the animals making sure they are safe and taken care of. He earns a very small salary. The little kids on the right, are children of the Village Chief. Would you like to see the Chief?

      Here is the Chief, enjoying the goat I gave them for having me.

      The Chief, and the Goat.

      Now the Chief is very fortunate. He has a lot of land under his control. He has some wealth. He also has a fair few children with 3 different wives. His religion is limited. He believes in Nature and “the big daddy in the sky” (as he told me). However his last wife is Christian. The Chief respects this and says, he will not have any more wives now.
      One thing with Wealth though, they don’t have luxuries but the Chief’s children go to a local school and focus more on education where some of the poorer kids will work on the farm. Such is life.

      Around the School! These buildings are the local school.

      This is the school. There are actually a couple of buildings like this. No Electricity, lights, no windows, Hakuna Matata.

      But they have desks!

      Life is very different here. THEY ARE SO HAPPY

       

      The people here are so happy. Its very interesting that they have so little but are so content. It really made me relise that us ‘Developed’ People, are maybe not so developed after all. Perhaps these Africans can teach us a thing or too about having a successful happy life.

      Now as we sleep tonight in our beds, these men here, they currently hold all of their possessions in their hands. They don’t have beds. They don’t have blankets. They don’t have bottled water or even a tap. Yet they have many things we may lack.  Curiosity, passion, enthusiasm, and time.

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      Most people see these guys on BBC or something. Most tourist take a photo. I spent the week with them. One day we walked 10km and back, for a Soda.

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      For hosting me, I had to contribute, I don’t free load and I didn’t want any money exchange so I gave them a goat. It was a good goat too.

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      Like most of Africa, not enough financial support. This is the school bus.

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      Or possible the best!Had you not been in China (or followed NihaoSuzhou Channel), you would never have known of these fantastic things..

       

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      A bookstore where books are sold by kilos

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      A commuter train along Chongqing’s light rail that penetrates an apartment every day

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      A cannon that is used to spray water on smoggy and hot days in Chongqing Municipality

       

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      Pretty girls wearing cheongsam for graduate photo shooting

       

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      A matchmaking event whose attendees are not young men and women but their parents

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      A zookeeper wears tigger costume for an emergency drill, threatening the real tiger how it will end up after an escape.

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      And an emergency drill in a zoo where a zookeeper wears wolf costume

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      Almost every student in a classroom wears glasses

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      Peaches so neatly packed…

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      Students tossing textbooks after gaokao, the national college entrance examination

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      A ticket vending machine with English instructions but does not sell any ticket to foreigners.

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      A Bumble-bee who fails to transform into a car when the police arrive

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      Children who are so addicted to diggers that there are actually mini diggers for them in the park

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      A nation so crazy about hotpot that people line up for hours to get in their favorite hotpot restaurant

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      Food prepared, cooked, and served by robots

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      A supermarket where customers like eating fruit so much more than buying any

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      Smart inventors of sporting full-face caps which later becomes a worldwide beach fashion

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      Parents who carry every piece of luggage for their children as they enroll into university

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      Lottery winners who receive prizes in costumes

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      A vocational school to train digger drivers with an incredible commencement

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      A woman riding an electric bike with a child in a bucket! Isn’t that a step child or what?

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      A well in Wuhan whose lid is sooooooo fragile

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      A well in Wuhan whose lid is sooooooo fragile

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      Talented students who are so good at claiming their “territory”

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      Talented students who are so good at claiming their “territory”

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      A woman sleeping on a 5-centimeter-wide road fence in Harbin

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      So many smart supermarket staff who have so much free time

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      A playground track that turns this sharply

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      An inner city waterway that turns red in Wenzhou city

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      Fresh air sold in cans

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      Obama-fried-chicken

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      A hairdresser who cuts your hair with a sickle

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      A hairdresser who cuts your hair with a sickle

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      A crime scene where the casualty is a crab (an expensive hairy crab!)

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      A car made entirely of bricks

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      A car made entirely of bricks

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      Giant panda keepers who are so caring

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      Such a beautiful haircut before the National Day

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      A vendor who says exactly what he’s selling

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      A vendor who says exactly what he’s selling

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      Soldiers who never worry about not having a pan

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      Such a strong pool cue

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      A city caring so much about sanitation that a 200-metre-long walkway is lined with more than 100 trash bins

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      Eggs that are cooked in the urine of virgin boys

      If you know of anything that can top the photos on this list, feel free to send it with us!

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      If life was a garden

      Recently I was asked by a client in Shanghai about removing negative thought patterns. In fact, I’m kinda asked this a lot however not always so directly. 

      Removing negative thought patterns:

      One might wonder how good it would be to remove your negative thought patterns however there is a bit more to it then simply just loosing it. If they were removed, what would take its place. One might imagine there could be a vacuum, or an abscence. Since ever action has a reaction. Or every effect, has a cause.

      I like to imagine it like a garden.

      Hence The Garden Metaphor.

      If life was a garden, what would you want to grow?

      It’s a simple and effective metaphor to a successful life. Pull out the weeds, grow beautiful plants.

      1. Love and warmth
      2. Appreciation and gratitude
      3. Curiosity
      4. Passion
      5. Devotion
      6. Confident
      7. Flexible
      8. Cheeky Vibrant Excited
      9. Healthy energetic
      10. Helping others, fulfilled

      We also call these plants, Power Emotions.
      Powerful emotions which fuel us and give us strength. Wouldn’t it be great to be feeling these emotions everyday!

      Sometimes there are weeds in my garden.  Sometimes there is anger, exhaustion,  sadness.

      Removing negative thought patterns:

      It’s ok to want to pull these weeds out. Our society often sees them as bad or negative but we need to realise that bad or negative are judgements. Generally people percieve judging as bad, yet we are quick to judge bad or negative emotions. Perhaps we should call these, less plesant emotions. And we need to realise that we couldn’t exsist without them. They form part of the circle of life. However they are part of the circle, and certainly shouldn’t be experienced in excess. 
       
      So we need to recognise these emotions are here for a reason.
      Sometimes we pull one out and another grows quickly in its place. Especially if the ground is bare.

      You wouldn’t pull out all the weeds and just leave it bare would you? No you would pull them out and quickly replace them with plants or weedproof matting. And good gardeners know, there is no such thing as weed proof. Only weed resistant. So I look at the weed before I pull it out. It’s grown there for a reason.  Why is that.  Oh, I need more beautiful plants or perhaps its time to plant some flexibility or devotion.

      In order to remove the weeds effectively, what if instead of focusing on the weeds, we were to do our best to grow strong beautiful plants which will bear fruit and seeds for more beautiful plants. Slowly, or perhaps quickly one could end up with a beautiful garden, perhaps so beautiful that any remaining weeds are barely noticed or a problem anymore.
       

      Fill your life like a beautiful garden.  Appreciate that weeds are as natural as flowers. I’m sure if you keep a focus on this trying to remove negative thought patterns will be a thing of the past.

       
      These Power Emotions came from Tony Robbins. One of my favourite teachers. I spent all this June studying for Master Practitioner in New Code NLP with Daniel Smith in Beijing and of an evening going over Tony Robbins Relationship course. Tony himself uses a fair bit of NLP in his work however he also brings out a lot of stuff I haven’t seen anywhere else. I dream and hope to be able to help people as good as he does. And, I really look forward to helping you and your development in growing loveable life.
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      Hi there, this article was originally written for my female friends in Shanghai. This is extremely relevant to women and perhaps men everywhere however I wrote it for Shanghai women in particular because this city is simply so dry on available men, and so full of amazing women. We are going to dive deep and fast into one of the biggest problems single people need to face.

      What I’m going to share with you could well be one of the biggest keys for successful dating that most coaches without adequate training would easily miss. It looks kind of simple, it sounds kind of simple, it could be simple. Perhaps being aware of it, could be the start of a big change for you.

      Thank you for taking the time to read this. It shows you are already open minded and able to look at things from different angles. It’s important that you keep your mind open as I’m wondering, are you aware of what’s really holding you back?

      Go on take a guess. Or pull out the excuse you normally use. And perhaps it’s true. Looking deeper we are all faced with similar fundamental fears.

      Deeper down you may be a little bit or perhaps shit scared of being alone. Not being good enough. Perhaps not having children and hitting late 30’s. After coaching many women through this, I’ve picked up a thing or two. These fears are extremely common and the problems are different, but the underlying human behavior is like a code. The code is the secret. Deep down, we are all running on autopilot. Reacting to everything that happens quickly or predictably based on the past rather than based on the future. It’s human nature. But we can all do better.

      Now you made the choice to come here, you’re looking for the more success, therefore the next question is….

       

      Is there a science to successful dating?

      Firstly, to make it really happen for you in the dating and relationships game, you may want to consider learning more about this code. Think, if you could decode your behaviour, or someone elses behaviour, you could do so much more. The self awareness, ability to influence, to capture a heart really expands.

      With new self awareness people tend to start to pick up on their fears and this is one of the first places for change to take place.

      There needs to a letting go of one or more of the three fundamental fears. Letting go of the fundamental fears is like jumping into the deep end of a pool for the first time.  Do you know what these fundamental fears are?

      Any Idea?

      Honestly, it’s pretty easy to be told or to read what they are and you will in a minute, however you really need to take it in slowly and on a deep level. This is serious stuff and really connecting to the message will assist you in your journey where ever your are in it!

      The biggest thing holding you back is most likely to be one or a blend of these three fundamental fears:

       

      • Fear of not being loved.

      OMG. What if no one loves you?

      What if you try so hard and end up single.

      Will your parents love you if no one else will?

      Think about a little dog for a minute. Now the owner ignores the dog for a long time. Or a child.

       

      • Fear of not belonging.

      We are human beings. We come from a family.

      We have a deep sense of needing to belong. We did for survival.

      Humans came out of caves and created societies. There is a fear of getting kicked out or dis owned.

       

      • Fear of not being enough.

      Your approaching 30 or 40, your single, what do your parents think of you?

      Well your parents probably and should love you. But still we fear not being enough.

      Our entire upbringing was a struggle and constant series of developments to be enough.

      What if we aren’t good enough?

       

       

      I urge you to read them again slowly, and consider how you ‘do’ each fear. Do you ignore it, steam roll over it, or does it affect you a bit more than that?

      It’s absolutely normal to have these fears, they are natural.

      However they naturally and for some dramatically, hold us back!

      Constantly I see men, wanting to approach a pretty woman, but he can’t. If she rejects him, he fears ‘not being loved’, being laughed at or not belonging to his or the greater society circles. The man also has to be concerned, is he good enough.

      The same situation applies for women.

       

       

      How do you react to these fears and which ones do you relate to most?

      If these fears did not resonate with you, think about it from a logical detached point of view (as in, get out of your own head, heart, ego and pride zone).

      What would someone that feared not being love do?

      What characteristics would they posses?

      What kind of things would they do?

      Do you know any friends that are like that?

      Do you do any of that?

      Repeating the procedure, with what would someone that feared not belonging, not belonging to their family, social circle, belonging with others.

      How about someone that feared not being enough. Not being enough to others, not being enough to themselves.

      What would be the signs of these fears, do you know anyone that clearly has the signs or fear? Do you do any of that?

      It’s most likely you do! It is very unlikely you don’t.

       

      The true effect:

      Think about it. Two people very very similar. One is afraid of not being loved, belonging or not being enough. The other person is aware of their fear, minimized it, and has strategies in place to counter act it. They may even appear or actually become fearless. Who would you rather be with?

      Personally I still feel these fears at times. In fact, years ago, I felt them a lot! I learned to how to manage fear and you can too. With or without relationship coaching these fears can be identified in most people.

      Courage

      How I deal with it:

      For me, I found that awareness helped a lot. Now days, I’m much more in tune to my body and emotions. I feel this fear coming on. Generally I see, hear or know something is coming. Or perhaps it’s just a thought in my dead. Then I feel the fear growing and wait, hang on, that’s fear!

      Then I ask myself. Why is that feeling there? Where is it coming from? Is it doing me any good? Realistically, looking at myself from a third person perspective, should I, or is there any real purpose in feeling fear. Perhaps its silly, perhaps its acceptable. Most frequently it doesn’t really serve me well and I want to minimize it. So I acknowledge the fear, then work on moving straight through. Moving how? One step after the next. Realizing the fear is silly, laughing at it, re-framing it, or just forcing myself to continue focusing on positive aspects. If you keep focusing on positive aspects, you will keep seeing and feeling those positive aspects. You can do this too!

      Short Cut:

      Now that you have learned this, you should find yourself with a lot more awareness and options for overcoming challenges. If you really want to overcome fears and challenges. Consider working with a qualified coach or even a new coach in training. If you really want to get the results and begin a new life reach out to me and if I can’t coach you myself, I will happily introduce you to another fantastic coach that can.
      Love-yourself-chalk

       

       


      Change Happens, Growth is Optional…
      Choose Wisely.

      Adrian Cahill ACC

      Its 4pm in Shanghai,

      I have a new apartment here with 2 spare rooms. I put up my places on AirBnB and Couch Surfing.

      Yesterday I got a message from an AirBnB person, Jessica from Seoul, wanting to rent out the room for  a few night. We exchanged a couple of messages, then she booked the room. Not quiet sure if there are any penalty fees yet or references if we cancel, its just the start of my hosting on AirBnB.

      Last month I had a great AirBnB experience. My Friend John and I rented out an apartment on Honk Kong Island. Everything was smooth and easy.

      John has a full write up on AirBnB here  http://www.nayler.com/blog/default.asp?niid=1719&thisyear=2014

      For a quick $25USD head start use this link  www.airbnb.com.au/c/lzhou55  or go through Johns,

      Many people know me through CouchSurfing (CS). I have one of the biggest or most experienced profile for CS in China and Australia. I struggle to find  a couch in Hong Kong, I struggle to get a couch anytime I travel with a partner.
      Today, and actually occasionally, I get phone calls from people that have found my phone number on my CS profile. Today I got one from a girl asking about renting out my spare room. Lucky for my Intuition and Experience in CS. I asked her to write to me on CS or send a picture sms of some identification, as I have a house and I need to know who you are. She hung up and sent a pile of SMS’s saying I was stupid. This continued with more saying I was a pig. Poor thing clearly needs help. If I was an in-experienced Couch Surfer, I may have hosted her.

      Despite having my couch set to Open I have not got what I would consider a fair to nice CS request in some months. On AirBnB, I’m getting nice request from people that want to pay a little to use my house (room or couch) and they have profiles and a verification system with much more integrity then CS. I still love what CS has done for me, and have my CS friends, and even regularly attend CS meetups. However for hosting, I’m using AirBnB.

      If you are thinking about the same,

      Go to Johns write up http://www.nayler.com/blog/default.asp?niid=1719&thisyear=2014

      Or go straight to your free credit here.  www.airbnb.com.au/c/lzhou55

      www.airbnb.com.au/c/lzhou55

       

      Are you using CS?  My profile is here. Its just that my experience and time here, provides very good reasoning to my opinions and credibility.

      My CS Profile

      Do you remember (or perhaps your still there), when you were in your young twenties, having a night out with your buddies, in one of your favourite locations. This night you were really in your moment. You met a special someone. You kick it off greatly, you have a good understanding of each other or things in common. Maybe they knew one of your friends. Connected somehow. The stars aligned. With this person you shared the stories or knowledge of some events or things that happen in the past. You plan something for the future. Perhaps a coffee, another date or more.

      That is LUCK.

      Recently I was visiting my Sister in Brisbane Australia. I was walking in the city and an attractive lady was near by walking the same direction. We were 10 or so meters away. Understanding fear I quickly made the move and broke the ice with her. Making a quick and almost Instant Connection. She looked Korean so I just tried my luck and said hello in Korean. I demonstrated an understanding and connection with her culture and knowledge of what its like living in a new city. Exchange Kakao Talk (Like Skype) details and met up a few days later for lunch.

      That was very rewarding and LUCK.

       
      Luck is based on the following ingredients:
      Location
      Understanding
      Connections
      Knowledge

       

      Weather its dating, making money, or playing basket ball, the same ingredients are required. 

      Look quickly at Warren Buffet. He is in the game of Investing, that is his location. He isn’t on the Basket Ball court or Holly Wood.

      He Understands the Stock Trading Game. He has the connections, so much so that the deals come to him. Lastly he has the Knowledge to play and win.

      Michael Jordan, He isn’t playing Golf. He is tall and into Basket Ball. That is his location. He Understands the Game, what it takes to win. He is connected with multiple teams. The other players on the court. His coach, marketing manager, advisors. His knowledge is in the game of Basketball, and he knows it well. He doesn’t know Marketing or Branding. He has a branding manager for that.

       

      How does LUCK affect you

      This is a free blog write up, you didn’t pay for it and, sure, you can access or find much more. So why would you want to pay for a course or for full access to all the materials on my site? Or why would someone pay to access your site, for your advice or to hear you speak.

      There is a good answer to this question. It’s good to understand how Charging or Charging more adds value to your product.

       

      1. When you pay for something, it has a lot more value.

      Two people are running courses on selling something. One is free and the other is normally $400 per day, but discounted for you and available at $250 per day. Which course do you think has more value?

      I’ve seen lots of free courses advertised; 1-2 day workshops. Half the time you are there, they are trying to sell a product. They give you a little bit of free content, just a little bit, and their success stories. Therefore, you have to go to the paid event to get anything useful.  I’ve also seen paid courses; 1 day to 1 year long courses loaded with support and materials.

      I wrote a blog some time ago too and read a similar blog by Seth Godwin. Seth spoke about how a $70 bottle of wine tastes better than a $7 bottle of wine. There was even a study done where price tags were switched, suddenly the cheap wine tasted better. Now that became a fact. What we make from it is that people expect the $70 wine to taste better.

       

      2.  Attachment           

      When exchanging money or time for something you become more attached to it. You invest in it. Hence, you want to get more from it.

      Let’s change the wine for a movie. Paying for a movie at a theatre is not the same as watching a movie on the TV at home. It’s not just about the popcorn; you can make that at home. There is a different connection to a movie in a theatre. For starters, you plan it, you look forward to it. Your expectations are higher and you invest in it. Additionally, you maintain your mobile at the silent mode, you don’t talk when it starts and you are paying for it. So, you are focused. You’re more engaged. Afterwards, you may even get on Facebook and tell your friends about it.

      What’s of more value to you?

      1. A free MP4 series on meditation, or paying to attend a packed out meditation session with the Dalai Lama.
      2. Reading a book about the Bible or Koran or having one on one time with a Priest or Sheikh.
      3. Attending a free seminar about stock trading / property dealing, or attending a talk by Warren Buffet or Donald Trump.
      4. Reading Blogs on a free website about improving something, or getting a manual, audio series, and step by step guidance check sheets on how to improve that same thing.

       

      Knowing this should help you if you are selling something. Or consider buying some mentoring or educational products.

      Paying for courses, seminars, workshops that align to your wants, needs, desires can be so beneficial. Reading free blogs by people that haven’t achieved what you are trying to achieve doesn’t take you far.

      If you are serious about where you are going and have your direction, strongly consider paying for good mentoring or good hands to help assist you on your journey. There is no need to go it alone when you can be achieving so much more. Remember, once you have heavily invested in your direction, the path will become clearer and more solid. Also, you will reap the benefits of having invested in that journey.

      I don’t know a single person who has succeeded without investing heavily in himself.  The only way to succeed is to invest in yourself and your chosen journey…you must be willing to make the investment!

       

      The Late Nelson Mandela said it best,

      “Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.” 

      The saying goes, “Learn from those who have done it”. When it comes to Adrian it’s all experience. Being able to leave his full time job and travel for over 4 years before the age of 28 is an accomplishment most people dream of at the age of 58.…   Brian Peters, www.peterspartnership.com.au

       

      For those that who don’t know, I’m one of the most experienced Couch Surfers in Australia and China (where I spend half my time). I’ve met thousands of members and stayed in over a hundred houses with over a hundred people being accommodated with me in my house. This has given me a fantastic opportunity to learn and share with people all around the world.

      Since 2007 I’ve been studying Emotional Intelligence and later NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming. NLP is often used for coaching others to success or adjusting psychology/influence to get positive results. I later went on to study Life Coaching under the ICF (International Coaching Federation) as well to increase my ability to help others and play a great positive role in the communities I’m active in.

      Coaching is totally fantastic. The success rates achieved by qualified and experienced coaches are so high. Honestly, I started NLP Coaching in 2012. It wasn’t until I combined that with what I was leaning from the ICF that I really started to see results. .

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      In NLP and Coaching, we share a saying:

      “Everyone is doing the best they can with the resources they have available.”

      I feel that this could be modified to:

      “Everyone is doing the best they can with the resources they think they have available.”

       

      Well now your getting a grip on what Coaching is, you know I and other Coaches often offer some free coaching so logically, your resources have just increased no matter what your circumstances are.

       

      Now lets see this in action with an example of some NLP Coaching in Kuala Lumpur with my good friend/client Chen.

      Chen doesn’t pay me directly, and originally we were just friends however we created this Mentor-Student-Coaching relationship.

      Chen has a strong desire to improve his dating and has read a couple of books about picking up girls, or dating as a polite way to say it. I also read a couple of books about dating and became so good at it, that I ended up with countless girlfriends across Europe/Asia. It’s unbelievable how easy and rewarding dating can be when one has a deep understanding of them selves, others and communication.

      Now Chen sees this as an opportunity to ask questions and sort out some of his thoughts. “Is this dating stuff in the books for real? Does it work?”

      I’m sitting opposite Chen nodding up and down. “Yes mate, it certainly CAN work. It can be amazing when you figure it out. You can find what you are looking for!”

      Chen has one big problem holding him back. (This is pretty good, normally people have much more, or we are just looking at one issue here now):

      “I’m Malaysian Chinese man! No girl wants to date me, just look at me,” said Chen.

      Chen is an average character, not really good looking but certainly not ugly. He has a non-athletic with Chinese appearance. Chen believes girls don’t find this attractive and this is the reason why he can’t get a date. In fact Chen even told me many Malaysian Indian guys were doing better than him and when he saw them succeeding with girls from his university he got even more stressed. Chen firmly believed that he couldn’t get a date because he is of Chinese appearance .

      This is what we call a “Limiting Belief”. Some people think it’s there teeth, their lack of confidence or alpha status. Some think it’s an ability to connect or not knowing what to say.

      “I’m Malaysian Chinese man! No girl wants to date me, just look at me.”

       

      There are many techniques for changing or blowing  out a Limiting Beliefs. For Chen’s limiting belief I went at it from two angles. Firstly challenging, secondly re-framing. These are the kind of questions I asked:   (Please note, this came from Chen at the time. There not my beliefs!)

      • What’s the problem? – I’m Chinese. Girls don’t want to date Chinese
      • How is that really a problem? – Girls don’t like Chinese.
      • Don’t they? Says Who? – Everyone knows it.
      • Why is that?  – Because Chinese is not good enough and not attractive.
      • Why is that? – Chinese don’t do attractive things. We don’t look masculine or fit.

       

      The thing here is that for Chen, he believes that Chinese guys are unattractive. There is nothing actually wrong with him, just his self-image.

      Secondly, we worked on re-framing the situation with some NLP techniques and after 30 minutes this is what we got from Chris.

      “Ordinary Chinese are not physically attractive to most western women and I can use this to my advantage. Women won’t suspect or see me coming! They can judge me however they want. And if they judge me poorly, I can use it to my advantage! it will be even easier to sweep them off their feet! I can talk to them easily, confidentially and friendly.”

      “I’m not really masculine or strong, but I’m not fat. I’m actually pretty healthy.”

      “The real reason I haven’t had much success is that I thought I wasn’t good enough. I’m definitely good enough for a great woman and I will concentrate more on reinforcing a better self image!”

       Done. Limiting belief challenged and re-framed positively!

       

      Six months later, I went past Malaysia and visited Chen again. He looks like a new man. He put on a few Kilograms of muscle. He had been going to the gym because he has become genuinely interested in his health and fitness. He even had a big thick book with him about Men’s Health and was reading ALL of it. It was fantastic to see his new passion and zest for life.

       

      Twelve months later, I passed again and Chen now lives a very healthier lifestyle, attends a weekly Salsa event where he is making himself known for spinning the women around on and off the dance floor. Chen is no longer dating as he has himself a great girlfriend from Finland.

      Just a couple of directed, well worded questions helped Chen see things from a new angle which lead to him being a much better person and ultimately finding a dream Girlfriend. It doesn’t always work like out like. Well, it more often does. But be aware, some things are un-coachable. Just hit the contact button and ask away though. Although I’m not spending much time Coaching in Kuala Lumpur these days. I would love to visit Chen and my friends there and well, hey, Malaysia rocks!

       

      Now remember, “Everyone is doing the best they can with the resources they have available” or “Everyone is choosing what to do with the resources they think they have available”. So you know you can contact me, and if we were friends before Salamat datang, and even if we weren’t you can still contact me with your questions. If your a person that takes action, now would be a good time.

      In addition to this, here is a good article about how to gain more social confidence. Great if your trying to improve your dating life!!

      words to ponder

      How to hire a coach may seem simple but it’s often not. So this is an article for those looking at hiring me or any coach. Here I will share how to hire a coach, and valuable insights. Really upfront and honest is my favourite approach to most things in life. 

      Spending money on yourself is one of the best investments you can make provided you are likely to get a good return. Investing in books or online courses can be great investments if you action what you read and really implement it. Although people are often telling me reading or online courses rarely get them long term results. Often people suffer procrastination and fear of actually pursuing big goals, therefore for those people, buying more literature can be another form of procrastination. A way to keep busy, keeping up the appearance of progress meanwhile avoiding the tough questions we often need to ask ourselves.

      CAN YOU ACTUALLY GET MASSIVE RESULTS BY YOURSELF?

      I believe you can, but if you could, you already would.  

       

      There are various types of coaching and just briefly, I see life coaching as the basis. The most abstract. Business, Executive, Relationship, Leadership Coaches as those focusing in on the specifics. In my opinion, one should start abstract, grasp a solid big picture, build a solid foundation, then focus in on the specifics in a logical highly effective sequence. It’s pointless focusing on a relationship, business or role that doesn’t fit with your values or lead to your mid-long term objectives.  

       

      How to hire a coach: ROI, Return On Investment?

      Good coaching should ideally give you a return at least 5 times the size of your investment. Just as surfing lessons initially cost, but save you tons of time (and potentially save you from getting dumped hard on a shallow reef and breaking your back). 

      It’s obviously hard to measure the value of being …… Fulfilled. Or satisfied with life…

      There have been countless studies by the International Coaching Federation (ICF) showing the returns. One client of mine went from a break-up in a mismatched relationship to getting engaged with a great match in 6 months. Another recently made his first million. Many have changed jobs/careers. Some have saved their relationship. One is about to take list their company on the stock market. 

       

      How to hire a coach: Do people regret coaching? 

      Honestly, I think some do. I hear this a lot and 95% of the time the coaches were not accredited. The ICF is the worlds largest coaching body, however, anyone can call themselves a coach or author, motivational speaker, CEO, founder etc. My 3-year-old daughter can claim all those titles whenever she comes back from daycare. 

      Many self-proclaimed coaches, guru’s, experts have had little to no specific training. To me, these many of these untrained coaches are like washed up surf bums selling themselves at the tourist carpark pretending they are pro’s. They could have possibly been pro’s. Often you can recognise them by a Bali or beachside video or selfies next to a sporst car…..

      If you are a coach, simply ask to see their Linkedin profile and ICF Accreditation (My Linkedin profile is here). This will dramatically reduce the chances and the ICF also provides an avenue for any problems if it falls apart. I see a lot of complaints about coaches after attending events like Tony Robbins. The complaints are always unaccredited coaches. 

       How to hire a coach in china

       

      How to hire a coach: What to look for? 

      • Training. A great coach is often trained in NLP. They should have a Practitioner, Master Practitioner or NLP Trainers Certificate.  This is a core set of skills which lead to accelerated results. (Tony Robbins is a high-level expert in NLP, note he also sells some of the cheapest training available online however his certifications are not really valued much outside of his fan base) 

       

      • ICF (International Coaching Federation) Accreditation. ICF is the worlds biggest coaching body. There are many cheap online courses and books available on coaching but to get the ICF credential is quite some work. There is strict credentialing procedures so few make it all the way. If Coaches make it through you will see them using the ICF logo and one of the following 3 levels ACC, PCC, or MCC. Please note there is also the EMCC (European Mentoring and Coaching Council) which is the European equivalent, only applicable for coaches focused on or with Europeans. I personally went out and got this as maybe half of my online clients are European and I look forward to running training in Europe towards 2020. 

       

      • Ideally, the coach should have a background or understanding in those things you’re striving for. They do not need experience in your industry. That could be a roadblock. What is optimal is if they have helped support others through the challenges you are faced with. 

       

      • Money Back Guarantee. I often offer a money back guarantee on the condition that the person being coached, turns up. No turning up, no refund. Often clients may struggle and it wouldn’t be fair to offer a such a simple way out. Imagine if gyms did this! Therefore my money back guarantee is simply based on the client turning up regularly. No one gets results going to the gym once a month. Subscribe to a set of sessions, turn up weekly or fortnightly, results guaranteed. 

       

      • A track record of successful clients.  This track record should be open and publicly displayed on Linkedin. Yes I’m sure there are some good coaches without Linkedin but really, is your serious about what you do your profile should reflect it. Please note, it’s common for many people to play the fake it game. Hence why I always encourage Linkedin. Also note, many new coaches can and will work happily for a low fee to gain experience and develop.

       

      A final quick and simple sign for a good coach or a good doctor for that matter, the first call is substantial. 

       

      How to hire a coach in china

       

      How to hire a coach: But I don’t have a budget.

      Seeking a coach is a great form of investment in yourself yet most people don’t have the budget for it.

      WHO ON EARTH HAS A COACHING BUDGET?

      I’ll tell you who. They worlds top performers, athletes and executives do. Successful small, medium, big, business owners, CEO’s and partners often do.

      But you probably don’t.

      That’s ok, it’s not your fault.

      Did you go to university? Do you know how much people spend on attending university? Often they can’t afford it, but they find a way.

      After all, spending xxx,xxx on University plus x years studying. Suddenly investing in your own coach is something you can’t afford not to do.

      You spent x years studying. X years working. Why not spend 1 year with a coach focused on working for you!

      Can you really afford NOT TO BE WORKING ON YOUR IMPROVING YOUR OWN LIFE. Instead of ‘How to hire a coach’, perhaps it should have been called ‘How can you not have a coach’. 

       

       

      How to hire a coach: My costs as at November 2017.

      For an ICF PCC level coach with Masters in NLP, the standard company rate in China varies from ¥3000-6000 per hour. For most of my clients this is simply too much so I have highest to lowest cost below.  

      My preferred way of working is ¥88,000 or $13,888 USD for a full year. This covers EVERYTHING for the year including calls to my team! My Relationships Coach and Mindfulness Coach will be available for you. A headset to monitor and train your self to go to deep levels of powerful meditation in between (and sometimes during) our sessions will be sent to your home upon starting. This option guarantees long term change. If you use the headset and train at least an hour a week I will completely back pathway with a money back guarantee. This coaching option is by application only. To be eligible, one should be earning over ¥40,000 a month or a founder of a business with employees.

      Individual Coaching/Mentoring Strategy Sessions are available for purchase for ¥2,000 a session 
      If purchasing 3 or more sessions, a discount of 10-30% is available. 
      If purchasing 8 or more sessions, a discount of  20-50% is available.

      Discount to be discussed. 

      For those earning under ¥25,000 per month, or limited savings, I have trainee coaches, mindfulness coaches and psychologist that may be available to assist. (I’ve personally also coached for an exchange of services, for example, I coached an electrical company in my hometown and they did electrical work for one of my properties). Or sometimes I’ll do a discount if all the ‘coaching’ is done in specific times (or gaps in my schedule). So please just let me know what may work for you. Everyone can grow with a coach. 

       

      To schedule a virtual chat to discuss pathways, please click here: www.calendly.com/adriancahill/virtualcoffee

      For booking strategy sessions (upto 90 minutes), please click here: www.calendly.com/adriancahill/strategysession 

      How to hire a coach in china

       

       

       

       

       

      Big hug

      Adrian

       

      Want to get into Israel without a stamp?

      A lot Middle Eastern countries are strongly against the Israel, due to the occupation of Palestine. The debate about the occupation is not the topic here. Today we are just talking about the Stamp. The dreaded Israel Stamp. The simple sign of this should result in exclusion to Iran, Syria, Israel, Saudi Arabia and possibly other countries. This information is valued and important regardless of your opinion on the Israel/Palestine conflict as to get even into most the remaining Palestinian  lands, you will need to pass through Israel. Getting into Israel without a stamp is important to Middle Eastern Explorers.

      Israel-entrance-stamps

      Traditionally if you were traveling the region you have to construct a touring itinerary so you would visit Israel last, or you have to do it on multiple passports. Most of us don’t have this flexibility so let’s see how your passport can remain free of the Israel stamp.

      Passport stamps have bothered “Western” tourists visiting the Middle East for years.

      allenby-bridge-map

      In the 2000’s to 2013 there was one ‘stamp free’ way in and out safely. This was through the King Hussein also known as Allenby Bridge border crossing with Jordan.

       Israel border

      Inside, the wall between Israel and Palestine

      Travelers could travel the Middle East and quiet easily catch a taxi or shared van from Amman Jordan to this border. At and ONLY at this border, the Jordan authorities, on request could give you their official exit stamp on a separate piece of paper. This piece of paper remains loosely in your passport. If driving private cars they would then continue across a large area to the Israel s immigration offices. Those crossing by foot or taxis would embark in official buses to go the route. There is no option to walk.

      At a final short Jordan checkpoint the piece of paper with the Jordan stamp is taken and Israel Immigration begins.

      The first thing you will notice, besides a lot of people with guns, is that the people holding the guns are generally Teenagers. Their actually High School Graduates, completing their Mandatory Military Service. All Israel boys and girls have to complete this Mandatory Service. Also a lot of fresh US/Russian/European Immigrants also may have to or often choose to do this service.

      Israel stamps

      bus ride across borders

      Here at the Israel Checkpoints you will begin the Israel Immigration process. Arabs and non Arabs are separated and treated differently. Some are treated like criminals, the others are not as fortunate. Luckily you’re probably not an Arab. Anyone who is a considered a possible risk will be held up for interviews. Those that are very clearly safe to Israel or Israeli’s themselves, should pass through relatively quickly. People are separated from their bags and I have heard a lot of stories of theft from bags while they are passing through immigration. (I’ve heard about this from the Airport as well).

      Males aged between 20-40 are a primary risk. As is any one with (besides Jordan) other Middle Eastern Stamps in their passport, anyone with Muslim names or passports will probably be held up as well. Waits are generally between 1-12 hours. Also note: At this place there is no WiFi and Jordan Mobile phones will not work in this area.

      Most people have informed me that after all the non-Arabs are processed, they then start on the Arabs. Many of these guys are the Palestinians returning home or crossing Israel borders to visit family/work and the like.

      After the interviews and immigration checks, if allowed in, you are ready for the Israel Stamp. If you ask, they will put it on a separate piece of paper which stays with your passport for the duration of your stay.

      On completion of Israel you can return to Jordan through this same border crossing. A thorough passport inspection will show that you have spent some time in Jordan not Israel. Be aware, getting into Israel without a stamp is not a BIG secret. The other Arab countries know about it. If they suspect that you have been in Israel, perhaps your passport shows a week in Egypt, a week in Lebanon, a week in Syria then 4 weeks in Jordan…. There is a chance they will suspect that you have been in Israel and that suspicion alone can lead to rejection. Hot tip! Learn basic  Arabic, the more the better.

      Is it hard to get in to Israel:

      In my opinion a non-Arab, non-Muslim should have no real issues. Just the time delay, interview and hassle. Any Arab, Muslim or anyone on their registers as entering before or being a possible Palestinian supporter, volunteer, volunteer could easily be refused.

      Lucky your not a Palestinian though. I met a man in my hotel in Amman Jordan. Every day he went to the border trying to get back to West Bank. He was visiting family in a Palestine Refugee Camp in Amman (one of the biggest Refugee Camps in the world) and now the Israel Authorities were not letting him return to his West Bank home. I met him on his 9th day of trying. He said he would keep trying everyday till he got in. Resilient and persistent man.

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      Some cute Israeli Soldiers

      2013 UPDATE:

      Online research shows that a new Israeli policy has been launched. 

       

      The B2 Tourist Visa

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      Sample B2 Tourist Visa

      There’s a policy change in Israel particularly in Tel Aviv’s Ben Gurion Airport. Instead of an Israel passport stamp, they will give you this B2 Tourist Visa an electronically printed slip of paper.

      It includes your name, nationality, photo (copied from your passport photo), date and so on. This guy’s thumb is concealing his reference and passport number.

      Research from https://overseas.huji.ac.il/gradvisa shows that this policy, applied at every entry point, to every “Western” (i.e. visa-exempt) tourist; it opens up the possibility of guaranteed free movement around the Middle East. You still need to be careful not to pick up tell-tale Egyptian and Jordanian exit/entry stamps.

      So here you have it, get into Israel without a stamp! get into Israel without a stamp

      Hope this will help you guys if you are planning to travel the Middle East, West Bank and Jerusalem are so amazing and worth the effort!!

      Happy travel and enjoy Israel!

       

       

       

      NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming):

      A science, approach, attitude and methodology behind communication, personal development and success. 

      To put it most simply, have you ever been at university and thinking, OMG this is so theoretical, when do we get to actually do stuff?

      Well one psychology student back in the 70’s had the same question. He was working for a world-famous therapist, Fritz Pearls. While he was transcribing the work of Fritz Pearls, he learned a lot and began teaching other therapist at his university. These new therapist were getting results and the Student approached one of the new professors, a Linguist to join him. The Professor was a linguist. He had learned multiple languages and had previously served in the military on very very special top secret operations. The Professor and the student combined efforts. They put linguistic frameworks around what this world-famous therapist was doing. They continued to study and make models on other famous therapists such as Virginia Satir and Milton Erickson. Together, they decoded the magic and went on to teach thousands of people around the world the magic. In fact, their first books were called The Structure of Magic I & II.  

      Another recollection of the events, which I personally enjoy, highlighted how the Student, had a second question. 

      In psychology, we are always studying what goes wrong in people. Why don’t we study what makes people great instead?

      And this question is how I like to see NLP. Not as a tool for therapy, which it is great for, but as a tool, methodology to help people be great. A way of learning and clarifying, whats the difference between what makes someone good, and someone else great!

      Fast forward to 1990’s and there I was, a young teenager studying wealth creation books. I had no idea of NLP yet I was doing my own process of learning whats the difference that makes the difference between poor and rich. Rich and super rich. 

      What if you could learn what they learned? What if you could, and you could, couldn’t you, be open to learning more,  now. 

      This process I was doing as a teenager is a less disciplined approach of what the creators of NLP did.  They had a far more rigorous and structured approached. 

      Their approach became known as NLP Modelling. Modelling was the process that the student used to ‘be like’ or ‘act as if’ he was Fritz Pearls. This process evolved far more with the professor and further studies.

      Through Modelling a trail of techniques, strategies, beliefs were formed. Some even say NLP is an attitude. An attitude towards learning and sharing excellence. Some say NLP is the study of Excellence. 

      Now the student, Richard Bandler, and the professor, John Grinder, are still alive and well today. They went on, bringing more people into the studies. The original group became known as the ‘Meta Kids’ They studied many of the best coaches, psychotherapist, family counsellors, healer and more. One student, Robert Dilts, later went on to study people like Mozart and Leonardo Da Vinci. A student of a student, perhaps of a student, was a business consultant. The business consultant saw the power of NLP and created his own version, shorter, easier to sell, less complex, taught by slides over a couple of days with a ‘one size fits all’ approach. This student trademarked some of the original work from Fritz Pearls as ‘Time Line Therapy’. This was my first experience learning NLP in a class room environment. It was very much like a classroom only the content was fantastic! I realised as I exceeded and continued learning that this ‘Time Line Therapy’ was ….. Not wrong, but largely fluffed up with long unnecessary scripts. Anyhow this is probably the most common form of NLP in Australia. Richard Bandler is still teaching in the USA and UK. His may be the most common there. And John Grinder, the Professor is the one who I hope to study under next! I look forward to sharing when that happens. 

      So NLP studied the greats and created formulas that you and I can learn. 

      Fast forward to 2010-2020 NLP is a key skill for Coaches, Therapists, Communicators, Public Speakers. 

      NLP Coaching is used by high-level executives, business people, and athletes to give them a major competitive advantage. NLP Coaching is for normal to smart people wanting to get more out of life, better results, or win. (Not to be confused with Psychology which is roughly focused on labelling what goes wrong and helping people be more normal). I learned this, loved it, helped hundreds of people experience exponential growth steps, and YOU CAN TOO. 

       

      NLP Program

       

      Some more definitions and attributes:

      • NLP is a discipline that studies the connections between an individual’s ways of receiving information through the nervous system (Neuro = visual, auditory, touch, smell, taste), its ways of communication (Linguistic = pictures, sounds, feelings, smells, tastes, words) and its patterns of behavior or emotions (Programming = neurological pathways / maps of thought / outcomes).
      • NLP is an efficient approach in changing the way an individual thinks or acts toward someone or something and this can be utilized to achieve success in almost all aspects of life (personal, professional, family, business and finances, and almost everything). For example, we could look at the NLP strategies behind Bill Gates, Michael Jordan, Dali Lama (in fact this has already been done) and then we can utilize some of their strategies or tactics in our life. Everyone has a map inside their head.
      • NLP is also a system of discovering, modelling and installing those maps and models in others so they achieve the same or better results.
      • NLP is for the mind is like a mechanic for your car. As the mechanic has expertise and passion for the car system, a NLP practitioner has expertise and passion for the mind.

      Does it sound that we can have interesting chat? Click on the link below ti schedule your free session

      https://www.calendly.com/adriancahill/virtualcoffee

       

      What is NLP

      Sometimes, a picture says much more

      NLP in Chinese

      Interested in what I do with it? 

       

       

       

      UPDATE: June 2019

      I just came back from NLP Trainers Training with John Grinder, the Professor who became the Co-Creator of NLP. WOWWWWWW!!!!!

      Such a pleasure to experience his training first hand. I was blessed to have a few brief conversations with him. It has given me amazing insights and he has certainly continued developing NLP. His latest work is called ‘New Code NLP’. I’m certified at Master Prac Level in New Code and I can now offer Practitioner Level Certificates in NLP. My coaching business and life is pretty full yet I look forward to co-training or delivering my own fully credentialed training later in 2019. You’re going to love it!!

      Content Writer:

      A content writer is an individual who specializes in providing relevant text and picture content for websites. They are a time saving asset for helping develop specific and regular content for your site. They can also be utilized to turn interviews, recordings, short stories into more relevant blog posts. Another possibility is the reverse. Your Content Writer, if skilled, could even turn your existing blogs into material for books or short stories. Of course this depends on their skills which may also affect their cost.

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      Typical Tasks of Content Writer:

      • Research, write and edit web and intranet content from scratch.
      • Write web content based on material supplied by client or found elsewhere.
      • Edit print documents for publication online.
      • Edit web pages for on-screen readability.
      • Proofread to final copies depending on skill level.
      • Test and edit forms for usability.
      • Evaluate web sites for strategy, readability, legibility, find-ability, usability, interactivity and credibility.

       

       

       

       

      JOB ADVERTISEMENT SAMPLE:

       

      Content Writer:

      We are looking for a self-motivated individual with experience and skills in web content writing. In addition to writing, editing, and proofreading site content, this person will also work closely with the technical team to maintain site standards with regard to new development.

      Applicant must have an understanding on the significance of keyword research and being familiar with the various online tools, knows to optimize each page for one or two keyword phrases and must be able to empathize with the needs that led your potential customer to the page your writing. This goes hand in hand with keyword research. Applicant must have the ability to meet project deadlines, exceptional English communication (both written and verbal) and organizational skill and has the ability to work quickly without sacrificing quality.

       

      Requirements:

      – Applicant must be willing to work for a Long term (6months +).

      – Expected to work on a regular basis of (10-15 hours per week).

      – Complete tasks within 48hours (preferably 24hours).

      – Willing and ready to start ASAP.

      – Able to communicate with us over Skype during standard business hours (AEST or London time). This is a must. We may give instructions verbally as it is quicker and more efficient. You can work at your own time provided you can complete tasks within our deadlines.

      – Must provide sample of previous work.

      – Prepared to undergo a 10-20minute Test.

      – Successful applicants will then are required for a Skype interview.

       

      Please ensure you include your Skype name, examples of your previous work, and any questions in your reply to this position. Thank you and have a great day.

       

      PS. Who are we?

      We are …… (2-4 sentences about your organization and its goals)

       

       

       

      PROCESSING JOB APPLICANTS:

       

      1. Eliminate Time wasters, focus on possible applicants:

      a)      Ignore any applications that clearly do not fit our listed criteria.

      b)      Any quotes outside our Minimum – Maximum Pay.

      c)      If requested English level required is high-exceptional, no major errors acceptable.

      d)      If requested English level required is medium, no more than 3 errors acceptable.

      e)      Choose before hand, if using experienced staff or willing to try new members.

      f)       Applications must show some evidence of being unique, showing that they actually read our advertisement, not simply copy pasting to every job position.

       

      2. Asses remainder of applications based on our job description:

      a)      Look for those fulfilling all requirements.

      b)      Look for evidence of Pro-Active or other important behavioral qualities.

      c)      Asses their personality. Staff needs to be focused on achieving tasks, making things happen and going the extra mile, rather than staff that will do the minimum. Staff that do only the minimum may still be capable, however not ideal.

       

      3. Send 2-3 short questions to any suitable applicants:

      a)      Availability, desired work hours (time and duration).

      b)      Future Goals, aspirations.

      c)      Experience, evidence of their experience or questions about their previous work.

      d)      What makes this job attractive?

      e)      Send more information on the position and your organizational.

      f)       Request they complete basic test if everything is suitable.

       

      4. Send test for all continuing prospects:

      a)      Hi, thank you for your application and time. In order for us both to save time would you mind completing a 10 minute test? It is for testing our ability to work together.

      b)      Please also add the time it took, all the answers to our previous questions, along with your Skype and email address to the bottom of your test.

      c)      We want to include this. Perhaps a 3 minute Audio file or picture saying, thank you for applying, please write out for us your top 3 goals for the next year, your first and last name, your email address and Skype name, and then we will be happy to talk on Skype. Simple, thank you and have a good day.

       

      5. All completed and returned Tests are now the job application:

      a)      Looking at who has fulfilled task 100% with all details. Including their details.

      b)      Who has made sense of the document?

      c)      Who has presented it in a reasonable format with heading, bold, italics, etc?

      d)      Thanks and apologies to those that is under skilled. Let them know why nicely.

      e)      Thanks and move on to the Skype Interview for your final candidates.

       

      6. Skype Interview:

      a)      Before starting ask them to install, Ifreeskype recorder (to record the conversations which can be replayed at later date or for training).

      b)      Start with general chat as they are often nervous.

      c)      Develop and understanding of their situation.

      d)      If suitable, provide information on our goals.

      e)      Thank them, any questions. If unsure, let them know we will get back to them in the next 10 days. (This way if we hire someone else, and it falls through we have this candidate still possibly available.)

      f)       If applicant suitable, proceed straight away so that we can have them start their first task which also tests them further before we say no to possible applicants.

      g)      Set out your first clear tasks for them straight. Have them reply with an email outlining what the task is, any questions they may have and how they are going to achieve them. Highlighting deadlines and priorities. Short deadlines.

       

      7. On receipt of this email:

      At the receipt of this email, it should be really clear if the staff understand the tasks given from the Skype interview. If this email is very off track or wrong there may be big problems ahead. Having staff confirm tasks in detail is vital in Outsourcing. Provided they understand your tasks set out in Skype or Email, you can now start the contract.

       

      8. In the first week:

      Start tasks clearly, and build up from there. It is possible that your Staff will understand everything and your intent clearly. However, start small and build up. Also look at awarding a quick bonus to make up for excess time spent in the interview. Emphasize fair pay for fair work or your best work for the best bonus.

       

      9. Longer term:

      Look at other ways to keep staff motivated and happy. We have a few suggestions you can email us for them. Once you have spent a lot of time with your staff they become more valuable and harder to replace. Take care of them. They are real people with families, lives and dreams of their own too.

       

       

       

       


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      Education is the greatest wealth one could ever have. But because of economic crisis, education has become more of a privilege than a right. There are also cases that one becomes part of the privileged, but chose to waste the opportunity of free education.

      But we cannot judge those who did not finish college or university because some famous people did not manage to. From technology tycoons like Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerburg, Michael Dell to Hollywood’s’ biggest stars like Steven Spielberg, Rachel Ray, and Halle Berry to a USA president Andr Read more

      Delayed Gratification: FOCUS ON THE FUTURE – NOT THE PRESENT

      After spending a lot of time in Buddhist countries and reading a lot about spirituality taught me to focus on the present with what’s happening right now! Well, OK I tried that… and sometimes it’s SOOOO IMPORTANT However, focusing on the future is important, if not more important.

      Focusing on the present has it’s benefits. Sometimes it often misleads you to fulfill or chase your short term desires and cravings .

      Just imagine yourself after a work out or long jog. Feeling hungry and looking at a restaurant window seeing an advertisement for a big steak with chips and gravy. Hmmmm…  tempting and your hungry. Yet if you wait till you get home, maybe you could cook a cheaper, healthy alternative. And wash it down with a nice big glass of free cold water instead of Coke.

      Being present may draw us to living and loving life.  Focusing on the future however may draw us to living and loving a healthier, and  more abundant life.

      • Planning for your abundance.

      Planning and envisioning what you really want 10 years from now is a sure way to help success flow into your life.  If you already know what you want in life, wouldn’t you save a lot of time to start moving directly in that direction, or at least indirectly in that direction? For example, Do you want to have healthy fit lifestyle in 10 years time? Think about it…  Personally, I don’t just want to be healthy and fit, I demand that I be healthy and fit. I will be! and  I envision it! I see my self going rowing, cycling and jogging on a regular basis when I’m older.

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      • The 10,000 hours Theory

      Some people say becoming really good at something takes 10 years of work. That is where 10,000 hour theory comes in. It is investing 3 hours a day to develop an expertise. 3 hours x 365 day x 10 years = 10,950 hours (I guess if you have a few days off every now and then 10,000 hours)
      Do you want to be the leader in your current job? Or perhaps the leader in the industry? Do you spend extra time studying or becoming really good at something? What do you want to be excellent at? Is it inline with your craft and long term goal?

      • 10,000 Hours of hard work = EXCELLENCE

      Its not just 10,000 hours. Its 10,000 real hours. not 10,000 half-arsed working while talking on Facebook hours. Perhaps, even less hours of working/studying more effectively then the norm. Studies have also shown there is much more knowledge retained and skill developed by breaking up the hours into more workable chunks. I.e. 5 x 2 hour blocks are much more efficient than 1 x 10 hour block. For me, I do a 50 minute blocks of focused work with all distractions eliminated. After 50 minutes or perhaps a bit longer, I move and  check my phone or something else. Then I move on to the next block.

      Regular manageable blocks allow your skill, passion and mastery to develop. Imagine if you do blogging, writing, working out, investing, or a sport for 3 hours a day for 10 years. I am sure you would be excellent at it. (Make sure your time is spent doing something worth being excellent at).

      • Delayed gratification

      Lastly, the skill of delayed gratification is one of the ultimate keys to success. Without delayed gratification, one simply cannot achieve true success. Delayed gratification is the planting of  the seeds. Its the patience to wait till the fruit is ready to be picked.  They say money doesn’t grow on trees, well that’s funny, because fruit certainly does and some fruit isn’t cheap.

      Delayed gratification takes many forms. In romance, waiting till the third date for that first kiss. In education, saying no to paid work to study for higher paid, more rewarding work later.  In health, using the stairway instead of the elevator. In business, going the extra mile.

       

       

      Planning ahead, persistence, self-discipline and the ability to delay gratification are the keys to the brightest future you could possibly dream of. Good thing comes to those who put in the hard yards and are patient. However, we should be careful we put in the hard yards in the right direction. And, make that YOUR DIRECTION, not your employers.

       

      Have a great day and feel free to share your thoughts below.

      There are millions of examples where Virtual Assistant  have saved businesses and ordinary people countless hours, energy and money. Unmeasurable success.

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      Two years ago on a trip to Australia I caught up with my cousin Andrew we spoke to him about Outsourcing. He was interested and had open ears so we had a great couple of hours of discussion about where and how to start. Soon after, Andrew began hiring. This a superb example I take great pleasure in sharing with you.

       

      Here’s how my cousin saved $16,000 (AUD) by Hiring a Virtual Assistant:

      Andrew started with a Virtual Assistant. Well, Andrew actually started with mine and Tim Ferris’s advice. But then he started by hiring a simple VA from Odesk.

       

      Online Personal AssistantAt first, he made errors and wasted time; however, it wasn’t a complete waste as as he learnt from his mistakes. Andrew had his research (I hadn’t written these articles at that point) and started his Odesk advertisements smartly like he would in a newspaper. Lots of people replied. Too many he says, far too many. So he cancelled the job and re-posted with significantly more information. Like our VA Article. He proceeded with testing, interviewing, and hiring multiple VA’s for short periods of time keeping the best ones until he had just 2 good ones left. Andrew says, “What we need is the right people, not the right skills.”

      “The personalities are most important to me. I can train them or even leave them to learn the required skills. But I can’t teach them to be motivated and diligent.”

       

      Andrew learnt how to hire and manage his VAs effectively. With these VAs, he began using them to outsource more and more. Andrew and his VA together created guidelines, roles, responsibilities, and procedures which laid the path for effective Virtual Staff Management.

       

      Nine months later Andrew had put on 18 full time Virtual Staff from the Philippines and India. Andrew is saving his company $16,000 AUD per month. And that was just nine months after starting. These figures are still rising.

       

      Andrew has since been featured in the Australian Papers as an upcoming business success star. However, it is still not widely known that a large part of his business success comes from hiring Virtual Assistant. His competitors haven’t caught on yet and it remains one of his business secrets. For this reason, I keep all details of Andrew’s company confidential.

       

      For a lot of people, hiring, delegating, and managing are totally new skill sets to discover and to master. Doing this online can make things both easier and harder. If you learn from your mistakes, it will get easier and easier. It’s when you don’t learn from you mistakes that you have a problem. So give it a go—make errors, learn, make system, and develop. Simply don’t let your lessons become too expensive.

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      7 x 24 = 168 hrs in a week

      7 x 8 = 56 hrs for sleep

      1. How does your normal week go?

      On the above maths, after sleep you have 112 hrs left and work typically is 40-60hours a week.

      To start investing, analyze your time. Where did those hours go?

      2. Minimize time wasting. Minimize expenses.

      Often people unnecessarily spend money. Make the decision to save that money, and spend that time more efficiently.

      Three Simple examples:

      1. Taking your partner, date, or friend to the movies versus bringing a date to a picnic with a few friends.

      2. Watching a series of new entertaining TV show versus watching an educational program about the basics of money, watching Tony Robbins, or reading a book!

      3. Hours on Facebook/Youtube looking at funny things versus reading blogs like mine about success, health, and spirituality.

      3. Make a solid decision to move forward and make better use of your time every single day.

      This progression of reducing expenses (money, time and energy expenses) and maximization of these precious resources is the start of you investment journey.

      4. Moving forward with caution or velocity?

      If you’re  investing energy and time in a better body, you may want to study better health principles before trying a diet.

      If you’re investing for your Money read more about money or come play Cashflow 101 before starting to trade currency.

      Using your resources productively is the big start!

      You can make the big start easier by little steps.

      Whats the first little baby steps you could do this week that improve your resource management?

      Whats the baby step you can do TODAY?

      From the material I share, there is enough to start! There is no need to dive into Stocks, options, CFD’s, and the like.

      How did I start?

      Time is MoneyMy first investments was a bucket, sponge and a bottle of detergent. I started washing cars around the neighborhood for less than $5 each.

      Later, I read a pile of books about investing. The start of my “Investing Career” or “Pivotal Moment” was around my 19th birthday when I realized that I had worked at least casually to part time since I was 14 but hadn’t actually saved anything. My net worth zip. Have you ever felt like that. Like, darn I’ve been working so hard but have nothing to show for it!

      I decided to put my foot down. I minimized my expenses, and spent all of the spare time and money educating myself. Once I saved $500AUD I started my first trade on the Australian Share Market. Although I paid $60 in entry and exit fees I did it because it was the first steps! Once the money was in, I kept going cause I could see the value of that investment growing everyday just from reading the newspaper. (Back in the old days).

      If you don’t have the time to start learning about Share Trading, there are easier options. There are always options. Just have to start.

       

       

      A lot of people ask me about Financial Investing, to start you really have to review steps 1 – 4 regularly.

      Start investing now!

      Go to the Free Resources page where you can find free resources showing you specifically how to measure you net wealth, cashflow and also, assess your current Wealth Mindest!

      Hostels, in the context of travel, are accommodations for travelers, especially for youth groups who are looking for a shared accommodation. ‘Hostel’ means that, at the minimum, there will be some dormitory accommodation. Hostels usually also have common areas, a youthful and traveler orientation, and information on the local area and travel to other locations.

      The concept of ‘youth’s  hostels’, as they were originally known, started in about 1910 in Germany and was soon copied in several European countries. Originally, each hosteling organization sought to provide low cost accommodation in rural areas for young city workers which emphasize on hiking, cycling and other healthy activities.

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      With the advent of international travel, hostels not affiliated to Hosteling International associations were established. These were often known as backpacker hostels. Today, there is less difference between Hosteling International hostels and non-Hosteling International hostels. Both are often referred to as “backpackers.”

      • Hostels provide dormitory style budget accommodation for travelers with multiple guests sharing a room. Many hostels also provide private rooms in addition to dormitory accommodation. Bathrooms are variously shared, communal facilities or en suite. For many hostelers, the opportunity to meet other travelers is part of the appeal.
      • Hostels vary widely in their rules and regulations, with only a few hostels imposing a curfew. Most modern hostels let guests come and go at all hours. Some hostels impose a limit to the number of days you can stay .Though this is increasingly rare and usually not the case in backpacker hostels in Europe, Australia and North America. In few instances the older requirement”s  which is  guests have to provide their own sheets or standard “sleep sack” (a sheet folded over and sewn into a sleeping bag) still exists. Though most hostels now prohibit guests from using their own linens to prevent guests’ bringing bedbugs into the hostel. Towels are often available for rent and are sometimes free.
      • Some hostels have separate accommodations for males and females while others have to shared rooms.
      • Some hostels imposed an age limit to their visitors,  who are under the age limit should be accompanied by an adult.
      • The style of lodging also vary. Some hostels are in beautiful historic buildings, some are resort style camping villages, modern apartment type buildings, some are spartan while others are almost luxurious. Most are clean and comfortable. To find the best hostels, read online hostel reviews on different hostel booking websites.
      • Common facilities often include a shared lounge, laundry room, and kitchen but these often depend on the country. Most hostels now have computers with internet access and also provide free Wifi internet.
      • If it’s your first time staying at hostels, you might want to try somewhere near home and only in one location. See if you like it. Some hostels can be very cozy and welcoming, but having a laid-back personnel is definitely helpful. If the hostel access is 24 hours, you can expect to be awaken at any hour of the day or night as others return to the room, or newcomers arrive. If you share common facilities and people vary in their tidiness and respect for others. There is always a  small risk of items to be  stolen, so you need to take care of your belongings. Ordinarily, dormitories have lockers or secure valuables lockers somewhere. Just follow your common sense and be sure to lock up electronics, cash, and other valuables.

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      Booking Hostels

      It is advisable to book hostels in advance rather than just walking in with the  that there will be available bed for you.

      Many hostels appreciate it when guests book directly with the hostel, because the hostel then saves money on commissions that they have to pay to external booking systems. To do this, use the booking sites, read the reviews, then do a search on the hostel name and try to find their direct contact details.

      The 2 main sites for booking hostels are

      hostel world

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      There are many other sites promoting hostels and make booking through the use of Hostelworld or hostelbookers. The hostels then just log into one or both of these sites and set their availability.

      Lastly, Tripadvisor.com,  this site is normally more expensive then the rest as it charges more for businesses to be listed.

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      Hot tip. If you want a bed on busy days, such as New Years Eve, try going in or calling them at checkout time. If traveling by yourself, finding a single bed is a simple task. For groups or private rooms, make sure to book in advance.  Print out the contact details and directions!

      Also please leave any recommendations or request you have to expand this information.

       

      Airbnb

      Airbnb is a privately held company headquartered in San Francisco. Founded in August 2008, operated and privately owned by Airbnb, Inc. The company is an online service that provides a platform for individuals referred to as “hosts”, generally private parties, to rent unoccupied living space and other short-term lodging to guests. As of November 2012, the company had over 250,000 listings in 30,000 cities and 192 countries. Listings include private rooms, entire apartments, castles, boats, manors, tree houses, tipis, igloos, private islands and other properties.

       

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      Users of the site must register and create a personal online profile before using the site. All properties are associated with a host whose profile include recommendations by other users, reviews by previous guests, as well as a response rating and private messaging system

      In July 2010, the company received more than 300 emails from users whose livelihood had threatened their ability to keep their homes due to financial hardship from the economic recession.This phenomenon has caused much discourse for the American Hotel & Lodging Association as short-term private rentals continue to disrupt the hospitality industry.

      Some people say this is kind of like Couch Surfing only you don’t have to hang out or be interested in the host. Private space, or potentially private space in a new friends home.

       

      Guys you can leave your comments, thoughts, new links, etc. with us! 🙂

      You can never be productive if you take on too many commitments, you just extend yourself too thin and will not be capable of getting everything done. It’s the simple TRUTH.  We all like to do so many things, all at once. Especially the driven, creative or motivated individuals. However we have to focus and get good results. We need to learn the art of saying NO!

      Like any other skill, it takes practice. And it is true, practice makes perfect. In fact, learning to say no can be the most significant personal, proficient development tool one can have.

       


      road to successSaying no is hard for most of us, yet it comes with a great reward:

      • Provides sufficient time for what matters most.
      • Conserve your energy for your priorities.
      • Can give others opportunities to work and grow with you.
      • Permits more time to manage your plan.
      • Builds your self-worth by facing and overcoming your doubts.
      • Shows and improves your focus on the target areas.
      • Reduces your stress load that will ultimately improve calmness.

       

       

       

       

      say noAs well as having a to do list, try having a “not to do list:”

      • Will not take on new business opportunities until the current project is finished.
      • Will not check email or social media until 11am in the morning.
      • No eating fried food. No Candy. No softdrinks.
      • No coffee in the morning and at night.
      • No business calls when spending time with family.
      • No work talk at home. No work stress brought home.
      • No complaining and bickering.
      • No postponing gym or exercise!

       

       

      Saying no over and over again to these things builds up power. The no comes more powerful and we build up strength to fight off the negativity that surrounds us everyday. Fight back and take control of your life. Learn to say no positively!

      Some people may say no to this post. They may say focus on saying yes. Yes yes yes. Ok, that may be true. There may be more power in saying yes. Why not try to practice the Art of saying no and see how it goes. Perhaps it may work or it would simply provide some advantages for you.

      Don’t just “work smart,” work smart on the right things.

      no powerpointIf you use Power Point for presentations. You should really check this out.

       

      Tired of boring presentations? Or are you tired of presentations that could be great only the Power Point Presentation (PPT) puts you to sleep.

      The other day, I was in a seminar and the presenter was using PPT. The speaker was great, but the power point slide show really put half of the audience to sleep. The speaker also read out the slides word for word. Why say it when you have it up there for the audience to read.

      Your presentation should motivate and inspire people, should it not?

      You can do better and there is an easy way to do it.

      Introducing Prezi Presentation

      Its time to update your style and present in unique 21st century ways. Use Prezi Presentation to put in drama and charisma into your presentations!

      prezi

       

      Prezi is not your usual slide-based presentation tool. Prezi acts as a blank canvas, allowing the user to decide how they’d like to present the whole thing. In relation to PPT, it allows the user to follow a particular “path” through the slides much creatively. It gives the user the freedom to zoom out and look at the bigger picture, all the slides either in a line, in a circle or perhaps in a tree like our example. This zoom feature allows the freedom to zoom into relevant slides to show fine detail or perhaps even multimedia video clips. Perhaps the audience knows some slides very well so instead of boring them or skipping quickly through slides, you can hover over them while partially zoomed in, or skip them altogether easily.

       

       

      I asked my assistant Yves to figure it out for us. I knew what I wanted so I wrote it out on a giant sheet of paper, simply took a clear high res photograph and hours later Yves had figured it out and changed my paper plan into a Prezi Presentation.

       

      PAPER PLAN

      PAPER PLAN

       

       

       

      NOTE: There are paid and unpaid options!! you can use the free version.  This was all done on a free account.  If you really want to access the full paid version let me know, perhaps we can share an account.

       

      Pros and Cons: Prezi vs. PPT

      • Prezi VS PowerpointPower Point is the industry standard. It’s well used. It works. It’s proven. It’s reliable and offline. It also has a mixed reputation. Many people associate it with boring talks.
      • PPT is like a book. Pages go in order, 1 2 3 4. With Prezi’s zoom feature, Prezi is more like a map. You can scan over the map and zoom in on any relevant page you like, when you like.
      • Prezi is just getting started, its new and fresh. It adds a new element to your presentation. People will be more interested in what your showing on the screen for this reason alone.
      • Presi is online, easily shareable. On the other hand, you can also use Prezi without having an internet connection by downloading the Prezi Desktop.
      • Prezi is more interactive. With Prezi you can keep clicking the mouse or a key on your keyword to view each part of the presentation.
      • Prezi is super creative. With so many drafts available, you can simply turn a 1 2 3 4 page PPT, into a 1 2 3 4 Mountain or Trail following adventure. Or as you can see our Demo, using The Tree of Life template, we called it “The Tree of Growth”.

       

      Below are some of the greatest Prezi Presentations that you will see:

      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7bHyW6un-Kc

       

      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M0k3giXi8eM

       

      Try using Prezi now! If your too busy but would like some Prezi made for your next big talk, perhaps you may like to ask my assistant to make one for you or simply convert your old PPT into a Prezi Presentation.

      Please if you have used Prezi or like to provide feedback comment below. Have a great presentation!

      Odesk

      In case you haven’t heard of it, Odesk is probably the no. 1 website for Outsourcing. For those unfamiliar with the term, what we are talking about is sourcing Virtual International Staff.

      It lets small businesses hire, manage, and pay remote contractors as if they were in their own office. More than 200,000 businesses seeking skilled workers, and 800,000 service providers are registered from over 150 countries. It is changing how the world works. With Outsourcing, you can easily allocate specific tasks to people who have a lot of knowledge and skills in that area at the most competitive rates.

       

      I’m a busy guy, I have lots of opportunities and not enough hours in a day. So I have my own Virtual Assistant (VA). My VA does a variety of tasks for me such as:

      Before booking international flights, my VA will spend around 2 hours looking at possible flights for me. My VA then presents results in an easy-to-read spreadsheet listing routes and costs (including taxes and my VA knows if I’m carrying luggage or carry-on).

      Before booking accommodation, my VA can research, select, and email suitable places in advance asking for availability and a discount price.

      When writing for my webpage, my VA does the editing, looks for pictures, checks for grammar, makes suitable links, and uploads it all for me.

      Sometimes people ask me about the most random things. If I want, I can just ask my VA to research or find solutions for them.

       

      As a Consultant, I can provide solid valuable advice and connections to clients. With my VA, I can turn that advice into an easy-to-read, fact-filled, verified .pdf, .doc, or .xls for clients while I talk face-to-face or over the phone to ensure that the deals can be completed smoothly. As my VA handles the paper work, I can focus on bringing results.

       

      If you’re a Consultant, Self-Employed, Writer, Blogger, Ebay Seller, or anything of the kind, on or offline, it can easily help increase your bottom line.

       

      Other things Outsourcing can do . . .

       

      Here are some of the tasks you can Outsource on your blog for faster results and save your time:

      • outsourceWriting Blog Posts – The most time-consuming part of running a blog is blog post writing. If yours is a personal blog, you probably shouldn’t outsource the writing however, you can outsource the editing. You can also record your voice or interviews and have a VA or Content Writer transcribe and edit it into a blog.
      •  If you have an Information Style Blog, you can get a capable Content Writer to produce new content for you, preferably a Content Writer whose passion is in your field.
      •  Social Media Management – Find someone who understands how social media marketing works and what techniques are most helpful.
      •  Link Building – Help develop your page rank fast and get the traffic you need to make your blog successful by quality links such as press releases, guest posts , and organic links to content.
      •  Blog and Forum Commenting – Make sure you hire someone with the understanding and reputation to give you the results you need.
      • SEO, Data Mining, Data Entry, Calendar Management, Scheduling, Answering Incoming Calls, 24/7 chat or voice support, and much much more!

       

      Read all our articles on Outsourcing here. Go on, GIVE IT A TRY! Sign up to Odesk and give it a go today.
      Please leave feedback if you have experience in this field. Thanks, guys!

      A mind map is a graphical way to symbolize thoughts and concepts. It is an image thinking  that helps structuring information,  better evaluation, understand, create, remember and produce new ideas. Mostly, mind mapping avoids boring and linear thoughts. It will stir your creativity and make note taking fun again.

      We can use a mind map for:

      • Taking down notes and summarizing
      • Problem solving
      • Studying and memorization
      • Planning (1, 5, 10 Year Plans)
      • Researching and consolidating information from various sources
      • Presenting information
      • fast insight on difficult subjects

      To create a mind map, take pen or pencil and a piece of paper and just get to it. If your doing something like a 5 year plan (which I advise all my students to do), I would advise doing it in a great state. Perhaps drink a little coffee, followed by a 10 minute pure silence of meditation (focusing on deep breaths, clearing your head) then begin writing your mind map. Here is a mind map my assistant made for us.

      mind map

      Here’s how it goes:

      Step 1:

      Draw a circle (you can use any shapes that you want) and write down the description of your goal inside the circle at the middle of your mind map.

      Step 2:

      Around the circle at the middle of the map, note down any of the major elements of your plan. Use lines to connect them back to the center.

      Step 3:

      List any minor characteristics, points or attributes for each major goal. Use lines to connect each major characteristic to its minor characteristics.

       

      To effectively apply Mind Maps,  you can use different colors for visual impact, symbols and images for more creative thinking. When done, you could even put some small magazine cut outs to it, like your future mansion or beach holiday, or a language your going to be proficient at.

      Lastly put up a photocopy of the mind map on your bedroom and bathroom wall. In the short term ups and downs that life naturally brings, your mind map keeps you focused on the bigger picture— your success!

      If you do any form of research, planning or note taking, try experimenting with Mind Maps. You’ll love using them! I also have a ‘Life Trial Balance and Values Chart’ which you can do separately a couple of days after doing your Mind Map (if it’s a like a 5 Year Mind Map that is). I recommend for all my friends to firstly do a Mind Map. Secondly do the Life Trial Balance and Value’s Charts. I do these myself regularly.

       

      Below is another sample Mind Map with the subject “How To Create a Mind Map”.

      This picture is from http://www.examtime.com/

      How to Create Mind Map

      Short read which will dramatically help you boost your dating life just by changing your mindset.

      This will take 3 to 15 minutes depending on if you really do the activity and make the decision. Or just 3 minutes if you read it, yet you may not get the results.

       

      key frames of dating

      • When I say dating, what comes into your mind?

       

      • What are the first 5 words that you would think of?

       

      • Seriously, do it. What comes to your mind? Write them down.

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      If they are words like hard, challenging, annoying, difficult or any words alike, then we have a problem.  The words you just said set your frame or mindset. If you think them, you live them.  If you think dating is hard, it’s not going to become easier. If you think it’s easier, will it be easier?

      Possibly. It certainly won’t get any harder!

      Makes sense right? Try talking about the general topic of dating with your friends.

      Just ask them, “When I say dating what are the first things that come to your head?”

      Suggest asking some friends that are successful or enjoy dating, and some that don’t!

       

       

       

      3 Mindset Strategies For Effective Dating

      Dating is fun.

      a)      Be optimistic. – You attract positive experiences when you think of positive things. Having a positive attitude makes one attractive. Nobody wants to be with negative people.

      b)     Don’t pressure yourself. – There are a lot of possible partners anywhere; keep trying until you find the one. Don’t quit. You just haven’t found the right person for you yet, and  it’s not because of you.

      c)      Lighten Up. – Don’t take dating and finding your “soul mate” too serious.  Dating should be an enjoyable process and not a checklist of do’s and dont’s. Have FUN because dating is fun … it’s supposed to be!

       

      Dating is intense.

      a)      Fear, anxiousness, relief, laughter, happiness are part of the adventure. We go on a roller coaster ride of emotions.

      b)     Intensity & Passion comes naturally.

      c)      Just consider that anything you are “intense” about is part of the filtering process for finding the right one.

       

      Dating is supposed to be natural.

      a)      It’s hard that all of a sudden you are supposed to like and be liked by someone you just met. You know how to make friends right? Apply the same logic to dating, take the pressure off yourself and your date. Start by trying to be their friend.

      b)      Dating is not just finding love but meeting new friends.

      c)      Dating is a natural way to make new friends and perhaps find a new partner.

      d)      Dating is a natural process, we need to do it. It’s probably better if we do more than less of it right?

       

       Dating is fun, dating is intense and dating is natural!

      There is a lot more reasoning and science behind this. I’ve kept it short, simple and effective as I value your time. For single men, I have more content in my private collection for mindset strategies/frames, along with techniques and tactics for quick results. Ultimately, getting better with the other sex is through personal development.

       

      Have fun with it. Make these three mindset strategies part of your day to day life and dating will become much easier. After all, how are we going to find our soul mate if you won’t give it a try?

       

      mural club

      Friends coming together to meet, all boys and girls were single….

       

      Often in my talks, people bring up that I seem to think that their jobs aren’t good enough. I like to clear that up straight away. I do respect you and your job. My talks on Personal Development and High Achievement is normally based on the concept that the majority of people do not like their jobs.

      I had my first money making ventures when I was about 10. My first business enterprise is about 13 washing cars. My first “real job” is at the age of 14  and 9 months old which was the minimum legal age to start employment in my state of Australia. I didn’t like the jobs I did after school, however I liked the pay. Now I work very little for money and work for passion.

      One thing that gets me down is when I hear my friends saying that they would love to pursue their dreams. They would love to live abroad or work for passion rather than money. They really want to provide their children and family security built around their regular pay packet. They have complete dependence on their employer for their family’s security so they have no choice but to work day in and day out.  At times, they have been rewarded with bonus and promotions. However, in line with every increases in pay, their lifestyle cost has also risen. Some of them live in nice homes, some barely survive, yet only a fraction is doing financially well.

       

      I believe the core failure is the basis of our society and education system. Our society is developed so that we rely on government, Government Systems (primarily Education and Health Care) and corporations to support us. The Education System is one of the biggest problems. 

      Our educational system says there is one way of doing things. This system is about reducing thought, reducing questioning, there is one right answer and only one— convergent thinking. Not just convergent thinking, but Industrial Age worker thinking that IS THE RIGHT ANSWER.

       

      Divergent Thinking

      Our children are told to go to school and get a good job. Many children don’t know what they really want to do. Perhaps more creativity and focusing on passions would bring about a good answer. Often young adults are told or ‘recommended’ what to study on the basis of further education ensuring they get good jobs. I have met people who’s job  is to go to high schools and sell young adults on college or university places. Universities and industries are fighting and often paying schools for each student they receive from them. Schools are being paid directly or indirectly because of their students going to the university.

      Now university is important; however harvesting lost students from high school may not be such a good answer. Sure there are lots of respected doctors, teachers, engineers that may disagree with me; however there are so many drop outs and lost people in this world that you have to question if it is good to encourage young adults to spend years studying if they haven’t firstly discovered what they want to do in life.

      Then comes the jobs or careers themselves. This is a bit too deep for some however this is worth sharing. Robert Kiyosaki talks about the Cash Flow Quadrant.

      Cashflow Quadrant

      Our education system brings up people to stay in the E or S Quadrant. The E and S Quadrant relies on trading your time for money. The I Quadrant is  really simple and easy. I started doing it when I was 18, studying and working part time. The I Quadrant is simple. We are just not taught how to do it.

       

      Now as our young university graduates grow older, they begin to repay their student loans. In some countries like Australia, these loans are enormous, and in the United States of America, lower educated adults often join the defense force to pay off their debts.

      After students loans, or perhaps before there even paid off comes the car loans, credit card / personal loans, next thing you know it’s a house loan. As they work more, they borrow more and more. As you see with the university, the debt cycle may even begin years before they even start working in their career.

      What about the passion? What about their dreams? Youth is gone and I haven’t even mention the added pressure of supporting families.

      The school system does not help us people discover their true passions and desires. It teaches following and working for the very few that have established the big businesses.

      Most of our society is based around this concept of E and S Quadrant (Employed, Self-Employed). Working hard, earning and spending all of it. The Chinese are good savers. They save. This savings though is generally either given to their parents or spent on a house. They still work very hard, all of their life. Society struggles to believe that there are other alternatives, look around, everybody is working hard right? Well I have to say everybody isn’t working hard, and there are alternatives. The B and I Quadrant is within reach even for the under educated.

       

      Since turning I am 28, I have worked a total of around 7 months doing work I chose to do and loved. I spend my time focusing on:

      • My Personal Development. I study everyday.
      • Becoming or leaning how to coach and positively influence others.
      • Daily Meditation, exercise, healthy lifestyle, doing what I enjoy, with whom I enjoy.

      “The Four Hour Work Week” by Tim Ferris is a best seller. His work is invaluable and I’ve learned a lot from him. We have a lot in common. Only he is much much more successful in most areas. I’m happy to work far less than him at the time of writing. When he wrote that book, he reports he WORKED 4 hours per week. As I write this I WORK 30 minutes a week thanks to passive income. This 30 minutes, if you are interested involves checking bank balances or occasionally doing a Share or Option Trade on the Australian Share Market (we call it Share Market, North Americans Stock Market). Nothing complicated. Something I learned to do while working in fast food after high school or serving in the Army. I studied Business Management, I just found it easier to have a job and invest like mad. It worked for me from 1999 – 2012.

      This morning I did a trade in my bed.

      If you love your job, great. That’s great. If you prefer to work 4 hours per week to have more time with your family, I strongly urge you to begin your journey of self development and self fulfillment here. My Blog, talks and material are full of advice centered around Personal Development and getting more out of life. I currently take opening minds to the possibility of much more as a challenge and look forward to being a successful coach down the road.

      Please remember, if you love your job that is great. You can use your job to fund your investments I did! But don’t sell your self short. If you don’t love your job or love your life maybe it’s time to take serious action.

       

       

       

      Go to the Free Resources page where you can find free resources showing you specifically how to measure you net wealth, cashflow and also, assess your current Wealth Mindest!

       

      Outsourcing Around the World

      When we talk about Outsourcing, we are referring to a business in a country which hire people from another country to work for them. Although Outsourcing often takes place in the same country or even town, we will now talk about International Outsourcing, predominantly in the IT world.

      A lot of businesses outsource to save time and money as well as to get the same quality of service by paying less. This kind of outsourcing gives many new small ventures and everyday people the opportunity to be employ an IT team; turning their passions, ideas, and hobbies into a possible cash flow generating career.

      When I started outsourcing, it was a big help to me. I wanted to start a blog; however I was always too busy. Then I looked into it and realized I didn’t have the skills or time to learn how to properly do it. After reading the book ‘The 4 Hour Work Week’, I was inspired to start hiring and making it work for me.

      Despite the fact that I have been doing a 30 minute work week for the last 4 years, I am still driven to make a good blog site and share the information I have learned and continually learning on a regular basis.

      Without Outsourcing, it would never happen.

      Imagine how much more you could achieve with one or two virtual staff  helping you?

       

      The following are the benefits of outsourcing:

      Advantages of Outsourcing

      • Access to Skilled People – You can easily find very high quality specialists. There are specialists in Quicken, Video Editing, Copy writing, Accounting, Social Media Management, you name it!
      • Cost Savings – When you outsource services like data entry, reception duties, cold calling, etc. to a low-cost country like Philippines, you are getting access to services that are available at a much lower cost (You can save 40-80% of western salaries).
      • Reduced Overhead – You don’t have to lease or build an office space for your staff. You don’t have to be obligated for holiday or sick pay, mandatory insurances, training costs, and much more. Plus you can simply hire people per task. With your current hiring methods, can you easily hire someone to work for you for just 10 hours? With Outsourcing you can!
      • Labour Flexibility – Outsourcing allows you to access extra staff resources whenever you require them. Then you can free them when the tasks are completed.
      • Process and System Standardization. I recommend a systematic approach. It’s really easy to have all of your staff spend a little time creating ‘how to’, ‘roles and responsibilities’ documents so that their duties become standardized systems for the future staff.
      • Level the Playing Field – Most small businesses can’t afford to match the in-house support services that bigger companies maintain. Outsourcing can help small companies act “big” by giving them access to technology and skills that large companies benefit from. 24/7 phone or online chat support is a perfect example.
      • Receptionist at a fraction of the price – Basically you can have a full time receptionist that will answer calls via Skype, receive and send faxes, make orders and process data entry for as low as $120USD for a 40 hour week. But it’s not just about how much you can save. Of course, we still want good and reliable staff.

       

      There can be disadvantages:

      • Renewing contracts. Staff can leave for higher paid jobs. This is very common if the staff do not receive enough regular or rewarding work. 
      • Confusion with contract, roles and responsibilities. Out sourcing allows you to be the manager. If you haven’t had managerial experience or staff  before, there could be challenges here. However, wouldn’t you rather have challenges with a team of staff costing you on average $3-8USD p/h than a team of staff costing you $15-40USD p/h? Not to mention legal liability is greatly reduced with Outsourcing. Australia and America has unfair dismissal work and contracts protecting employees. I think I would rather develop managerial skills and define roles and responsibilities of staff with an Outsourced work team any day.
      • English levels vary. English level greatly vary around the world. Native English speakers are often unaware of their own accents. Most Filipino and Indian staff can understand clear English very well, you must speak clearly with them. Your staff may have strong or weak accents too (actually accent training is very common in Philippines). Some new staff may lack the confidence in speaking English with you, but you can help and encourage them.
      • Changes in communication. Talking face to face is very rare so you need to be really clear with instructions and ask for regular updates. Most online staff can talk to you over Skype. I strongly encourage this. All of my staff log into Skype when they are online, even if their not working.
      • Poor quality and tardy services among others. Poor quality is common when ever a staff works without supervision or desired levels of skills. This happens regardless of where a staff is working. Sometimes, staff may misrepresent their skills or enhance their resumes. You may need new systems for quality control or simply hire a online project manager.

       

      online services

       

      By having good strategies and knowledge, these disadvantages can be avoided. It will take some time to develop and get a good hold of everything; however the results are well worth the initial effort.

      If your organization is genuinely interested in outsourcing, don’t let these few disadvantages stop you. You will have some problems but they are opportunities to grow! Sort them out and learn from them. Create strategies and procedures or better yet, have your Outsourced staff write these up themselves as their starting task. 

       

       

      There is more in the Outsourcing Game you need to know. I strongly suggest:

      • Read all of our articles on Outsourcing.
      • Use our VA (Virtual Assistant) guide to start with your first online staff member.
      • Outline very clear tasks and responsibilities to your VA.
      • Build up tasks and responsibilities one at a time.
      • Have your VA re-write their roles and responsibilities to ensure there had a complete understanding. Also if your VA leave, or get promoted, a new VA can easily take over their roles.
      • Re-read our articles and don’t be afraid to ask for help.
      • GIVE IT A TRY!!! Sign up to ODESK and give it a go today.

       

      Have a great, happy and productive day!

       

      Adrian and Yves (VA)

      Shanghai Tianzifang Pic
      • 72-hours-in-shanghai

      I have spent 4 years travelling in Australia and about 5 years living and travelling internationally. Having this much time on the road and having entered some 70+ countries, I feel when I say Shanghai is a cool city, you have to believe me, it’s cool and I have solid proofs why I say it.

      I’ve told a lot of friends about this place and my good friend John Nayler came to visit. Only its not  easy applying for a Chinese visa .when you are not always travelling  John settled for a 72 hour Transit Visa and hence came the:72 Hour Shanghai Dash.

       

      shanghai-travel

      00.30am 16 June 2013 John Nayler arrived at Shanghai Pudong Airport It’s China and visa’s are required in advance. However there is now a free 72 hour transit visa. Great, John can stop over on his way to Europe. Unfortunately, I didn’t realize that the 72 hour transit visa had to be transiting from one country to a different country. John came from Kuala Lumpur and was flying back to Kuala Lumpur  to Europe. John got stung with the need to buy a ticket from Shanghai to a third country just to please the Air Asia Immigration staff. Luckily it was done on time and he managed to land in Shanghai with a new Columbian friend in town. (I think she was trying to pick upJohn  by asking to share a taxi .)

       

      72 dash adventure

      – 01.30am 16 June 2013 Lujiabang Lu, near my apartment Complex in vicinity of Lujiabang Lu, Down Town Shanghai. The Columbian is still with us. Amazingly, she is trying Couch Surfing for the first time and her host is not answering his phone. Luckily, she  just shared the taxi with one of Australia and Shanghai’s most experienced Couch Surfers. We immediately with a simple agreement, “Well your host isn’t answering, we live here, there is a couch, and here (pointing to the shop just outside the taxi window) they sell beer!

       

       

      – 01.30 – 4am 16 June 2013 30th Floor apartment, Shanghai Caught up with John and all the latest. Ms. Columbia or Julie continues to deny any existence of her Columbian heritage and pretends to be a student in Malaysia. It’s a kind ofunbelievable story ; however the world thinks Columbia is all about Cocaine and trafficking. We find it funny and harass her about it. Julie tells us she and most of her friends have never tried it and  we let her off. Needless to say, it’s an interesting story. Not to mention the 3 of us all own properties and like to travel the world without working too much.

      – 11.30am 16 June 2013 Breakfast in People Square Well, first breakfast should be Chinese right? Not today. Korean is on the plate and I take Ms. Columbia and John down for a  massive Korean BBQ Brunch. Kimchi, vegetables, tofu, some BBQ meat and raw beef as well just to make it exotic. It’s a high class restaurant so I trust and enjoy the raw beef. After we finished off by BBQing (that’s a recognized Australian word I swear) BBQing bananas and ice cream. Complimentary ice cream, the staff remembered me well from a previous visit. The most expensive meal,  230RMB or about $35AUD. It was the most extravagant though. Just the other week I spent 240RMB here eating with a vegetarian girl friend. Our food bill was actually 60RMB, the other 180RMB was a bottle of wine and a bottle of Soju. No wonder the staff remembered me.

       

      people's square Shanghai

      – 14.30pm 16 June 2013 Peoples Square to East Nanjing Station. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/People’s_Square_(Shanghai) 360 Degree Iclyck photographs were taken along the famous People Square walking/shopping route. We were continually harassed to buy watches and roller skates; however that’s a nice change. Normally they harass me trying to sell sex or massage. We meet up with one of our premium Shanghai connections at East Nanjing Station, Mr Liang Sun. Liang works for a Chinese Yachting Company. A very good connection established between Liang and John.

       

       

      Captain's rooftop Shanghai– 16.00 16 June 2013 The Bund We proceed along the famous Bund, Shanghai’s river promenade. A gorgeous place that looks fantastic even through the rain. We head up to a roof top bar, Captains, for an afternoon beer and have a light discussion on the differences between Chinese and Australian Yacht industries while the rain settles. Ms. Julie from Columbia is still with us and interested in how much ‘luggage’ she can hide in the hulls of Yatches so she listens with intent like a deaf man trying to listen to a dog fart. Coffee is 40 RMB and beer is 60 RMB.

       

       

      -18.00 16 June 2013 Pudong We head down from the Captains roof top and catch a 2 RMB worth ferry across the river to Pudong, the economic part of Shanghai City. We check out some of the amazing skyscrapers. One of which, the Shanghai World Finance Tower, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shanghai_World_Financial_Center is the 2nd highest hotel in the world. It was the 5th highest Building in the world according to WikiPedia;however there is a new building being constructed almost next to it, which has just passed the top of it with a height of over 492 Meters and going. China’s tallest

      Flair Tower

       buildings next to each other. We head up to another roof top bar called Flair on the 58th floor of IFC2. https://www.ritzcarlton.com/en/Properties/ShanghaiPudong/Dining/flair/Default.htm Flair is my favorite roof top bar in the city. However with the weather we find ourselves in the middle of a rain cloud unable to see more than 50 meters.

       

       

      Shanghau Apartment

      – 20.00 16 June 2013 Back to my Apartment We find our way back to the apartment to relax a little and meet my room mate Fred. Fred is an eccentric, totally ‘fabulous’ fashion designer living in Shanghai. Within moments of meeting the conversation has shifted from sex in Columbia, to sex in Australia and back to Fred’s virginity. It’s hard being gay in China. Anyway Fred is a superstar and very well known in Shanghai. A truly wonderful room mate. I’m blessed to have lived with him for so long. Hostels here cost between 40-80 RMB. Hotels from 200-800 RMB per night. My Apartment, 1 room in a shared apartment downtown with Electricity, Cleaner, Internet etc, 3000-5000 RMB per month. Thanks to Fred I pay under 3000 RMB and have the best views in town.

      – 21.00 16 June 2013 Street food  We have a local style dinner to show John what its really about. We eat at a small shop which is actually in the garage/entrance way to some apartment. Dinner consist of 3 bowls of Wantons, something that resembles beef, a few dishes of vegetables and 2 large Tsingtao beers. A total of 70 RMB.

      – 23.00 16 June 2013 Fancy Italian Bar Departed the street food to get Ms Columbia to her real CS host. It’s been an event full 24hours. We meet her host Stuart in a fancy upmarket Italian Bar. Real imported Italian beer and about 70 RMB each. The Tsingtao is 4RMB in the shop so I know what I prefer. Still, it’s the atmosphere. The Atmosphere was viscous. Stuart’s friend was there trying to pick up a Russian girl whose with her other Russian girl friend liked to yell at me for some reason. Unfortunately my Russian joke is considered funny to Russians with a light sense of humour. It’s not so funny for Moscow women. They leave soon after and Stuart falling asleep at the table takes Ms. Columbia home leaving John and I’m clueless, and also tired.

      – 00.01 17 June 2013 Apartment Calling it a night.

       

      – 11.30 17 June 2013 Apartment We eventually woke up and started the day. Through We chat, a messaging application like Whatsup, and Fred who was at work, we managed to order breakfast. 30 minutes and 35 RMB later 3-4 dishes of Chinese take-out appear at our doorstep. We proceed on catching up r sight seeing plans are on hold as the weather continues to let us down. An hour later, we are about to leave the house  despite the weather. Suddenly there is a knock on the door and a cheerful Frenchie called Remy is there. Remy is a Couch Surfing Guest of Fred’s who just arrive. We didn’t expect Remy however his enthusiasm is enough to clear the weather for us all to enjoy the city. (I have a feeling Fred  have told me however I forgot thanks to the 4 RMB Tsingtao beers the night before.)

       

      John Nayler
      -13:30-15:30 17 June 2013 Shanghai sights We covers a couple of tourist sites and do quick video shots of the famous Tians Zi Fang where old school Shanghai meets Boutique bars and Restaurants. It is a place to be seen and to watch. No one’s selling watches and roller skates here. However, western prices for almost everything. After we proceed to TaoBao City, 580 West Nanjing Lu. If your going here, download the China Fake Market Application available on Iphone and Android. Yes there is an application for the fake markets. The Fake markets is a bit of a viscous place though, the Chinese here can be a bit ruthless on soft hearted souls. See this is where Chinese offer glasses at 80-120 RMB yet slowly come down to 20 RMB. However if you were to say to them straight away that you wan them for 10 RMB they maybe abusive to you and claim your being stupid or unfair. This is not such a pleasant place to buy. Perhaps its the Australian culture though, we are not used to it. Not finding what we want here we proceed to the IT buildings at Xizang South and HuaiHai Road. Here John quickly and pleasantly scoops up a good deal on a quality tripod. Go here for any IT required gear.

      16:00 17 June 2013 Yuyuan Gardens This area is very popular for its heritage and architecture. Ming Style was built around 16th Century. A gorgeous place well worth ‘of a visit. It is  a public holiday so it is crowded with tourist. However we managed to shoot a short video or two. A Chinese friend Elaine and Mr Liang Sun joined us. Additional note, today we used Taxi’s between each location with an average cost of 16 RMB. All taxi drivers spoke minimal English however our Google maps worked sufficiently.

      19.00 17 June 2013 Peoples Park, Barbarossa Mr Liang Sun takes us to a bar called Barbarosa. Turns out this place is numerous lists as one of Shanghai’s top bars and its immediately clear why. Despite being smack bang in the middle of the city, Barbaosa is located next to a miniature lake in Peoples Park. It’s Moroccan style yet we look over the water, and above the tree line we see a clock that resembles the Big Ben and my personal favourite building, a skyscraper that looks like some evil structure from a Transformer SciFi film. And here we are under a ceiling which is hidden by a Moroccan nomadic tent style roof. We join Liangs friends, 3 beautiful women from France and Spain and quickly joined by another gorgeous Chinese girl who happens to be a doctor. There we are, 2 French, 2 Spanish, 2 Australians, 3 Chinese in a Moroccan Restaurants, over looking the Chinese Garden and Big Ben. Needles to say the half price happy hour cocktails, normally 50-80 RMB go down quiet well. Barbarosa immediately becomes our favourite location in town. https://www.smartshanghai.com/venue/860 

      20.30 17 June 2013 Near Peoples Park Restaurant hunting Since we are in Shanghai, and since happy hour is over, we decide to go for some local food and we find ourselves in nice little restaurant with plates and plates of food, and a collection of empty beer bottles. The bill: less than 50 RMB each.

      22.00 17 June 2013 M1nt and M2 We go to one of China’s most popular clubs,M1nt. Only because of the holiday,  its lounge area that is only open. Still the nice staff let us in for a quick video. Shortly after we duck out, jump into 3 taxis and head to M2. One of the biggest clubs in town. It is quiet fancy and totally full of party goers. Super loud music, flashing lights, even a performance by some overweight dark guys pretending to be celebrities. Here you really need tables and space to enjoy so we decide to bail out for salsa. Departing the building John lost his ability to speak. There was a line of Porches, Lamborghini’s, Ferrari’s and a Rolls Royce or 2 to say the least all parked around the building. China’s elite, rich and party goers where certainly here not at M1nt tonight. For Shanghai’s best venues, it is often best to call ahead to book a table for entry or have special contacts. Regularly popular ExPats here get invites from promoters to join various clubs with the lure of free tables and drinks. Often its real too. They make money from the Elite, and the Elite want to see ExPats in their clubs so ExPats often get lured in with free drinks. https://www.smartshanghai.com/venue/4016/M1NT_shanghai https://www.smartshanghai.com/venue/5246/M2_Hong_Kong_Plaza 

       

       

      Mural Bar China-01.00 18 June 2013 Mural, Hengshen Lu Normally people go from smaller club to bigger club;however we went from the biggest to smallest. Mural is a Salsa bar and we have some Salsa fans. Here we have a better time than the previous clubs as we have room to move, to dance and a little easier to talk with each other. A couple of drinks outside on the street followed by finishing the night here. Home to bed to sleep. https://www.smartshanghai.com/venue/7859/mural_ii

      09.00 18 June 2013 Apartment Waking up in the morning, too early as usual although John’s time is almost up. With Remy, remember Freds guest, and the Doctor, ahhh she slept on the couch I swear. Unfortunately there wasn’t enough room for the lovely Spanish girls. Anyhow we all got in Sync with our Smart Phones, Emails, Photographs, Messaging Apps and much needed Coffee.

      Shanghai adventure-11.00 18 June 2013 Cool Docks I have heard about this Cool Docks for sometime and never been. It’s close to the apartment and on way to the Airport so we head there for Brunch. Now in China Copy Write and Advertising is kind of unrestricted. It’s great to buy DVD’s 5-15 RMB each. However the Cool Docks is a prime bad example. I don’t know how or why anyone would call this place cool. It’s the most unimpressive thing I’ve seen in Shanghai. Even the 50m view of Rain from the Pudong Roof tops was better. So we quickly get back in a taxi and head to the Magalev station for a Brunch closer to the Airport. Top tip, eating at the Train Station or Airport is always better then eating at home and rushing to make it on time. 12.00 18 June Magalev We have Brunch of Chinese Fast Food under the Magalev. Brunch cost a total of around 70RMB for 4 of us. PS. John I still have your change. The Magalev is a fast train experience. 431Km/hr in Peak hour. Quiet a thrill. 300Km/hr in off-peak or bad weather. We say our good byes here as John races off at Peak Hour speed to Pudong Airport. That ends Johns 72hour dash. Or more like 60hours. Areas covered. My fabulous 30th Floor Apartment and surrounding shops/restaurants. Peoples Park, People Square, East Nanjing Lu, YuYuan Garden, Pudong, Tian Zi Fang, 1 x Fake Market, IT Building, and a few of Shanghai’s best bars and clubs. Biggest expenses, a beer or drink in upmarket establishments, 70 RMB per drink. If you were to buy in Convenience store, large Chinese beer is 4 RMB each. Bacardi, Breezer, Jack Daniels 15-24 RMB. Biggest expenses are meals in upmarket establishment, 80 – 120 RMB per head, less if one meal, more if a variety of shared meals or courses. If you were to eat on street- without minimal risk of Diarrhea 20-40, RMB, eith small to medium risk of Diarrhea 7-14 RMB .Taxi-we use taxi almost everywhere, 14 RMB base cost, most short journeys. Fare becomes 18 RMB after 10pm. Our longest trip was 30 RMB. To either of Shanghai’s Airport from Down town would cost 200-250 RMB. Subways,  3-4 RMB per trip. Some trips up to 7 RMB, all ours 3-4 RMB.

      My recommendations: Do China on the cheap. Don’t risk to have diarrhea; however you can safely eat at many medium class establishments with meals for 20-30 RMB. If your really watching your health like I do, stop in at Family Marts frequently. Here they sell Salads and Sushi for 4-10 RMB. There is an abundance of fruit stalls as well. Eat healthy and frequent small meals. Do not drink tap water. Buy water from Family Mart, 2 RMB. If you’re going to fancy places, have a  bottled water on hand because if you buy a water in a fancy place expect to pay 10 times more then at Family Mart. Also if you eat the Family Mart way, when you go to fancy establishment you can be comfortable eating much less. Water served to you by classy Restaurants is fine, water from faucet is not.

      Be careful of thieves;however many people, including myself, feel Shanghai is safer then Paris and Barcelona.

      Be careful of Tea Ceremonies, if strangers, particularly young students invite you to Tea, that is a common scam. If you find your self in that situation, take a good look at yourself, your being scammed.

      I feel you can touch a Chinese city in 72 hours, although you can’t get a feel for China in such limited time. That concludes the 72 hour Shanghai Dash. China is fantastic and Shanghai is one of my favourite cities in the world. Hope to see you here.

       

      Having troubles recalling people’s names? It happens to almost every person from time to time. Some people easily forget and some have sharp memory. Which side do you want to be on? Since we are babies until we become adults, we are hearing our names. It’s the most important word in the world for us. For that reason, simply calling people by their names can have a tremendous positive effect. In fact the simple art of remembering names is a key to open many doors and maintain initial bonds with anyone we meet. I found this skill particularly easy to learn, and most beneficial to practice. Remembering names is actually very simple. You just have to focus and discipline yourself. Here are some of my Name Memory Techniques I can share:

      • Hello Name TagWhen you are introduced to a new person, repeat his/her name. Confirm you heard and pronounced it right. Ask them to spell it out perhaps, especially if it’s foreign.
      • Once you got their name, keep on repeating his/her name on your mind.
      • Match the person’s name with somebody you know that has the same name or distinct character she/he has. When the new person has a name you already know, you can easily link them together (and the reverse when meeting people with strange Nordic or Chinese names). Think what does this new John have in common with the the other John I knew? Ahhh, I have it, he is tall and funny like the other John.
      • Creative linkings are also effective memory techniques. For example, I have a friend in Switzerland called “Tudors.” For him, I imagine two doors opening from his face and inside is a little Tudors laughing. Funny associations work best! Perhaps you can Imagine someone called “Ali” bouncing around like Mohammed Ali singing his famous quote, “float like a butterfly, sting like a bee.”
      • Another creative association could be bees flying out of Bebe’s nose. Or imagining a cat running around “Catherine” (Cat-a-run) hair.
      • To help the link particularly if its weak, repeat their name in conversation,“Nice to meet you John.” “Wow John that’s amazing.” The more it’s used the more likely it is to be remembered.
      • Introduce the people to each other, “Michael, have you met John and Catherine?”
      • When leaving, don’t forget to say their name one last time.
      • To reinforce the name even further. Just before going to sleep, remember all the people that you met that day repeat all their names and something you remember about them such as where they were from, their hobby or job.
      • A side note, a good networking technique is obviously to collect business cards or to write down their details; however jot down a little longer note. Perhaps something about your conversation, or something that you talked about with them to help you recall the person and conversation. Then if you call them back in future you will be able to recall the person much clearer and it will be easier to gain their support.

      Now that you have the techniques, you just have to set yourself a reminder to practice them regularly. 21 Day Theory will do the trick! For the next couple of months, in all of your future events, practice these techniques. Next thing you know, you will be walking out events saying goodbye to everybody with not just a handshake but being able to confidently recall everybody’s name. You may even feel the new power as you walk out the door. Simple and effective. You just have to choose to do it. Then make it a habit.   Do you have your own Name Memory Techniques? Feel free to share it with us!

      “Making Money Made Simple” by Noel Whittaker was the first money book I ever read. It’s now on its 24th Edition. This book is particularly great for Australians; however what is coming up is good regardless of nationality.

      Stock MarketNoel has just loaded up two great new calculators to his webpage: the stock market and dollar cost averaging calculators. These were available on his Purchased CD; however it’s now available totally free on his website.

      The following is an excerpt from Noel Whittaker’s regular newsletter.
      All you need to do is go to  http://www.noelwhittaker.com.au and click on stock market calculators which will take you to the stock market calculator and the dollar cost averaging calculator.

      These calculators are programmed with ASX data since January 1980 which matches the All Ordinaries Accumulation Index and takes into account both income and growth. The stock market calculator allows you to enter a notional lump sum at a date of your choice, and then enter a finishing date, and the calculator will tell you how much you would have made if your investment matched the index.

      Here is an example. In May 1990 I bought a unit at the Gold Coast for $500,000 – it is now worth $850,000. If I go to the website and click on the stock market calculator and enter a notional investment of $500,000 as at May 1990, and then choose June 2013 as the finishing date, I can discover to my horror that the same $500,000 invested in an index fund would now be worth $3.95 million which equates to an annual compound rate of 9.4%.

      I call buying this property the $3 million mistake.

      Or, I could go to the dollar cost averaging calculator and pretend I started investing $5000 a month in June 2008. Even after the global financial crisis my portfolio would now be worth $361,839, for a total investment of $300,000.

      Go to the Free Resources page where you can find free resources showing you specifically how to measure you net wealth, cashflow and also, assess your current Wealth Mindest!

      How to get cheap air fares?

      Flights on the Cheap

      Book on-line. Almost all low cost carriers sell their lowest cost fares exclusively through their own website. These are  generally the cheapest way for the public to purchase tickets. Do you know the cheapest airline carriers?  If not, most of them are listed below for you. A lot of travel sites appear to offer discount fares which appear great at first. These sites generally don’t quote surcharges, taxes and other costs. These sites and agents often earn commissions from airlines which are how they make their money and stay in business. Go direct to the Airlines. Unless you have some special connections 😉

      Don’t assume major carriers will not give discounts. Check the major carrier websites too. Major carriers often have more frequent flights and a higher capacity to fill. We most strongly recommend you to use www.skyscanner.net This is the Google for Plane Tickets. With this site you can perform very broad searches such as:

      ‘Sydney’ to ‘Everywhere’ for the month of ‘June’.

      This site is the most recommended. Be aware. There are still a few low cost carriers that are not listed in this site. The Majority of airlines around the world are listed making this the best starting point.

       

      skyscanner

       

      Low cost carriers & on-line services. Low cost carriers often impose (very) low baggage allowances. These can be as low as 10-15kg for one item only but some carriers offer generous allowances. Don’t assume & check the carriers’ rules before booking. They generally rigidly enforce excess allowances at check -in and require cash or credit card payment or they will refuse boarding. Don’t expect in-flight power sockets, music, video or magazines. Their website may have “on board” information that explains services that are available. Parents with small children should call the airline and ensure any special requirements are available prior to booking. Change of facilities may be simple or non-existent. Seating options may not be available or be very restrictive (i.e. bulkhead seats which offer no legroom). Many low cost carriers do not provide meals, water or in flight entertainment. Some sell these on-board, but not all. With security arrangements changing around the world do not assume you can bring food or water on board. Check their website carefully prior to booking. Some airlines permit pre-booking of upgrades for meals, baggage and other services at a discount at booking. Walk-up payment is often over-priced or the quantity is not available to meet demand. Be flexible and prepared prior to your flight. (Tip – Take tissues in case of low toilet paper supply) Seat allocation for low cost carriers is generally either pre-booked as a preference at the time of booking or is not available until check-in. Once again, check the airline website carefully and read the terms and conditions prior to providing credit card details. To obtain best seats, it is essential that you arrive as early as possible to the airport for check-in and seat allocation.

      Low cost carriers: Some airlines offer budget flights from one continent to another.

       

      jetstar    Air Transat    Jet Air Fly    Air Asia    air berlin

      Iceland Air    Iceland Express    Point Afrique    Atlas BlueJazeera Airways

      Condor AirlineEurofly Air Arabia

       

      • AirArabia- has cheap flights from the Middle East to South Asia, North Africa and Turkey.
      • AirAsia- X flies from Malaysia to Australia, China, Taiwan, India and used to fly European destinations at London-Stansted and Paris-Orly. Sadly AirAsia announced 12 Jan 2012 the cancellation of its European routes: Paris Orly, London Gatwick. AirAsia is currently flying from Kuala Lumpur to Saudi Arabia, hopefully their flights to Iran will resume soon.
      • AirBerlin- based in Germany, flies intercontinental to Asia, the Americas, and Africa
      • Air transat is a charter airline that flies from Canada to points in Europe, Florida and some Caribbean countries.
      • Atlas Blue low cost flights between North Africa and many European destinations including France, Spain, Italy and the UK.
      • Condor- based in Germany, flies to Europe and the Middle East, the Americas, Africa, and Asia.
      • Eurofly- operates flights between New York and various locations in Italy.
      • Icelandair- flies from Iceland to North America and Europe.
      • Iceland Express- flies from Iceland to Europe and to New York and Winnipeg in North America.
      • JetAirFly- flies from Europe to Mexico, Cuba, Costa Rica, Jamaica, Dominican Rep., Tunisia, Egypt, Morocco, Tanzania, Kenya, Algeria, Jordan, Thailand,
      • Jetstar-is flying in East Asia and Australasia up to Hawaii
      • Jazeera Airways- is connecting airports in Middle East to North Africa, South East Europe and South Asia.
      • Point Afrique flies from France to Mali.

       

      Hot Tip

      1. As you visit these Cheap Airline companies, subscribe to their newsletters. This is a great way to be notified of new sales.

      2. If you have time, regularly watching or paying attention to specific newsletters will help you identify patterns in their sales offers. Air Asia, for example will have a sale with the cheapest tickets running out quickly and the sale will continue with little tickets. When the sale ends, a new one generally starts within a week, and these may be for a later date. It is possible with a little luck, to buy discount tickets on almost all your flights, all the time (with prior notice)

      Leave a suggestion! If enough people show interest here, we will set up a system for receiving all low cost carrier. Sales Offers and presenting them nice and easily for you. We can also for a small fee or donation, have our IT staff help you find the best flight.

      If interested, please leave your comments and suggestions.

       

      Want more good info like this?

      Check out my friend’s article over at StagKissBudapest https://www.stagkissbudapest.com/blog/how-to-find-cheap-flights/

       

      The different roles of commonly employed virtual staff: Virtual Assistant, Website Manager, Content Writer, Ghostwriter  and Search Engine Optimizer

      Seriously, I have made lots of mistakes with Outsourcing. Wasted countless hours trying to automate sometimes the most simplest tasks such as starting a contact list or sorting emails.

      I have learned from the mistakes though. It is my pleasure to share my knowledge with you to help you gain more free time and a higher quality of life— the ultimate goal of Outsourcing.

       

      Most recently I have used my Outsourced Team to present a collection of functional and usable information for you. This exact article is to explain the different roles of commonly employed virtual staff.

       

      The Different Roles of Commonly Employed Virtual Staff: 

      1.      VIRTUAL ASSISTANT (VA) – Provides administrative, secretarial, technical, or creative services to businesses externally. A good VA can save you a lot of time and energy. VA’s can also save you from hiring real staff. Imagine working at home with a VA taking care of the repetitiveVirtual Assistant | Outsourcing tasks. From orders, phone calls, sourcing, mailing lists, you name it. If your VA doesn’t have the skills, there is also the possibility of training them just like a real assistant, at a fraction of the cost.

       

      TYPICAL TASK OF A VIRTUAL ASSISTANT:

      • Calendar Management / Schedule Online Marketing
      • Data Entry
      • Transcribing
      • Link Building
      • On and offline Research
      • E-mail Response / E-mail Sorting
      • Blog Postings / Article Writing
      • Initiating and maintaining Customer rapport
      • Updating / Record Management
      • Booking Transportation
      • Reserving tables and tickets to events

       

       

      2.      WEBSITE MANAGER – The Website Manager will be responsible in developing the  organization’s online presence. A website manager can be used to develop and maintain various sites together. The Website Manager can work closely with other Virtual staff and can even manage other staff such as SEO, Content Writers, or required Technical Specialist.

      I feel that one of the main benefits of a Website Manager  is that they can keep all of your site content up to date. Often we all see outdated information website contents, it doesn’t look good. For a small regular amount of money you can have a someone take care of this for you.

       

      TYPICAL TASK OF A WEBSITE MANAGER:Website Manager

      • Sustain a constant awareness of all web properties
      • Build up and maintain all websites in a method that is pleasing to targeted viewers
      • Develop, sustain, and make certain reliability of discussion posts, such as blogs or forums
      • Responsible for crafting site promotions, email newsletters, and online outreach campaigns
      • Guarantee web-based information is archived for potential requests and indication
      • Create, widen and supervise content for organization’s web presence.
      • WordPress design and layout
      • Theme customization
      • Installing and managing plug-ins
      • Other WordPress site management tasks

       

       

      3.      CONTENT WRITER – A Content Writer is an individual who specializes in providing relevant text based content for websites. A content writer can also help quickly expand your content or process excess sting material into fresh content. A good content writer can also quickly turn audio recordings and interviews into articles for you.

      A Content Writer may help automate your business by having articles regularly written, sent to the Webpage Manager and submitted on your site.

       

      TYPICAL TASK OF A CONTENT WRITER:Article Writing

       

      • Research, write and edit web and intranet content from scratch
      • Write web content based on material supplied by client or employer
      • Edit print documents for publication online
      • Edit web pages for on-screen readability
      • Proofread final draft of web pages
      • Test and edit forms for usability
      • Evaluate web sites for strategy, readability, legibility, find-ability, usability, interactivity and credibility

       

       

      4.      GHOST WRITER – A writer who writes books, articles, stories, reports, or other texts that are officially credited to anotGhost Writerher person. Now, more than every everyday people writing extra ordinary books.

      Writing and publishing has been made much easier with the rapid acceptance and use of Ebooks. If your writing, look at a how a ghost writer can help speed up your results.

       

      TYPICAL TASK OF A GHOST WRITER:

      • Research topics
      • Write article or blog for the topic given in behalf of the client
      • Transcribe
      • Followed the writing style of the client

       

       

      5.       SEARCH ENGINE OPTIMIZER (SEO) – SEO exist to draw more traffic to your site. If you have an online presence or at least a webpage. Why not consider using a SEO to boost your traffic.  As most internet users simply use Google or similar search engines, the SEO will take actions to make your site appear higher and higher in the search results. This will help by drawing more traffic to your site. However there is more to it than just that. For example, we don’t actually want traffic, we want customers. For this reason you will need your goals defined and to make a SEO plan with the Website Manager and SEO candidate.

       

      TYPICAL TASK OF AN SEO:SEO

      • Perform keyword research in coordination with client business objectives to optimize existing content and uncover new opportunities
      • Provide SEO analysis and recommendations in coordination with elements and structure of websites and web pages
      • Provide recommendations and execute strategies for content development in coordination with SEO goals – general and keyword specific
      • Administer search engine programs (XML site-maps, shopping feeds, webmaster tools) for purposes of diagnostic reporting on client projects
      • Help to create and support marketing content to socialize and use for social media purposes (such as; customer videos briefs, customer case studies, blog posts, posts from analysts and customers)
      • Implement link building campaigns in coordination with client SEO goals
      • Research and administer social media tools in support of clients’ social media strategy

       

      Note: I strongly advise, do not just hire and start a SEO guy. It can really cause damage to your site. It’s important to understand the basics of SEO first and make a plan with your Webpage Manager or VA to outline what the SEO can do.

       

       

      As a westerner or someone focused on achieving goals, Virtual Staff can be a golden opportunity. I would most strongly recommend reading our following articles on Outsourcing and look at hiring your first VA soon.

       

       

      Mobile phone applications can do much more than just entertain us. Being a Personal Development specialist I love using my Smart Phone to enhance my life. Sure my phone can’t make me a coffee, however it can be used to help me keep fit and on track for making constant improvements.

      I have tried many. Some with success and some were just a waste of time. Lets share knowledge and post your most recommended Apps.

      The following are the Best Mobile Phone Applications:

       

      WeChatbody language

      dropbox

      digical calendar

      Evernotemy daily success

      nature soundopera mini

       

       

      skyscanner

      TED

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

      WeChat, Chinese version of Whats Up, Kakao, and Skype all put together. This is slowly expanding outside of China. Having used many application programes on my journey I have to say this is by far the best as at 2013. I simply get annoyed by people trying to contact me on other systems now.  Favourite feature, when busy, you simply send a voice message. no need to tap each letter, just record up to 1 minute of voice and send. However I guess we have to wait till the population catches up

      Body Language, a simple game teaching and improving one’s ability to notice and understand Facial Micro Expressions. This game has greatly improved my natural ability to communicate with people. If only everybody would play this game instead of Crazy Birds.

      Dropbox, I use this on my computer as well. It automatically uploads all my camera photos and video when in WiFi areas. Its great for sharing files between different devices, computers and very easy to share folders with family, friends or Outsourced staff. Right now I have the ability to spontaneously do an interview, record it with my mobile phone, upload it to Dropbox and have my Virtual Assistant turn it into a blog or article, and return it in under a day.

      DigiCal. Calendar, the Android and Iphone standard calendars simply are not enough for successful people. Your calendar should have a large Widget so you can easily see appointments, goals for the day. For my preferences the calendar must also sync with google calendar. (Many roaming entrepreneurs use Google Applications to keep our data mobile and in synch)

      Evernote, if I wake up in the night and have some crazy idea, I no longer turn on a light and write it down. I simply turn on this app and make a sound recording. In the morning the app has synchronised with my desktop and the note/sound/image is there. Also has email and share functions.

      My Daily Success, put in your daily goals, Ie. Eating salads, drinking 2L of water, exercising, increasing vocabulary, installing a new habit. With this app your goals are then presented in a large Widget so you see them and easily tick them off as their accomplished. The Widget changes colour once all goals are completed. Complete all before sleeping everyday!

      Nature Sound, after some time this has become an essential app. I use it for sleeping or going into meditation while on planes or in noisy places.  I will post a separate blog about self-hypnosis tracks which put me to sleep on planes later.

      Opera Mini, an Internet explorer however you can easily save pages for reading later. I regularly look up the cities and countries I’m visiting on WikiTravel and save their pages instead of carrying Guide Books.

      Skyscanner, one time I was stuck at an Australian Airport. JetStar wouldn’t let me on my flight to Japan as I didn’t have an ongoing ticket pre-purchased to exit Japan. I’ve entered Japan twice without this however this time the Airline insisted I buy an ongoing ticket. I had little choice but to buy one through them. Luckily I had this application installed. Within 10 minutes I had booked the cheapest possible ticket out of Japan on a new discount airline for a fraction of the price.

      TED, from ted.com (note I’ve been fortunate enough to speak at two TEDx events now). TED is full of 3-20 minute videos of “Inspirational ideas worth sharing”. While in WiFi area, I can quickly download some interesting, motivating or inspiring talks for the commute to work or next flight.

      Now its workout time:

      max capacity

       

      Max Capacity, lots of legs and full body workouts designed around your capacity. It increases your capacity. I had great success with this app.

       

       

      Daily Ab Workout

       

      Daily Ab Workout, every 2nd day for the last 4 months I have been doing this work out. I’ve increased the time, had exercises on 3 different programs, plus random. And I complete it all while a person on the application does it as well. Its like have a friend to do it with. Results yes. (My only Paid Application)

       

       

      That’s it guys, please have a try of one or two of these mobile phone applications. Only try a one or two at a time though in order to adapt gradually. If your phone is slow, try removing some old unused app’s as they frequently take up space and some even slow down your phone even when not in use.

       

       

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      Volunteering whilst traveling is a great way to ‘make a difference’. However, it’s not just about giving. Living and volunteering in a foreign country is a great way to know the different culture, meet new people, learn about yourself and the bigger picture. Hey, you may even gain a few new skills and life long friends. If you’re only on a short trip, take time to visit an orphanage, hospital, or the like. Those with more time can contact local NGOs, tourist offices or embassies, to inquire about longer term volunteer possibilities. Volunteer tourism is booming! Lots of people make money, and seek to make money from volunteers. We share this information freely to help you and your friends find genuine volunteer positions. Places where people profit from your efforts, not from your money. We believe we can make a difference, it is important to be in position where you and your efforts are appreciated and needed. Not in Volunteer tourism places which charge fees and make cash profits from you staying there.  PLEASE POST FEEDBACK, especially if its negative, we will delete any negative volunteer organisations and continue promoting and supporting the best.   helping people There are several ways to combine traveling and voluntary work:

      • In Europe, young European citizens can participate in the EVS program (“European Voluntary Service”), which allows you to work abroad for 3 months up to a year,funded by the European Union at some kind of charitable organization.
      • If you would like to combine traveling and working on an organic farm, the WWOOF-ing – Willing Workers on Organic Farms – might be something for you. You can be sowing seed, making compost, gardening, planting, cutting wood, weeding, making mud-bricks, harvesting, fencing, building, packing, milking and feeding livestock any of 80 countries.
      • Another organization with opportunities beyond the scope of just organics is HelpX. Ordinary people can join and offer vacancies here. Vacancies are more like working in a resort, private farm or anything like that, and instead of money, you’ll paid with free accommodation, possibly food and other benefits.
      • If you want to experience new cultures and ways of life by doing volunteer work, exchanges with hosts in different countries, check out Volunteerstays.
      • Workaway has a large database of options for those wishing to travel and volunteer in exchange for lodging and food. They have a worldwide selection of hosts from over 100 countries with a wide variety of opportunities including gardening, babysitting, art projects, language learning and animal care.

      Various agencies of Western governments send volunteers abroad: the US Peace CorpsBritish VSOCanadian CUSO and so on. These are among the best volunteer jobs. All expenses — immunizations, travel, lodging, etc. — are normally covered and there is support — training, medical insurance, emergency evacuation if needed — and some sort of small salary. When you come back, these organizations look good on a resume. On the other hand, these positions are harder to get and usually require a heavier commitment, typically two years. As an alternative, or to complement the working holiday, many people have chosen to embark on a volunteering experience. These meaningful experiences allow individuals the chance to give back to the international community, whether this is teaching in underprivileged schools, working with animals in Africa, or helping with community development project. Typically there will be a fee to participate in these programs, and participants are not paid. Most famously, Prince Harry embarked on a volunteering Gap Year in 2004 when he went to South Africa. There are many organizations offering gap year placements. A few of these are:

      • Frontier Conservation specializes in scientific and conservation projects in locations such as Tanzania, Costa Rica, Cambodia, Fiji and Madagascar.
      • Global Vision International is an award winning volunteer abroad organization running projects all over the world.
      • volunteeringGap Year Diver, specialists in gap year and career break scuba diving trips. Marine Conservation initiatives, learn to dive, become a Divemaster, teach in local schools, community work, Instructor training, language learning and much more.
      • The Great Projects. Beginning life as the multi-award winning “The Great Orangutan Project“, the Great Projects now offers a wide collection of projects, used to showcase working models of animal conservation tourism around the world and promotes the importance of setting standards in endangered animal welfare and conservation in the tourism sector.
      • Yomps, Gap year, career break and adventure specialist, from volunteering in Africa to learning to surf in Ecuador, Yomps has it all.
      • Shumba Experience Specialists in conservation and veterinary projects in South Africa, Botswana and Namibia.
      • Xtreme Gap The adventure travel and extreme sports gap year company.
      • Global Vision International Specialists in gap year expeditions such as marine expeditions in the Indian Ocean and exploration in Patagonia. GVI also has over 150 volunteering projects around the world.
      • Gap Medics, Specifically aimed at students looking to go to medical or nursing school – Work experience and volunteer opportunities in The Caribbean, India and Tanzania.
      • Africa & Asia Venture (AV) – a founding member of the Year Out Group, offering 5 week to 5 month group volunteer projects in the developing world with 24/7 support throughout.
      • RealGap UK RealGap DE, Specialists in gap years, career breaks & adventure travel holidays. RealGap are experts in providing unique & exciting volunteer projects, working holiday programs & backpacking packages across the world.
      • VentureCo Worldwide, specialists in South America Gap Years. Combining language courses, volunteer projects and adventure travel.
      • The Leap, a family run British organization that offers gap year placements in Africa, Asia, South America and Australia.
      • Gap Year Ghana, small organization specializing in volunteer placements in Ghana, West Africa.
      • Raleigh Youth and education charity offering challenging environmental, community and adventure programs for 17-75 year old in Borneo, Costa Rica & Nicaragua and India
      • Projects Abroad, Global organizer of overseas voluntary work placements. Projects Abroad runs placements like Teaching, Care, Conservation & Environment, Medicine & Healthcare, Sports, Culture & Community projects and Journalism.
      • EDGE of AFRICA, Small organization that offers volunteer and internship placements in Southern Africa. Conservation, community and sports volunteer placements available as well as family and tailor made positions.
      • VAE Kenya, a small UK organization that organizes challenging teaching placements in rural Kenyan schools.
      • Skills Venture, a new company that runs short sabbaticals for US and UK business professionals, spent providing mentoring and consultancy support to entrepreneurs in Kenya.
      • Cross-Cultural Solutions(CCS) is a non-profit organization that offers 1-12 week volunteer abroad programs in 12 countries, where you work side-by-side with local people, stay in a CCS Home-Base, and learn first-hand about local customs by participating in Cultural & Learning Activities.
      • Praktikawelten offers more than 300 volunteer projects in 17 countries as well as work and travel programs in Australia, New Zealand and Canada.

      There are also various organizations that recruit volunteers. These may not cover the major expenses such as airfares and travel insurance. Some charge a fee for placement. A few of these are:

      • volunteerAction Volunteer Alliance (AVA)offers affordable volunteer opportunities abroad.
      • AFECT offers volunteering opportunities to assist Burmese refugees in north Thailand
      • Akha Asia has volunteer placements with Tribes and Indigenous Peoples
      • Center for Children in Need (Thailand) offers short and long-term volunteering in a grassroots orphanage for abandoned Burmese children. (http://www.volunteeringthailand.blogspot.com)
      • Ikando Volunteer & Intern in Africa
      • Global Vision International (GVI) has worldwide volunteering opportunities
      • Volunteers and Interns for Balinese Education
      • Year Out Group, a British organization promoting gap year volunteering
      • Overseas Working Holidays, an Australian organization that offers guaranteed placements in regions such as Africa and India.
      • Thai-Experience specialized in placements in Thailand.
      • Travel to Teach with jobs in Southeast Asia and Latin America.
      • Volunteer Abroad offers volunteer programs in Latin America, Asia, and Africa
      • Mundo Exchange non-profit organization for volunteering in Guatemala and Thailand.
      • Earthwatch lets volunteers work on scientific field research projects all over the world for 1 – 3 weeks.
      • Projects Abroad offers a diverse range of volunteer placements in 26 different developing countries – for students, gap years, grads and qualified professionals from 2 weeks and up.
      • The International Humanity Foundation works in Indonesia, Thailand and Kenya and is always looking for volunteers.
      • Intiwawa offers free volunteering in Peru. Opportunities mainly include social and educational projects as well as nutrition and water.
      • Mozvoluteers  offers affordable volunteer projects and medical elective placements in South Africa and Mozambique.
      • Mijn Bestemming Peru Dutch organization focusing in volunteering free, internships, work and support to communities all over Peru.

            Guys you are free to leave your comments, thoughts and new links anytime!   Update, June 2013: Spicy Guest Hostels, (Spicy Kho Tao, Spicy Pai, Spicy Chiang Mai), Nook Guest House (Kuching Malaysia) and Reggae Mansion (Penang and Kuala Lumpur), have various positions open for backpackers to stay, work, party and live for 1-3 months.

      Virtual Assistant (VA):

      A VA refers to an independent service provider, who provides administrative, secretarial, technical, or creative services to businesses externally. Since ‘The 4 Hour Work Week’ use of VA’s has dramatically risen. Basically for the business or webpage owner, you source online assistants at a fraction of the rate those similar staff would cost you in your own city. In places such as America, Australia, England, Western Europe, and other highly developed countries the minimum Pay for a Receptionist for example could be $8-18USD. An Outsourced VA on the other hand range from $2-8USD depending on the level of skill and experience. Not only price, VA’s can actually do a massive variety of tasks and of course, can learn new tasks for you.a

      VA’s are most commonly found in India and Philippines, however many more nationalities are available. Philippines being the most popular as they have high English skills and ethics. Philippines are already having well established outsourced IT and Call centre head quarters for many global companies. For many of them, being a VA makes an ideal home based business or work in a nearby shared office environment. Many VA’s are quiet entrepreneurial and able to help with much more than the simple expected tasks.

      Indian VA’s are also highly regarded. From my personal experience many Indians are easier to understand language wise however many ‘Westeners’ do not like the ‘typical’ Indian accent. I have used a variety of Staff from India and Philippines and speak highly of both countries.

      A VA should be the first person you hire if you’re new to Outsourcing. If you’re just thinking about it, why not give it a try. Allocate a few hours per week and see what can be achieved. We can also assist you if you’re really too busy but want to give it a shot.

       

      Typical Task of a Virtual Assistant:

      a)      Calendar Management / Schedule appointments.

      b)      Online Marketing.

      c)      Data Entry.

      d)      Transcribing.

      e)      Link Building.

      f)       Online Research.

      g)      E-mail Response / E-mail Sorting.

      h)      Blog Postings / Article Writing.

      i)        Initiating and maintaining Customer rapport.

      j)        Updating / Record Management.

       

       

       

      JOB ADVERTISEMENT SAMPLE

       

      Virtual Assistant:

      We are looking for a self-motivated individual with experience and skills in Virtual Assistant.

      Applicant must have 2 years or more experience in VA or other related marketing strategy, able to write articles and blog posting, has knowledge in Online Marketing, Data Entry, Web Research and E-mail Response. Applicant must have the ability to meet project deadlines, exceptional English communication (both written and verbal) and organizational skill and has the ability to work quickly without sacrificing quality.

       

      Requirements:

      – Applicant must be willing to work for a Long term (6months +).

      – Expected to work on a regular basis of (10-15 hours per week).

      – Complete tasks within 48hours (preferably 24hours).

      – Willing and ready to start ASAP.

      – Able to communicate with us over Skype during standard business hours (AEST or London time). This is a must. We may give instructions verbally as it is quicker and more efficient. You can work at your own time provided you can complete tasks within our deadlines.

      – Must provide sample of previous work.

      – Prepared to undergo a 10-20minute Test.

      – Successful applicants will then are required for a Skype interview.

       

      Please ensure you include your Skype name, examples of your previous work, and any questions in your reply to this position. Thank you and have a great day.

      PS. Who are we?

      images3We are …… (2-4 sentences about your organization and its goals)

       

       

      PROCESSING JOB APPLICANTS:

       

      1. Eliminate Time wasters, focus on possible applicants:

      a)      Ignore any applications that clearly do not fit our listed criteria.

      b)      Any quotes outside our Minimum – Maximum Pay.

      c)      If requested English level required is high-exceptional, no major errors acceptable.

      d)      If requested English level required is medium, no more than 3 errors acceptable.

      e)      Choose before hand, if using experienced staff or willing to try new members.

      f)       Applications must show some evidence of being unique, showing that they actually read our advertisement, not simply copy pasting to every job position.

       

      2. Asses remainder of applications based on our job description:

      a)      Look for those fulfilling all requirements.

      b)      Look for evidence of Pro-Active or other important behavioral qualities.

      c)      Asses their personality. Staff needs to be focused on achieving tasks, making things happen and going the extra mile, rather than staff that will do the minimum. Staff that do only the minimum may still be capable, however not ideal.

       

      3. Send 2-3 short questions to any suitable applicants:

      a)      Availability, desired work hours (time and duration).

      b)      Future Goals, aspirations.

      c)      Experience, evidence of their experience.

      d)      What makes this job attractive?

      e)      Send more information on the position.

      f)       Request they complete basic test if everything is suitable.

       

      4. Send test for all continuing prospects:

      a)      Hi, thank you for your application and time. In order for us both to save time would you mind completing a 10 minute test? It is for testing our ability to work together.

      b)      Please also add the time it took, all the answers to our previous questions, along with your Skype and email address to the bottom of your test.

      c)      We want to include this. Perhaps a 3 minute Audio file or picture saying, thank you for applying, please write out for us your top 3 goals for the next year, your first and last name, your email address and Skype name, and then we will be happy to talk on Skype. Simple, thank you and have a good day.

       

      images45. All completed and returned Tests are now the job application:

      a)      Looking at who has fulfilled task 100% with all details. Including their details.

      b)      Who has made sense of the document?

      c)      Who has presented it in a reasonable format with heading, bold, italics, etc?

      d)      Thanks and apologies to those that is under skilled. Let them know why nicely.

       

      6. Skype Interview:

      a)      Before starting ask them to install, Ifreeskype recorder.

      b)      General chat, understand their situation.

       

      Here are 5 questions you NEED to ask during an interview with VA applicants:

      1.      Why do you think you are perfect for this job? This helps you identify, the applicant’s skills that would benefit you or your company.

      2.      What are your proudest achievements? This helps you identify the applicant’s priorities, or the things he/she considers important in life.

      3.      What are your goals for the next 6 months? This helps you identify whether this VA has goals that is in line with yours.

      4.      How would you describe yourself? This helps you understand the applicant’s attitude and how he views himself in general, and whether it fits the job and your personality altogether.

      5.      Where did you work previously and what was your reason for leaving? Knowing the applicant’s work history tells a lot about themselves. It tells you if the applicant is most likely going to stay on longer, or move on to another new opportunity quickly.

       

      c)      Thank them, any questions. If unsure, let them know we will get back to them in the next 10 days. (This way if we hire someone else, and it falls through we have this candidate still possibly available.)

      d)      If applicant suitable, proceed straight away so that we can have them start their first task which also tests them further before we say no to possible applicants.

      e)      Set out your first clear tasks for them straight. Have them reply with an email outlining what the task is, any questions they may have and how they are going to achieve them. Highlighting deadlines and priorities. Short deadlines.

       

      7. On receipt of this email:

      At the receipt of this email, it should be really clear if the staff understand the tasks given from the Skype interview. If this email is very off track or wrong there may be big problems ahead. Having staff confirm tasks in detail is vital in Outsourcing. Provided they understand your tasks set out in Skype or Email, you can now start the contract.

       

      8. In the first week:

      Start tasks clearly, and build up from there. It is possible that your Staff will understand everything and your intent clearly. However start small and build up. Also look at awarding a quick bonus to make up for excess time spent in the interview. Emphasize fair pay for fair work or your best work for the best bonus.

       

      9. Longer term:

      Look at other ways to keep staff motivated and happy. We have a few suggestions you can email us for them. Once you have spent a lot of time with your staff they become more valuable and harder to replace. Take care of them. They are real people with families, lives and dreams of their own too.

       

       

       

       

       

      bag for gadgets

      Having been to some 70+ countries or so. I’m frequently asked about what travel gadgets I carry. I made this list for my readers and friends.

      The following are the travel gadgets I always bring while travelling:

      GoPro2 HD:

      When traveling, we want to be as smart and light as possible. I don’t mind spending a bit more products are going to produce good results. I’m not a professional photographer. I’m a light weight traveler. So I recommend the GoPro range. It’s one of the best Video Cameras in the market. It’s very unique, different and most popular. It features a small Fish Eye Lens capturing 170 Degrees. That’s huge! It’s also very power efficient as there is no display, take photographs and videos, and look at them much later. No time zooming in and out at party shots, just take them or take burst shorts. Go Pro is the best when doing adventure, especially Motorbike Riding around Thailand or Goa. It’s only downfall is lack of flash so night shots can be a bit blurred. Still, I used the camera in video mode in some of the best clubs in the world.

       Go pro HD

       

       

       

      Smart Phone

      Normally I would recommend using an old phone as buying the latest and greatest but costly. However, on my last trip to Hong Kong, I gave in and bought a Samsung S4. I’m actually not so impressed as my old Samsung did most the same things, was much smaller and a third of the price. I would recommend older smartphones for travelers. New phones make you more of a target for criminals.

      In validating my S4: Replaces a camera more than ever, big screen for maps, reading ebooks, recording interviews, almost replaces my laptop. However an older smart phone can do most of this.

      I have a separate post for Mobile Phone Apps which you should definitely check out. Another less known tip is to have a little piece of paper with a note tucked in between your phone and its protective case. On this note leave an alternative phone number, email address and a little message, something like “thank you so much if you can return me, there will be a small reward as well not to mention a lot of good Karma”. Simply way to help get your phone back if lost.  A lot of people that find phones/camera really want to return them to their owners; it’s simply a matter of making it possible for them.

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      MiLi Power Crystal PowerCell

      This is the most important gadget I carry. My Power Cell comes with a pile of attachments. Normally I just carry 2 attachments which allow me to quickly recharge the Power Cell itself, my Smart Phone (Samsung S4), GoPro, External Speaker, PicoPix (Portable lightweight travel projector).

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      PicoPix

      As I do some presentations while traveling, I carry a PicoPix. Recently I had a break from traveling and did some teaching work. For the kids I would often play English videos and songs using the PicoPix. It was so much fun. Not to mention staying in a hotel room or at a friend’s place and being able to share my personal and all time favourite movies with this little device. I also have some 1hour Music Video’s from Ministry of Sound, DJ Tiesto and Triple J which are great for small parties. This device works for about 2 hours per charge, just enough for watching  a movie. It can connect to laptop, USB drives or Micro SD card.

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      Laptop/Notebook/Pad

      When I started backpacking in 2007 I used my 15inch Toshiba laptop. Thank God those days are over. In 2009 I broke the laptop screen while being squashed on a train with a big crew of youngsters coming from the famous Exit Festival in Serbia to Budapest Hungary. In 2010, I finally got a mini Laptop. 10 Inch Asus Eee PC which I still have today (well in the cupboard at mum and dad’s). In 2012, I upgraded to a 12.1 Inch Asus Eee PC which I find just the right size for me. Size matters. I would love to go a Mac Air, however the Mac Operating System is something I’m not excited to learn. Next might be a Lightweight super fast 12.1 Inch or perhaps I abolish Laptop for a larger SmartPhone. Hmmmmm. Lightweight Travel, Rise of the Roaming Entrepreneur is here. Isn’t it great to be alive today.

       laptop

       Here you have it guys, the travel gadgets I travel around the world with. Feel free to share with us the travel gadgets you bring with while traveling. Have a techy travelling guys!

      Hi, I’m Adrian and I am a Traveler!

      I’ve traveled around  of the world a lot. I’ve been blessed with two legs and a good passport. Even if I had a ‘bad’ passport, I would never let that stop me from traveling.

      Travel broadens the mind. It increases your perspective so much. Not many of my friends traveled much as I do. I had my first overseas trip at the age of 24.
      I stayed with some distant relatives places and in hotels. It was good. Not as good as I thought it would be though. Later I found this network called Couchsurfing.org then it all changed.

      I started having backpackers stay at my house. I would meet them every Wednesday night at a regular meeting place. This backpacking and Couchsurfing is so much fun. You get to meet so many cool, friendly, amazing, trustworthy, open people. It’s really inspiring.

      Soon after I had enough money saved. I actually invested my money after the 2008 Global Crisis started, so when the Market was recovering, I had enough money to travel long term. I have now entered a total of over 70 countries, 4-5 years travel outside Australia and learned the basics of few languages. I’ve met thousands of amazing people around the world. It’s astonishing to me, the way that by simply being open, warm and welcoming to people, that they return the same qualities and can become memorable friends. 🙂

      Couch Surfing London

      Through online dating, you can meet a lot of possible partners  while sitting in the comfort of your own home. It is an unbelievable option: as long as you talk in English, you can be in touch with almost the whole globe. And yet when you only speak on your native tongue (if not English), then you can still get to know more people than you can meet at a bar.

      I have only tried a little bit of it with no success. So I asked my friend Yves to give my readers and I some better guidelines. Yves was happy to share his thoughts with us on the online dating world.

      Online Dating Tips:

      1. Just be yourself. Don’t try to be someone others want you to be. It’s important to have a complete profile. Some people say keeponline dating it simple, I like to give a little more.
      2. Be open with your intentions. If your after fun, let them know.
      3. It’s okay to be discouraged sometimes, but don’t let it get you down for a long time. You’re still a valuable mate for somebody out there. You just need to have the patience to discover that person, whoever and wherever she maybe.
      4. Don’t be anxious to make the first move. If someone’s profile interests you, then say hi or tell her why you liked her profile (emphasize it’s  not because of her looks).
      5. Be patient. Online dating is time-consuming. Do not expect instant results.
      6. Don’t rely completely on online dating. If you’re not being socially active in real life – even if not to meet women – your social skills will get tarnished and your real dates will suffer as a result.
      7. Although it sounds obvious, stay away from girls who asks money or expensive things. There are professionals out there who look interesting but just see you as their next victim.
      8. You have to take advantage every dating tool accessible to you. It doesn’t mean you can’t still meet people in real life; it just means you’re enhancing your options.

       

      OK Yves, I have more couple of questions for you. I have tried Online Dating and met a few women. Most of them don’t fit my category. I’m really picky perhaps. I seem to spend a fair amount of time trying and end up on a dinner date with someone I’m not physically attracted to. How do I go about this? They look different in the pictures!

      • Pictures are often Photoshopped. You have to realize that they will never want to put their ugly photos online. They only use what’s the best and show them in good light. So always expect less on their appearance.

      • Another thing is it’s the personality that’s most important.

      • Perhaps if you are picky, you could outline in your profile some of your conditions. Perhaps word it nicely like “I really like to be fit and healthy, if your not practicing a fit and healthy lifestyle….” or “I’m strictly after someone fit and into having a healthy body.”

      Thank you for your assistance Yves. As I’m an old fashion “Hi how are you” guy your tips are certainly appreciated. Any feedback from friends is always appreciated. Anyone have any further reading or top 3 tips. Please post back. Cheers and good dating everyone. From Adrian and Yves (special guest writer)

       

      Remember, a real partner is one that looks better and better every morning.

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      Roles of an SEO

      Hiring an SEO Specialist

      SEO Specialist:

           

      a)      Perform keyword research in coordination with client business objectives to optimize existing content and uncover new opportunities.Web Traffic

      b)      Provide SEO analysis and recommendations in coordination with elements and structure of websites and web pages.

      c)      Provide recommendations and execute strategies for content development in coordination with SEO goals – general and keyword specific.

      d)      Administer search engine programs (XML sitemaps, shopping feeds, webmaster tools) for purposes of diagnostic reporting on client projects.

      e)      Help to create and support marketing content to socialize and use them for social media purposes (e.g. customer videos briefs, customer case studies, blog posts, posts from analysts and customers).

      f)       Implement link building campaigns in coordination with clients’ SEO goals.

      g)      Research and administer social media tools in support of clients’ social media strategy.

       

       

      Typical Tasks of an SEO:

      On-site SEO:

      a)       Review your keyword density; title tag, image alt attributes, and meta tags.

      b)       Make the page attractive with images that complement the content.

      c)       Add appropriate and informative links to other great on-site content as well as links to highly-authoritative websites. This will achieve SEO co-citation, but in a very natural and user-friendly fashion.

      d)       Apply authorship code and schema.org attributes for any special features on the page such as videos.

      Off-site SEO:

      • Micro Blogging
      • Blog Commenting
      • Forum Posting
      • Article Submission
      • Press Release
      • Social Bookmarking
      • Guest Posting
      • Participate in Social Networking Sites

       

       

       

      JOB ADVERTISEMENT SAMPLE:

       

      SEO:

      We are looking for a self-motivated individual with experience and skills in SEO.

      Applicant must have 2 years or more experience in SEO or other related marketing strategy, able to write articles and understand the Google algorithm updates (2013 Penguin and Panda). Applicant must have the ability to meet project deadlines, exceptional English communication (both written and verbal) and organizational skill and has the ability to work quickly without sacrificing quality.

      Requirements:

      Applicant must be willing to work for at least a medium to long term (6months +).

      -Expected to work on a regular basis completing tasks within 48hours (preferably 24hours).

      -Complete tasks within 48hours (preferably 24hours).

      – Willing and ready to start ASAP.

      – Able to communicate with us over Skype during standard business hours (AEST or London time). This is a must. We may give instructions verbally as it is quicker and more efficient. You can work at your own time provided you can complete tasks within our deadlines.

      – Must provide sample of previous work.

      – Prepared to undergo a Link Building Test.

      – Successful applicants will then are required for a Skype interview.

      Please ensure you include your Skype name, examples of your previous work, and any questions in your reply to this position. Thank you and have a great day.

       

      PS. Who are we?

      We are …… (2-4 sentences about your organization and its goals)

       

       

      All about SEOPROCESSING JOB APPLICANTS:

       

      1. Eliminate time wasters, focus on possible hires:

      a)      Ignore any applications that do not clearly fit our listed criteria.

      b)     Those who has salary expectation outside our minimum – maximum pay.

      c)      If requested English level required is highly-exceptional, no major errors is acceptable.

      d)      If requested English level required is medium, no more than 3 errors is acceptable.

      e)      Choose before hand if you want experienced staff or willing to try new members.

      f)       Applications must show some evidence of being unique, showing that they actually read our advertisement, not simply copy pasting to every job position.

       

      2. Asses the remainder of applications based on our job description:

      a)      Look for those who meet all of the requirements.

      b)      Look for evidence of being proactive or other important behavioral qualities.

      c)      Asses their personality. Staff needs to be focused on achieving tasks, making things happen and going the extra mile, rather than staff that will do what is easy and comfortable. Staff that do only the minimum may still be capable, however not ideal.

       

      3. Send 2-3 short questions to any suitable applicants:

      a)      Availability, desired work hours (time and duration)?

      b)      Future goals, aspirations?

      c)      Experience, evidence of their experience?

      d)      What makes this job attractive?

      e)      Send more information on the position.

      f)       Request that they complete basic test if they meet the initial requirements.

       

      4. Send test for all continuing prospects:

      a)      Hi, thank you for your application and time. In order for us both to save time would you mind completing a 10 minute test? It is for testing our ability to work together.

      b)      Please also add the time it took, all the answers to our previous questions, along with your Skype and email address to the bottom of your test.

      c)      Test is at the end of this article.

       

      5. All completed and returned tests are now the filtered job applications:

      a)      Look  who has fulfilled task 100% with all details. Including their details.

      b)      Who has made sense of the document?

      c)      Who has presented it in a reasonable format with heading, bold, italics, etc.?

      d)     Give thanks and apologize to those who didn’t qualify. Let them know why nicely.

       

      6. Skype Interview:

      a)      Before you start the interview, ask them to install”Ifreeskype recorder,” a simple free program to record the conversations which can be replayed later and can be used for training.

      b)      Start with general greeting because they are often nervous.

      c)      Develop an understanding of their situation.

      d)      If suitable, provide information on our goals.

      e)      Thank them. Ask if they have any questions. If unsure, let them know we will get back to them in the next 10 days. (This way if we hire someone else, and it falls through, we have this candidate still possibly available.)

      f)       If an applicant is qualified, proceed right away so that we can have them start their first task which also tests them further before we say no to other suitable applicants.

      g)      Set out your first  tasks for them clearly. Have them reply with an email outlining what the task is together with any questions they may have and how they are going to answer them. Highlight deadlines and priorities. Short deadlines.

       

      7. On receipt of this email:

      At the receipt of this email, it should be really clear if the staff understands the tasks given from the Skype interview. If this email is very off track or wrong, there may have big problems ahead. Having staff confirm tasks in detail is vital in Outsourcing. Provided they understand your tasks set out in Skype or Email, you can now start the contract.

       

      8. In the first week:

      Start tasks clearly, and build up from there. It is possible that your new staff will clearly understand everything including your intent . However, start with small tasks then build up. Also look at awarding a quick bonus to make up for excess time spent in the interview. Emphasize fair pay for fair work. Match the best work for the best bonus.

       

      9. Longer term:

      Look at other ways to keep staff motivated and happy. We have a few suggestions that you can give them. Once you have spent a lot of time with your staff, they become more valuable and harder to replace. Take care of them. They are real people with families, lives and dreams of their own too.

       

      Search Engine Optimization ProcessIn addition, for SEO we suggest:

      1. The applicant should produce a previous proven track record as an effective SEO specialist.
      2. Give a new 2 sets of exam. (Exams are in the last page of this document) the first set of exams – we will test them if they truly understand the Google algorithm updates (Panda and Penguin) and if they know how to build quality links. The second set of exam – we will test their SEO strategies.)
      3. You will give the applicants 2 sets of exam before hiring them. A VA who has a knowledge and skills on SEO or an SEO expert can be the one who will check their exams if they really have SEO skills. If you have no experience in SEO, we strongly suggest that you research what it all means first, or have a VA/Web Manager advise and test the candidates. A bad SEO can damage your business, you must be careful.

      1st set of exam:

      3.1.     What’s with the little wingdings? What’s the difference between  “no-follow” and “do-follow” links?

      3.2.    Discuss briefly the Google Algorithm updates. (In your own words)

       

      2nd set of exam:

      • Backlink 1
        • Link Promoted: https://adriancahill.com/2012/06/22/being-rich/
        • Keywords: How To Get Rich
        • Backlink URL (site):
        • Type of Site Where Link is Found:
        • Reason for using the keywords, site, Methods Used
        • Time taken to promote this link:
        • Username Used:
        • Password Used:
      • Backlink 2
        • Link Promoted:  https://adriancahill.com/2012/06/22/being-rich/
        • Keywords: How To Get Rich
        • Backlink URL (site):
        • Type of Site Where Link is Found
        • Reason for using the keywords, site, Methods Used
        • Time taken to promote this link:
        • Username Used:
        • Password Used:
      • Backlink 3
        • Link Promoted:  https://adriancahill.com/2012/06/22/being-rich/
        • Keywords: How To Get Rich
        • Backlink URL (site):
        • Type of Site Where Link is Found:
        • Reason for using the keywords, site, Methods Used.
        • Time taken to promote this link:
        • Username Used:
        • Password Used:

       

      NOTE:  TIME FRAME FOR THIS TEST WILL DEPEND ON THE TYPE OF SEO STRATEGY THAT THE APPLICANT USED. WE WILL NOT COMPENSATE THEM BECAUSE IT IS PART OF THE TEST (TO TEST THEIR SEO SKILLS).

       

      The 21 day theory is something I teach my clients  and friends on a regular basis!  I have used 21 day theory on myself to develop habits such as drinking a glass of ice water every morning, choosing salads over chips and brushing my teeth with my left hand. A great habit I developed is looking back when ever leaving a taxi or a table.

       Life Quotes by Aristotle

       

      Definition Habit:

      1. A recurrent, often unconscious pattern of behavior that is acquired through frequent repetition.

      2. An established disposition of the mind or character.

      3. Customary manner or practice.

       

      Habits can be bad or good. We can use 21 day theory to simply fill our lives with new positive good habits. It’s just a matter of forcing yourself to do the desired actions for 21 days. I set reminders, post it notes, phone alarms, calendars, whatever it takes. You have to force yourself to do it repeatedly for 21 days and then it will become a habit. If your habit was going to the gym every Wednesday,it means you would have 21 consistent gym sessions. If it was giving up the morning cigarette, 21 days of switching that cigarette for a glass of cold water or meditation could do the trick.

      Research shows that it takes 21 days to develop a habit. That’s 21 days to reflection, 21 days of going to the fitness center everyday or exercising in some way, 21 days of eating healthier foods, 21 days responsibility, 21 days of anything. When starting a habit, don’t say to yourself you are doing it for life, tell yourself that you are going to undertake it for 21 days. When trying to break a habit, this can also work. On the other hand, study has shown that the neural pathways to any habit could be constant and a sign or a trigger can be a reason for us to start support an old habit, like smoking. This is not a bad thing. We just have to be conscious of our view when we have given up a habit such as smoking. We tend to tell our conscious mind we are going to transform and it’s for life, when starting or breaking any habit. Changing a habit is never that easy. If it were, over eaters would all be thin, alcoholics would never setback, and everybody would be up early enough to eat a healthy breakfast before work.

      For a lot of people, getting out from a bad habit is a lifetime effort backed up by the truth that those well-worn synaptic pathways never leave. There’s no clear scientific basis why it would take three weeks to break an old habit or make a new one. However, in several ways, this system works for me and lots of my associates.

      If something goes inappropriate, it can take weeks before that thing to be right again. Though the 21 days theory claims is dependent on a person’s routine, I am confident that the technique to develop a habit works wonderfully for me. I’m sure also for you.

      Try 21 Day Theory with  our strategy for remembering names here.  You can do it!

      21 Day Theory from www.adriancahill.com

      21 Day Theory, from www.Adriancahill.com

      21daytheory_from_adriancahill.com

      Just 21 days

      My Grandfather used to always say, “I wish I was born with money rather than good looks”.

      I always felt like saying “It wouldn’t really matter, if you were born with money you would be broke by now anyway.“

      I don’t mean that to be an insult in anyway. I love my grandparents to bits! In fact they taught me all about working hard and good work ethic.

       

       

      The way it’s always been done…

      My Grandparents and parents worked very hard so we could have a nice life here in Australia. They may have been entrepreneurial or business minded at times, but generally they believed in:

      “A honest days pay for a honest days work”

      And

      “Money doesn’t grow on trees”

      I personally grew up believing I would be a great worker and I will get rich by working smarter and harder than anyone else. From my family I knew good work ethic. And good work ethic people went about their day exchanging time for money.

      Generally my grandparents were patient. They invested in assets such as a property which would slowly grow in value over the years. Often the prices doubling in your average 7-10year time frame. Financial success came at very high cost of 50-80 hours a week. Often there was another cost. The toll it took on their time, family, health, social life, recreation if they had any time left over for this. Money doesn’t grow on trees, you got to go out and earn it.

       

       

      The New Rich, is it real?

      The New Rich on the other hand is about achieving the cash flow and freedom now. Often we see these advertisements for get rich quick schemes which almost never work.

      The New Rich wants to make it big without spending 50 hours per week trying.

      Often they seem to do all it all on their laptop by the beach or cheering on loud audiences at some kind of seminar.

      Is it really possible?

      Have you met them? Do they really have that money or is it largely all talk?

      From my experience around the world and coaching. The New Rich certainly do exist. However for every real new, “New Rich” person, there are countless fakers. Not necessarily fakers. It could just be there using a technique called the ‘As If Frame’. Act as if, you have what you want, and you will get it. Most of us call this, fake it till you make it.

       

       

      Who are they (the genuine New Rich)?

      So in real life, and getting to know people in the bigger games I’ve had a many talks and gotten to know a few of the New Rich. Most of them I’ve met through either Start Up mentoring programs or events, or through property investment groups.

      Many of the New Rich were Entrepreneurs that have worked their ass off for 5-15 years before succeeding. Or Investors working hard in a job, buying lots of property or doing property developments. A couple of these entrepreneurs had passive income in excess of average salaries, or net worth in the hundreds of thousands before reaching 25.

      So yes, it is certainly possible.

       

       

      How do they do it?

      They often take a concept such as good work ethic but somehow realised or found a way to make money grow on trees.

      It’s certainly about working smarter, not harder. That is true. It’s largely about turning passions, strengths or opportunities into value. Turning that value into some kind of business or investment model.

      I’m very happy to know your interested in creating wealth. In my mind, I think we all should. Especially since we can and if we don’t want it, well we can make it for those that will never get to make it or can’t access fresh water. Remember, at the end of the day, it’s not about having a million dollars in the bank. What would you do if you had a million dollars?

      What would you do if you knew you were going to fail, but did it anyway?

      Go to the Free Resources page where you can find free resources showing you specifically how to measure you net wealth, cashflow and also, assess your current Wealth Mindest!

       

       

       

      F.lux is a simple program you can install on your computers, Ipads, Iphones to help you sleep at night. By adjusting your computers brightness and contrast, or reducing Blue Light.

      Generally we have our screens bright at day time. F.lux http://stereopsis.com/flux/ is a simple program for reducing the light at night time. It is small, easy, and can help you sleep. Particularly, if you use your gadgets prior to sleep.

      According to research blue light should be avoided two hours before going to sleep. However it doesn’t harm to start a few hours earlier. It also helps relax your eyes.

      I use this program myself, and I recommend you try it as well.

      flux

      You can also try the opposite. Use a Blue Light, Go Light, or similar device to wake you up in the morning or help you if you are working on Night Shift. Be aware though, by doing this you are playing with your natural body clock which may have side effects.

      Playboy versus Nice Guy?

      I’ll never forget that Saturday afternoon, 2007, sitting in a beach side bar on the Gold Coast Australia. I was with my cousin and had a great day in the sun. Suddenly this girl came in to the bar and took a seat next to me. She was gorgeous and even started a conversation with me.

      I thought I was the luckiest man in the world. She was funny and interesting. I was a little shy but very polite. My cousin is a super funny guy and we all proceeded talking and laughing for a 5-10 happy minutes . 

      Next thing you know is this smooth, Playboy type guy came in to the scene. He pretended he knew her and totally cut my cousin and I off from our conversation. Moments later, the Playboy took her to his table to be with his friends.

      My cousin and I were left there dumbfounded. Honestly, I doubt he even knew her. In fact later I found out that he didn’t. Pretending to know her was a pick-up line. He used which clearly worked. I hated this Playboy. I watched him frequently with bitterness and spite. I saw him repeatedly approaching and succeeding with women almost every time he entered the bar. 

      This event really shook me up. Not just that he did it. The fact that he did it over and over again. I was annoyed, bitter and angry. At the time I was coming out from a 7 year old relationship. I was clearly clueless about talking to women and the whole dating thing. Yet this guy was just walking up to women like it was totally natural to approach and be friend gorgeous strangers.

      Being a soldier I was pretty fit, healthy, clean cut and a traditional gentleman. Wasn’t I a good catch for a woman? Isn’t health, manners, stable job, secure future, courtesy, respect, and all the rest more important for a woman than smooth lines from a playboy?

       

      nice boys vs. jerks

       

       

      Gradually, I became more aware of my self; the dating game and the bigger picture. Luckily I learned how to talk to the opposite sex. Slowly I became more confident, more knowledgeable and even helped others improve their dating.

      Recently, I met with some Dating Coaches and PUA who have provided some enlightenment on the topic.

      Many Dating Coaches and members of the ‘Pick Up’ community differ with my original ideas.  They say charisma, humor, being busy and challenging are better ways to catch a woman than my nice guy approach.  They say women don’t want a nice guy. They actually want to be challenged and want what they called “an emotional roller coaster ride.”

      Well, I was probably the flattest roller coaster in the world. I had no idea about challenging her. Why would I pretend I’m busy and make it hard for her? Charisma, isn’t that a personality trait? You can’t fake that. Being single and dating can be rather stressful to say at least. Now the Dating Coaches tell me I should play hard to get and challenging. That just didn’t make sense.

       

       

      Currently, one of my best friends is training young men in the Pick Up game. Initially I was really surprised to find out that guys were paying my mate for lessons on how to pick up chicks! I asked my friend if he was seriously getting paid to do it. He simply asked me how much money I had paid on coaching and making money seminars.

      Well, I’ve spent thousands of dollars on my financial education. I guess it has paid off. I made $400USD this morning before getting out of bed. I don’t want to be filthy rich. Just want live life my way. A smarter way. My friend the PUA Coach said that most of his clients don’t want to be playboys, however they want to choose their next partner or help to find their dream partner. That I can relate too.

      I’m not sold on teaching guys to be a Playboy. However I am sold on self development. For my friends and clients I recommend a balanced approached to developing all areas of your life. By improving all areas of our life we naturally attract more people. For relationships and dating I most strongly recommend reading Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus.

      For young Men or Women looking for specific PUA training just Google it. Sure you will find enough.

       

      What’s the value of finding the right person for you?

      Communication

      Key to Successful Outsourcing : Effective Communication!

      One of the key to successful outsourcing is effective communication. Effective virtual staff / client communications can totally change the way that you and your business work. Leveraging through staff is a key which ultimately can save and make you a lot of money, time, and resources. However, it can also be disastrous. I learned this lesson myself the hard way. I asked a new guy about developing an SEO plan, the next thing I knew, instead of a plan, he started spamming my full real name across the web. This really made me realise that poor communication can actually cost you so much more than simply the hourly rate that you pay that staff member.

       

      For several people, hiring, delegating, and managing are totally new skill sets to discover and to master.  There are certain tasks that look so easy but maybe confusing if you don’t understand. Hiring an SEO worker without understanding the basics can be disastrous as I found out.

       

      Effective CommunicationAlthough it often seems like it is the staff making the mistakes, ultimately the problems are with the employer. There is no point blaming the staff for doing the wrong thing if sufficient guidance wasn’t given. A good boss in outsourcing knows or quickly learns to double check that the staff not only has a map, but the right map and the skills to read it.

       

      Complete information and instruction are required. Do not worry if this sounds daunting, once you have the complete instructions written out, you and your staff keep the instructions for following staff or events. You save all your maps right. Then have or ask the staff to put more detail into them like my VA did with this article on finding pictures, or his article on The Different Roles of  commonly employed Virtual Staff.

       

      Building maps or templates is a key and we have some here for you.

       

      1.      Asking the VA to book an airplane ticket from Shanghai to Sydney, Australia.

                 

      Task. I would like you to book a flight from Shanghai to Sydney, Australia. Please give me the best 3 options to choose from. I will then choose, and you can then complete the booking.

      Deadline.  Present 3 options by close of business today. I will choose, then please book straight away. Note: If I do not reply tonight, please call me and we will choose over the phone.

      Details:

      Date of Departure: 10 June 2013

      Preferred Time of Arrival: Arrive at Sydney Airport before 10:00 AM on the 11th of June. (I will be conducting a seminar on George Street, Sydney City at 01:00 PM. Please double check all timings to ensure I have enough time to catch the airport train and whatever connection to get to George Street by 11.30 AM.)

      Preferences:

      1. I would prefer Airline A and Airline C. Please focus on these Airlines.

      2. I have carry-on baggage only. Note: Whenever I have carry-on baggage only (no checked-in bags), I’m prepared to pay up to 5% extra to sit at the front of the plane so I can get off first.

      3. I always like window seats.

      4. I don’t want insurance.

      5. I want the healthiest full meal possible. If we cannot choose meals in advance, please tell them I am a vegetarian.

      6. The date is fixed. There is no need for flexible ticket. Cancellation policy is irrelevant.

      7. Best website to use is <www.skyscanner.net>, also look at Airline A and Airline C  websites directly.

      8. Produce all results in an Excel spreadsheet, with the total costs in USD. Ensure Tax, Meals, any Extras are included in the price.

       

       

      2.      Asking the VA to find and hire a Content Writer.   

       

      Task: I would like you to look for a Content Writer that would help in providing relevant text content for a new travel website. I would like you to do the recruitment procedure yourself and present to me the 3 best candidates. We will then discuss the 3 candidates over the phone and choose which one to hire.

      Deadline: We need the content writer ASAP. Do not cut corners on hiring though. In 5-6 days time (Date), I would like your report on the best 3 candidates via email. We should be able to put the new Content Writer on by the . . . (Date).

      Details:

      This person must have embodied the following / job qualifications (full list article for Content Writer is coming soon):

      • A self-motivated individual with experience and skills in web content writing.
      • Will also work closely with the technical team to maintain site standards with regard to new development.
      • Salary: $2-4 USD per hour. Please look for a Filipino or Westerner living in South East Asia.

      . . . . . . . . . . . . etc.

      Applicant must undergo the following before hiring them:

      • Complete a 10-minute test.
      • Send 2-3 short questions to any suitable applicants relevant to the work.
      • Skype Interview.

      For more detailed instructions. look in our Outsourcing Blogs for the Content Writer article. Take instructions from there. Note: It’s for Travel website; we want them to start ASAP.

      Additional Notes:

      You will do the entire selection and interview process yourself. Email me if you have any problems; however, I prefer you to figure it out. Email me after you have selected and interviewed the best 3 candidates over Skype. We will then discuss them over the phone and choose the best one.

       

      3.      Asking the Content Writer to write an article on dating websites.

       

      I found that when I gave my Content Writer a topic, often it would come back completely useless. I realized though that I didn’t give him much guidance, so how could I expect him to make something that I wanted. Now my Content Writer works in strict guidelines. Most of what you read on my site is by me. In fact, almost everything is. My Content Writer helps though and occasionally he will do an article completely and independently.

      Task: Please make an article about “Dating Websites” and the advantages and disadvantages of using them.

      Deadline: Post to draft format on my blog  by Friday (date).

      Details:

      1. You may start your article with: Through the internet, you can meet a lot of possible partners . . .
      2. On the second paragraph, you can write its advantages.
      3. Third paragraph disadvantages.
      4. Fourth paragraph, how to overcome the disadvantages.
      5. Refocus on positive, how fun it is.
      6. Ask the reader to share their stories on online dating with us: Feel free to share with us your story . . .

      Additional Notes:

      You can get ideas on these links: <www.LinkA.com>   <www.LinkB.com>

       

       

       

      Whenever required or if there is doubt, you can also add the following line which I frequently use for larger tasks.

       

      Communication ProcessBefore starting this task, please email me in your own words:

      a) The steps you’re going to take to complete the task, in order.

      b) What are the most important aspects of the task?

      c) What’s the purpose of the task?

      d) What’s your time frame? When do you expect to complete the task?

       

      As we have said at the start, and time and time again, leverage from Outsourcing is a must. Start with good communication, clear time frames, tasks, and boundaries. Also let them know the intent behind the task. Letting them know the intent or purpose helps keep them align with the purpose rather than the details. After all, it’s the purpose that’s most important. The details are the map to get there. Your staff wants to do a good job. They want to make you happy and proud. Give them the knowledge they need to do it, be patient, and enjoy the rewards.

       

      Revised: Aug 1 2013

      Now what I do is really cool. From my Smart Phone I simply record detailed Audio Instructions for each of my staff and have it upload immediately to their Drop Box folder. I have set up a Drop Box folder for each of my staff. My Project Manager (my first VA) and I share a Drop Box Folder with each separate staff member. Its really simple and super fast process now. Record voice, upload to specific folder, that member, and my Project Manager both get notifications of it and act on the message. Sometimes I may work with somebody on a new website concept or advertisement using pen and paper. At the end, simply take a photograph and upload that to the specific Drop Box folder too. Extra options include: a message for them to call me, once they receive or complete the task,

      I regularly tell people being a millionaire is pretty easy, it really is. However it takes regular committed work, and you have to conquer human nature. This is why most people don’t do it.

      What is  human nature?Truth vs Lie

      Well human nature is the main thing that stops all of us from achieving higher success. Many people will not be able to achieve success if they do not conquer the natural human characteristic that stands in the way.

      The points I listed below are what I learned first hand and witnessed time and time again. Not just in my culture and in my society, but every where I went in the world. I’ve also learned elements of this again and again by listening to famous success and motivational experts such as Tony Robbins, Napoleon Hill, Dale Carnegie, Brian Tracy, and more.

       

      Characteristics of Human Nature:

       

      We always want the most for the least. We are greedy.

      • If given a choice between more or less, we almost always choose more. We strive to maximize whenever possible.
      • If 2 pieces of fruit are the same price but one is bigger, which one do you buy?
      • We are naturally greedy.
      • We continuously want more and more out of everything. We rarely get contented.

       

      We always strive to improve our condition. We are lazy and ambitious.

      • Human nature always seeks faster and easier ways to get what it wants.
      • We are structured mentally in such a way that we cannot consciously choose a more   difficult way to accomplish something if we have an easier way.
      • We may not always succeed but every action we take is an attempt to be better.
      • Even suicide, or starving ourselves on a crazy diet is an attempt to make our situation better.

       

      Human Nature Quote

       

      We are centered on ourselves. We are selfish.

      • Each person thinks, feels and acts for themselves.
      • Everything we do, even charitable acts of kindness we do it for ourselves. We give the beggar money if it feels right even though it may actually encourage them to continue begging rather than get out of their situation.
      • Selfishness is essential for survival.

       

      We act on incomplete information. We are ignorant.

      • No matter how much we learn, we can never learn everything about something. Therefore we must act with some degree of ignorance.
      • Often we act with very little information. Sometimes we act like we are blind. Sometimes we know a lot. However we can never know everything so we must be ignorant.

       

      We all have an Ego. We consider ourselves to be superior to others when it comes to the measure of intelligence. We are vain.

      • The moment we are born, our ego starts to develop. By the time we are teenagers our ego has taken strong hold.
      • Studies show that something like 90% of people believe they have higher than normal intelligence.
      • Meditation strives to achieve many things. One of which is to calm or silence the ego. Ego can be an obstacle and it can also be a driver.

       

      Albert Einstein quotes

       

      These are the basic features of Human Nature. Like Mother Nature it exist for good reason and has its purpose. Perhaps we cannot change, perhaps we can. Regardless, it is something we can prepare for. It is something we can handle once we are more aware of it.

      Increasing our awareness is the first step to understand ourselves. 

      two hearts

      I would like to share with you my most recommended first date tip. It’s simple but so needed. If you don’t know it yet, you have to try it. Traditionally, the men ask the women out; however that is so yesterday. In today’s world, women can definitely ask the men out. Read more

      Mahatma Gandhi

      You cannot see the change around yourself until you change yourself. That’s what Gandhi’s fundamentals are all about. Read through these, follow and start to see the change.

       

      Top 10 Fundamentals for Changing the World of Gandhi

      • Mahatma GandhiChange yourself.

      If you change yourself you will change your world. If you change how you think then you will change how you feel and what actions you take. And so the world around you will change.

       

      • You are in control.

      “Nobody can hurt me without my permission.”

      What you feel and how you react to something is always up to you.

       

      • Forgive and let Go.

      You realize that forgiving and letting go of the past will do you and the people in your world a great service.

       

      • Without action you are not going anywhere.

      Without taking action, very little will be done. You have to take action and translate that knowledge into results and understanding.

       

      • Take care of this moment.

      The best way that I have found to overcome the inner resistance that often stops us from taking action is to stay in the present as much as possible and to be accepting.

       

      • Words to ponderEveryone is human.

      “I claim to be a simple individual liable to err like any other fellow mortal. I own, however, that I have humility enough to confess my errors and to retrace my steps.” So it’s important to keep in mind that everyone is just a human being no matter how famous or perfect you think they are.

       

      • Persist.

      Be persistent. In time the opposition around you will fade and fall away. And your inner resistance and self-sabotaging tendencies that want to hold you back and keep you like you have always been will grow weaker.

       

      • See the good in people & help them.

      There is pretty much always something good in people and so things that may not be so good. But you have the choice on what things to be focused on. And if you want improvement, then focusing on the good in people is a useful choice. It also makes life easier for you as your world and relationships become more pleasant and positive.

       

      • Be CONGRUENT. Be AUTHENTIC. Be your TRUE SELF.

      One of the best tips for improving your social skills is to behave in a congruent manner and communicate in an authentic way. People seem to really like authentic communication. And there is much inner enjoyment to be found when your thoughts, words and actions are aligned. You feel powerful and good about yourself.

       

      • Continue to grow and evolve.

      To choose to grow and evolve is a happier and more useful path to take.

       

      Embrace change. Remember that possibilities & opportunities are endless. 🙂

      blog writing

      Building a booming blog takes a lot of work. Growing your blog into a money-making venture  can take you months or even years of full-time work. You may not have the time you need to invest to make your blog successful, or you may naturally want more success. Outsourcing some of your blog tasks may be the easy smart answer.Blog Writing

       

      If you want to Start Outsourcing, we are here to help you. In 2013, we provide help for free. Later we may take our material offline or for members only.

      Since reading ‘The 4 Hour Work Week’ in 2011, I have put on over 30 staff. I have fired or no longer use 25 of them. Many of them were simply using Facebook while logged on, or unable to fulfill roles adequately. I have learned a lot and share this information in my Outsourcing blogs.

       

      Currently I have my staff doing about 80 hours per week. If not for me, for my they also work for my friends websites. My Outsourcing team have helped a lot of my friends create their personal and business web pages, manage their social media and sort their business email accounts. If you want to hire my team and we are good friends, it’s really possible. If you’re not a close friend, then perhaps my staff can help you with your needs; however you will have to pay them or provide donation for the time used.

       

      Before you even begin to look for Outsourcing Staff we recommend the following procedure:

       

      • Make a list of all the tasks you have to do through out the week.

      If the task is the kind of work you truly hate doing, or something really simple but time consuming, then it’s a possible  good candidate for outsourcing.

      • Look at tasks that are easy to outsource first.

      The easiest are regular familiar tasks such as adding friends on social media, and sending birthday wishes. Most Virtual Staff have Facebook so its very easy for them to manage this task. Then you can go into compiling contact lists, and building new contacts. You can also outsource other simple tasks such as researching an item, creating accounts, becoming active in specific groups and the like.

      • Make some decisions.

      Manage your list of tasks to outsource into urgent, short term and longer term categories. Once you’ve made a list of what you’d like to outsource, you’ll be able to tell just what you need like it was in the office set-up. Perhaps one Virtual Assistant would be enough but one VA and one Content Writer would be more appropriate.

      • Start your Search.

      We have already shared information on individual roles and even included example job advertisements, it doesn’t get much simpler. You would probably start with a VA first, however sometimes it would also be easy exploring other options.

      • An even easier way.

      You can even make it even easier by asking my staff to do the sorting for you. For a small commission they can take care of your recruitment for you. Philippines, India and China are covered by my dedicated staff.

      We are also  in regular contact with a very experienced company which can take care of all your sourcing, interviewing in Philippines for a fee of $395 USD. Complete with guarantee.

      WIth my Assistants we have a much better option, much cheaper of course. It will be guaranteed by my name and pride, which is just as good if not better. We currently are looking at ways of effectively finding, processing and training staff to work for clients at a high standard. We may soon be able to offer a complete service we’re you can easily hire Virtual Staff through us so we can guarantee the work and staff, for a much lower fee or rate than anything currently available on the market. We already havye a Lawyer, Accountant, Bank Account, and multiple staff working in Philippines and I will be there for the month of July 2013. 🙂

       

       

      Outsourcing is a great way to save yourself time and to get results for your blog more quickly.

      Do you Outsource tasks for your blog? Tell us what you outsource and how it helps you?

      Adrian Program

      Look, you may wonder why I write about this but it’s incredibly important to me.

      I’ll never forget returning home after my 2nd year of backpacking. I meet my friend Maxy from New Zealand. One of the worlds wildest backpackers. And we are at my home town. And Maxy ask me, “Adrian, you don’t look happy.”

      I had a blast around the world. I was going back out for more. But I wasn’t keeping balance.

      I drank too much. Partied too hard. Put on a bit of weight and wasn’t achieving any more.

      Around my waist there was a fair bit of weight. I weighed more than I ever had before. And I made a promise to myself that I would make my health a much higher priority.

      From then on, no matter where I was, I would regularly visit gyms or workout regardless of location.

      Ideally, I will hit the gym every 4th day of the week but no less than a workout a week.

      Making that commitment to continually work our while traveling turned out to be the one of the best decisions I ever made. And it’s one not done by many.

      I’ll never forget living with a girl friend in Romania and walking from her warm apartment, through the cold snow to go to a gym which looked much like any gym in Australia. Alternatively I remember going to a gym in Chiang Mai, a real local gym, not a commercial one, where we lifted things like car tires and blocks of cement.

      When I can’t hit the gym like today, (Currently in Osaka Japan) I’m lucky to have my imagination….. And Army training.

       

      It starts real simple and I want to share it with you so you can see how easy it can be.

      1. I make a strong short coffee, and play some upbeat music

      2. I write up my workout program.

      3. Basically, the work is done. The coffee and writing it out is your commitment taken care of and since the coffee is kicking in….. Your going to get at it.

       

      My preferred workouts are going from one muscle group the next. I may go through a cycle of 7 exercises like below. Or I may cycle between any 2 exercises. After completing one set, I rest that set of muscles while working out a different set.

      I have a plan for hitting my core, arms and shoulders. Today, I have a space which is just 3 x 3 meters, which is like a lounge room/bed room of a friends house. I’m actually extremely blessed today. I have this space, privacy, some music, a fan (it’s summer), a blanket for padding, my backpack (can use as weight) and a bicycle which I’ll use after to ride down town to meet some friends later.

       

      A Typical Workout Program and my program for today:

      Adrian Program

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

      Most of the time, I alter between 10-40 repetitions of each activity (push ups, dips, crunches etc) with varying sets (working through each activity once being a set). By trying different workout program, my muscles are constantly challenged, rather than adapting to the no. of reps. Variation is good for muscles too. When I’m building muscles, I increase weight or angles to make it harder. This is like running fast sprints as compared to long slow distance (LSD).

      Try this sometime when you get home; play some music, make a short coffee, create a simple plan and give it a go. Feel the caffeine and music as it energize you. Appreciate how nice it is to have these luxuries. Appreciate how good it is that you can do this. Look back on all the good things that happened in the week, reflect and appreciate all good things while you are exercising. Enjoy!

      28/11/19 Running an amazing online course, 5 people are about to complete and holding a 9 day NLP Coaching Practitioner Retreat with ICF Credentials. Anyone wanting Training, call me quick price is going up each month. Will hold a Master Practitioner and Master Mind in the following months. Enjoy this article I wrote for YOU!  

      In the book “7 Habits of Highly Effective People,” author Stephen R. Covey reveals a step-by-step pathway for living with fairness, integrity, service, and human dignity–principles that give us the security to adapt to change and the wisdom and power to take advantage of the opportunities that change creates.

      Habit 1: Be Proactive
      Take initiative in life by realizing that your decisions (and how they align with life’s principles) are the primary determining factor for determining the path of your life.

      Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind
      Begin with knowing and focusing with the desired end state in mind. This often involves self-discovery and clarifying your deeply important values and life goals.

      Habit 3: Put First Things First
      Prioritize, plan, and execute your tasks based on importance rather than urgency. Evaluate whether your efforts exemplify your desired character values, propel you toward goals, and enrich the roles and relationships.

      Habit 4: Think Win-Win
      Genuinely strive for mutually beneficial solutions or agreements in your relationships. Value and respect people by understanding a “win” for all is ultimately a better long-term resolution.

      Habit 5: Seek First to understand, then to be understood
      By understanding first is a much more appropriate action. Use empathic listening to genuinely listen and be open to the person, or even learn from them.

      Habit 6: Synergize
      Combine the strengths of people through positive teamwork, so as to achieve goals no one person could have done alone. Get the best performance out of a group of people.

      Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw
      Balance and regain your resources, energy, and health to create a sustainable, long-term and effective lifestyle. It primarily emphasizes on exercise for physical renewal, prayer and good reading for mind renewal.

       Does it sound like we could have an interesting chat? Click below to schedule.

      https://www.calendly.com/adriancahill/virtualcoffee

       

      searching

      Finding Free Images for your Webpages

      For any website or blog, graphics and pictures are important. A great picture can help capture a reader’s interest, inviting them to stay longer and read your content. Yet, there are a lot of measures in finding images – particularly legal issues. They cannot be used for business or personal purposes without the permission from the copyright holder.

      I would like to share some guidelines on where and how to find free images to use in your blog posts. You can use this with your Virtual Assistants if you are training them from scratch.

      A lot of people think you can just look for Google Images and use those images on your own blog.  In most cases, that is probably illegal. When it comes to the images you must:

       

      No Copy Paste1)      Own purchased rights to all images you use, and know the license limits.

      2)      For free images, you can use public domain images.

      3)      You can use “commercial use allowed, creative commons, attribution required” and provide a link from the author’s page.

       

      Creative Commons (CC) is a non-profit organization from the United States, devoted to expanding the range of creative works available for others to build upon legally and to share.

       

      When you have an option to use free photos that are accessible, why risk using copyrighted images? Thankfully, there are plenty of sites that offer free images that can be used on blogs and business websites like ours.

       

      For your convenience, I have compiled a list of free image sources. Check them out below.

       

       

      • PixelPerfect – This interesting site includes over 4,000 stock photos, neatly ordered in categories from Abstract and Animals to Places and Transportation. The best part of Pixel Perfect Digital is the collection of digital art and illustrations, though; stylish images that are hard to find elsewhere.

       

      • CCSearch -The organization behind the creative commons licenses, provide a search engine on their website. This search engine, called CC Search, is one of the best ways to find royalty free images that you can use legally.
         
      • Flickr – You would have to ask permission from the photographer if their image is “All Rights Reserved”. There are some images on Flickr under ‘Creative Commons’ where the owner of the image allows limited use (usually with a credit but you MUST check).

       

      • Google Advance Image Search – The Advanced Search is your quick bet because it is familiar and allows you to filter your search by license. You can search for only images that can be reused (free to use). 

       

      • Sprixi – Sprixi sources shareable images from Flickr and OpenClipArt.

       

      • Pixabay – Pixabay searched for both photos and clipart from other public domain websites. The image information tells you about the source, the type of license, and the important EXIF information. You can also view photos by the camera used.

       

      • Pinterest – It gives you a roundabout way to search for free images. Log-into Pinterest. Use the search box to type in “public domain” and view the results. Click on the specific image and then click on the source to view the license and verify if it’s truly public domain or at lease Creative Commons.

       

      • Morguefile – Looking for high resolution stock photos for your illustration, comp or design needs? Search Morgue File for free reference images. Yes, they’re all completely free; whether you’re an illustrator, art director, instructor or looking to add a defining visual to a presentation.

       

      • Free Photos BankThe Free Photos Bank site provides a typical range of free photos – people, animals, landscapes and so on. They’re better at abstract shots, though, backgrounds and digital artwork, so this is a good place to start looking for those more unusual images. There’s no registration required so downloading is easy, whatever you’re after.

       

       

      Do you know of any other great sites to find free images for your blog? We would love to hear about them. 🙂

       

      The Best Investment

       

      What’s the Best Investment you can make right now?

      In my opinion the best investment you can make is probably you.

       


      Invest in yourselfInvest to build your personal value
      .

      When necessary, reinvent yourself.

       

      To change we have to build a new model to replace the old one.

      Think of ourselves as stronger and better entity.

       

      Think of ourselves as an enterprise.

      We are the enterprise to our future success.

       

      Everyday, we have things to learn and we should do it the best that we can.

      We can do and change things using our will power.

       

      Make a difference in your life and in people that you work with.

      Stand out from the crowd, go the extra mile.

       

      Strive to make a difference, take steps forward in our personal development each and every single day.

      Live every day like it’s your last, with consideration for tomorrow.

      Go to the Free Resources page where you can find free resources showing you specifically how to measure you net wealth, cashflow and also, assess your current Wealth Mindest!

      Universal Language

      TEFL

      An increasing number of people choose to go into TEFL (Teaching English as a Foreign Language.), not as a gap year option straight after university, but as a life-change option much later in life. Whilst taking a TEFL qualification and ‘going traveling’ might appear straightforward, and almost a logical thing to do for recent graduates, it can become a much more substantial project later in life.

      Teaching English is a great way of taking in a new life direction. It is a great way of  “giving something back”. TEFL usually involves teaching English to individuals or small groups of motivated students with a genuine desire to improve their English. Teaching is usually in private language schools and whilst it is possible to teach in the UK, USA, Australia, and the like, most people start by gaining experience abroad.

      Teaching English as a Foreign LanguageIt is for this reason that TEFL can represent such a huge life change. You might end up quitting a secure job, forsaking a regular salary, selling or renting out a house or flat, and most certainly finding yourself many miles from good friends and family. That’s a lot for anyone to deal with. It might also be a very long time since you’ve been through a change of a similar magnitude.
      If you’re at the stage of wondering whether TEFL is for you, just click on the TEFL link and get in touch with Cactus TEFL, the TEFL course admissions service, who will be able to advise you more.

      If you’re ready to start leading a life-changing option such as TEFL, or if you want to start looking at how you might move towards this sort of goal, then maybe we should talk. In just a few sessions, you might find you’ve cleared those limiting beliefs, barriers and fears that have been holding you back all this time.
      The most internationally recognized TEFL qualifications (the Cambridge CELTA and Trinity Cert TESOL) is only a 4-week course subject – that means that approximately 6 weeks from now – YOU could be jetting off abroad!

       

      For an absolutely great international guide, check out Wiki here. If you have any other suggestions or favorite pages related to teaching welcome to share.

      Firstly let me remind you, richness is not just term that means having a lot of money. And I think this is where people often go wrong.

      I know this because, this is exactly where I went wrong.

      And this cost me …

      Over half of everything I owned.

      A lot of friendships.

      Most of my health.

      I regularly had ulcers in my mouth from stress.

      Alcohol problems.

       

      Just as Chocolate can be rich, your life can be rich, without a million dollar bank balance. But sometimes entrepreneurs or those driven for success can forget this valuable point.

      Being Rich

       Think about this for a minute.

      Is it more important that I am being rich. Or am rich.

       

       

      For me, I like to use the sentance being rich to draw attention to the concept of being.Being present, being aware, being in abundance. I would prefer to ‘be’ in richness than to say have it in a bank balance.

      Richness can be in love, in love from family, friendships or intimate relationships.

      Richness in health, in able body or appreciation and gratitude for the simple gift of a breath.

      Richness in personal characteristics or content.

      Richness in having the courage to stand up for myself and my friends.

      Richness in mindfulness and bliss.

      Richness in freedom to pursue my passions.

       

       

      One of my favourite Coaching techniques (in 2012 anyway) is a Holistic Trial Balance. It’s a trial balance for your life.

      This simple trial balance can be used to measure or check on the most important areas of your life. And if you want a spreadsheet just for money, there is a link for one at the bottom.

      The Holistic Trial Balance

       

      1. Start with a piece of paper and fold it into half, then into half, then into half again. Now you will have 8 squares. Label these squares: Finance, Health, Personal Development, Recreation, Social, Love, Family, and Community.

      2. In the top right of each square, place a rating between 1-10 regarding how important this square is in your life. How important is Finance to your life right now. 10 for most important, 1 for the lowest. You can repeat the same number, you can have 3 x 10’s if that is the case. You could even add extra boxes as you get the hang of this exercise.

      3. Spend 30 seconds to a couple of minutes on each square. Next to the rating, give a score as to how you are doing in this square right now.

      4. Next write some points to work on in each square. For example, Finance 9 / 4 (finance is really important but scoring poorly) – Set up a savings Account – Negotiate a rise – Garage sale.

      5. Repeat the process when you feel necessary or what I really strongly suggest is to schedule it in your calendar for the first Sunday of EVERY MONTH.

       

       

       

      It is amazing how effective this is. Just by writing this out, you can clarify a lot to yourself and it’s surprising how many points are completed.

      We will look at investing in terms of money later. However, please always remember, the best investment you can make is in your self.

      Be Rich

      If you like you can click here to get access to a free Financial Trial Balance for measuring your net wealth.

      In my early 20’s I was 90% focused on financial wealth. It kind of worked really well. I made a lot of money until the quality of other area’s in my life became so deteriorated that they suddenly and unexpectedly fell apart.

      Life is delicate and you can be rich in any area of life. Just need to be aware that an outside, or third person perspective can be priceless. Being to rich in one area can cause problems. As can being too weak.

      Remember, the chain breaks at the weakest link.

      Thank you for your time.

      If you enjoy my articles or have insights, please feel free to share.

      Go to the Free Resources page where you can find free resources showing you specifically how to measure you net wealth, cashflow and also, assess your current Wealth Mindest!

      Having spent a few years backpacking, I like to think I have a few things figured out!

       

      My Backpack:

      Type: Tactical 5.11 (a Military issue although you can find one online)

      Weight: 12-16kg (although I always manage to carry it on board the plane)

      This was issued to me by the Australian Army prior to my Afghanistan trip. Its been carried for over 4 years now and is still in great condition.

      Valuables kept down the bottom. Earplugs, Earphones, kept up top and will be easy to access.

      Once configured,organised or packed, develop the habit of always putting things in the same place. This serves 3 purposes. Firstly, its much harder to lose anything. Secondly, if you lose something, (or stolen), you’ll know it much quicker. Thirdly, if you need to get to something quickly, quietly or in the dark, you can find it with your eyes closed in seconds.

      Be an organized Backpacker!!  (+ you save money if you don’t have to re-buy things)

       

      Contents:

      2 x Jeans, (wearing one, one in bag)Clothes To Bring 2 x casual shirts,
      2 x Semi-formal, (good enough to wear to presentations/speeches)
      1 x Thermal Pants and Top
      1 x Singlet
      4x underwear, socks (easy to buy abroad, if you don’t get to wash, easy to buy more)
      1 x Running shorts (I enjoy running in new places)

      1 x Runners suitable for almost everything.

      1 x Lightweight towel (for me its actually the red sheet)

       

      Occasionally, I may pack or buy $30 Formal shoes if I’m doing a lot of formal events.
      Changes in Season:
      If it’s summer, I would swap 1x Jeans for 2x Shorts.
      For winter, I pack 2 pairs of thermals which I change regularly, and a jacket that I wear everyday.

       

       

      Sleeping Gear

      1 x Lightweight Blanket, (I have a special Red Masai, African Blanket)
      (I tend to stay with friends, Couch Surfers, or hotels, so very rarely need to use my own sleeping gear. However I still tend to use my blanket. If in Iceland or really cold weather, I would carry a lightweight sleeping bag.

       

      Toiletries:

      toiletriesAbsolutely minimal. Every few days I find some. shampoo/conditioner/shaving cream.
      2 x Toothbrush. I carry 1 in my Jacket Pocket in winter/snow as I often sleep unexpectedly at different houses while my bag is left elsewhere or in a locker.
      EarPlugs, a must have!!
      1 x Spoon, (no knives, no need for fork, spoon does it all)
      Ukon (gold packet) a special Japanese medicine for preventing hangovers
      1-3 x small hotel soaps, most places have soap, just in case.
      1 x Small sunscreen (sometimes mosquito repellent)
      1 x Multivitamins. (often I’ll just put the required amount in a little plastic bag instead of the bottle)
      1 x Smallest cologne you can find (It’s nice to smell good sometimes)
      1 x Mach 3 Razor
      1 x Lip Balm (sometimes carry)

       

      Electrical GearTravel Gadgets

      Asus 12Inch  (I have used smaller, although smaller is too hard to work)

      Philips PicoPix PPX2330 (For doing Presentations or watching movies)

      GoPro2 (Best video camera available for me, still photos are great too, but not so good night shots)

      Smart Phone, Android (Samsung W). I prefer Android, small, older model. No need for S4. (2013 Update, just bought an S4)

      1-2 Smallest power adapters possible. Cheapest if bought from local markets (not in Airports or Western countries)

      1 x Mili Power Crystal 2000MAh (It charges my Smart Phone, Go-Pro and Projector)

      Various SD/USB Memory devices

       

       

       

      Other:

      sim, visa and cards 2 x Notebooks. Old school paper still rocks. 1 small notepad for phone no’s etc, I carry in my back pocket and a larger for learning languages, drawings, journals etc.

      1 x Copy of Passport, Medical Insurance, and my family’s contact details.

      Spare cash cards. It is very easy in some countries to start a local bank account. Using their cards and having money on it is a great back up and fees are cheaper than using my Australian card.

      SIM Cards. I always buy a local SIM Card on arriving in a new country, it makes it so much easier to contact locals. Then I post on Facebook, Weibo, etc, my new phone number. Sometimes I use an Australian Skype Dial in number, and then divert it to what ever SIM card I am using.

      Note: The latest Iphones/Smart Phones often use Micro or Nano SIM cards. You can cut a normal SIM to Micro size easily with scissors (easy to cut the wrong way too,just take your time and double/triple check before cutting)

      Note: I also put these little notes inside my camera, laptop and camera cases. Generally people want to return items to their owner, you just have to make it easy for them.

       

      Remember, minimalist travel wins. That’s part of reason travel is so great. You don’t have much. You don’t really need much. Its amazing actually how little we really need. If you have to think about, probably better leaving it behind. If doing a long trip, I like to send packages home occasionally, a box home, and send any items not used in the last month home.

      Bulgarian Night Club

      When I started what was to be, a 5 year back packing trip, Europe was certainly the hottest destination. But for me, it wasn’t just Europe. It was all about the East. East Europe!

      Most the backpackers I had met in Australia/Asia tended to go and talk about places like Amsterdam, London, Paris and Barcelona. Yeah cool, but what about the East? And I’m not talking about places like Czech or Hungary. Now I could be completely wrong, and welcome to comment if I am, to me, East Europe is composed of the countries bordering Russia. Mainly the Baltic’s to the Balkans. Actually, I met almost no one that had been along the far eastern edges of Europe and that undiscovered lands, is where so much of the magic is.

      FYI: My motivation behind this is that backpackers and tourist hear so much about those mainstream places. I love to write a few words about my favourite cities in Europe, and well, it’s probably going to be these cool undiscovered cities in the east!!! Cities like Minsk, Sofia, Talinn, Beograde, Kiev! Oh my so much fun!!!

      Now today, we are talking about Sofia, Bulgaria. The country has a population of just over 7 million and its capital Sofia has has around 1.2 million. (www.wikitravel.org/en/Sofia). Bulgaria is a beautiful country for traveling, hiking, and fun. Getting amongst nature in winter (ski resorts in the southern mountains) and in summer (Sofia and the coastal towns especially Varna). I first arrived and traveled the country in spring, later visiting in Winter. I must say the country and in particularly the capital Sofia is one of the most delightful places on earth!

      Sofia

      Now for those that don’t speak much English, fear not, the younger generation are taught English, although they rarely get the chance to practice. So if you meet those wanting and willing to practice English, you are bound to have fun. Particularly if a beer or music is involved.

      A great starting point for making friends would be to access the Couch Surfers (CS) and other international groups that get together regularly. When I first arrived in Sofia I proceeded immediately to a CS meeting which proceeded to an outdoor party. After that, a local girl drove me back to my hostel at around 3am. Actually, I ended up doing that a lot!

      Cool undiscovered cities, Sofia

      Bulgarian Lunch!

       

      I spent most afternoons and nights drinking and partying with different new friends; arriving home just before sunrise. It was great! I stayed mainly at an awesome hostel (I have a big write up about hostels here that you can check out if you like). There are a couple of great hostels actually and a lot of Eastern Europe tends to have some really funky places. Now at this hostel, for my stay, I would regularly sleep in till about 1pm. Trying to sleep through the noise of young backpackers was not always easy, they always seem to be unorganized and loud in the morning! However around lunch, I would normally awaken by local calling me to come out for brunch and recovery beers. Ahhh! What an amazing life!

       

      If you don’t have the local connections, I can honestly say, you probably wouldn’t have half as much fun. But if you don’t have connections or the social confidence (I have an article here about Social Confidence) just grab a couple of bottles of beer and step into one of the parks in the afternoon. Beer is sold for roughly a US Dollar per liter in 1 to 3L bottles . Drinking in parks is allowed, socially acceptable and just part of the culture there. Try it, Love it, Living Lavida Sofia!

      Sofia like all cities has a night club scene. Now I’m never a guy that goes to random bars to pick up women. So I’m not one to comment there. Honestly, it’s so much fun being with Bulgarians that although I used to be recognised as an expert with women, here, I was just blown away by the ability to meet up with local friends and share good stories over $1 per liter beer. OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA

      One of my best Bulgarian Friends Mihail was at the time creating a big website for Sofia tourism. He has since returned to working in a JOB. I’ll never forget when Mihail burrowed a family members car and drove our crew to the vineyards south east of Sofia. Our crew consisted of 2 x Bulgarians, 2 x Aussies, 1 x Cypriot. We stopped and visited a famous temple where a Monk discovered enlightenment (I thought this stuff only happened in Asia but I was wrong). We went on a bit further to a wine area where we ended up in a cave which was used as a cellar. Returning after a couple of glasses to Sofia with a few bottles of the preservative free, organic Bulgarian wine.  

      FYI: One of the few other cities I’ve had this much fun is Cebu Philippines. This city is a call centre hub, so friends in that industry would often call up in the early morning to join them in early morning/day drinking with beer about the same price as Bulgaria. However Sofia, Minsk Belarus, Toulouse France, Tartu Estonia or Kiev Ukraine would get my vote for the 5 funnest cities in Europe.

      Danger…Eastern Europe tends to suffer from corruption. You have to be a street smart in all cities. DO NOT DRINK TOO MUCH anywhere! It doesn’t matter where you are; if you’re too drunk, things can easily go wrong. Chances of getting robbed increase dramatically with alcohol content and displays of valuable cameras, iPhones, etc. Chances are greatly reduced by having small money, looking a little local, being friendly or smiling, not being an easy target or loud mouth. Besides, always know when to walk the other way….. and run!

      Cool undiscovered cities, Sofia

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      By the way, I was joking by that run comment. I never had problems in Bulgaria, however some loud mouth drunken backpackers at the hostel did. With Mihail, Yana and awesome Bulgarian friends, it’s bound to be one of your favourite cities in Europe too!

      Cool Undiscovered Cities: Eastern Europe, Sofia
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      When I started what was to be, a 5 year back packing trip, Europe was certainly the hottest destination. But for me, it wasn’t just Europe. It was all about the East. East Europe!

      Most the backpackers I had met in Australia/Asia tended to go and talk about places like Amsterdam, London, Paris and Barcelona. Yeah cool, but what about the East? And I’m not talking about places like Czech or Hungary. Now I could be completely wrong, and welcome to comment if I am, to me, East Europe is composed of the countries bordering Russia. Mainly the Baltic’s to the Balkans. Actually, I met almost no one that had been along the far eastern edges of Europe and that undiscovered lands, is where so much of the magic is. 

      FYI: My motivation behind this is that backpackers and tourist hear so much about those mainstream places. I love to write a few words about my favourite cities in Europe, and well, it’s probably going to be these cool undiscovered cities in the east!!! Cities like Minsk, Sofia, Talinn, Beograde, Kiev! Oh my so much fun!!!

      Today, I am starting by highlighting Minsk (Belarus) one of the coolest, undiscovered cities in the world. In fact I hope to bring a few cool undiscovered cities to you in my blog. I’m actually very busy as a Coach helping people to make passive income to follow their dreams, but I really want to get a few of these cool undiscovered cities out there!

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      Minsk’s population is predominantly Russian and native Belorussian. The Belorussians being those that have been here forever! These guys have there own language which may sound or look like Russian, however it’s DIFFERENT. And sadly becoming less common. I as a traveler, learned less than a sentence in Belorussian and focused on Russian as I thought that would help me further with my travels. However if you learn some Belorussian, it would be extremely cool, and perhaps, unusual. If your a local, please what do you think and whats the current situation?Minsk1

      Tourists here are very rare. Tourist assistance, tourist information is pretty much unheard of. One day, I actually took a photo of a couple, because I believe they may have been tourist. This makes Minsk a city, which is really like something from the Get Smart Movie. As a long term traveler, I was able to blend in, however, if I was talking with friends ANYWHERE, I couldn’t help to notice people listening (in a friendly way)

      According to wikitravel.org/en/Belarus. Belarus is under a dictatorship and the city itself feels like a mixture of USSR/KGB/GetSmart/1960 Spy film. Also note, according to my Lonely Planet, it says “Belarus is a breeding ground for Super Models”. While that could be true, Eastern Europe itself is full of beautiful people, both men and women….

      Yes gentlemen, the country is full of beautiful women! But no, there not easy! And to any Belorussian women reading this, please take pride. Belorussian women display show good dress sense, great complexion, healthy bodies, wonderful personalities and very intelligent.

      Now, back on to other adventures.

      Drinking in Eastern Europe is great. Drinking in in Minsk is Fantastic!  When having a drink with friends, the table generally tended to look something like this:

      A bottle of Balbash Vodka (Product of Belarus),

      Unmixed glasses of Vodka, juice, Coke, water, Tonic

      Plates of fruits, meats, olives, onion, fats/lard

      And all for a a price of, well under $40 USD in a decent club or bar. It’s simply awesome! Drink straight high quality vodka, topping up with water; eating foods in front of you and all this with beautiful people. Hangovers are avoidable if you are disciplined 🙂 However after too many fun nights in a row……

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      I stayed with at least 4 hosts in Belarus and one of these was with the Rock band “Floor Sixteen”. That was insane. Here are some of the pictures of what could be, the coolest undiscovered city in Europe!

       

       

      Cool Undiscovered Cities:  Eastern Europe, Minsk
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      And by the way, if you don’t like this post, don’t worry cause,belarus_smiley_designs_cork_coaster-r73ef571df551407f82ce4789d59cb8ec_ambkq_8byvr_324

       

      This was taken from a success seminar I attended. I’ve expanded it and shared it with you. Perhaps it could help those wanting to know how to achieve more success.

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      These are some of the common qualities often found in high achievers. What is that make them stand out from the crowd and work towards their high level of success? By looking at these qualities, we can see obvious areas in our life  that needs improvement. You may want to give your self a score for each quality or list a couple of things you can do to improve each part.

      Unfortunately, watching TV with beer and pizza is clearly out. Unless of course its the Grand Finals or Friday night. We all desrve a little relax time here and there.

      Have a great day guys and please try to improve all of these areas of your life on a daily basis. Thank you for reading. You are welcome to leave a feedback. The Information is proudly brought to you by AdrianCahill.com

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      Hi Guys!

      As you all know, I’m a travel addict. Formerly an Internet junkie, here are some of the Best Travel Websites.

       

      wiki travelskyscanner

      1. www.skyscanner.net – This is the Google for Plane Tickets. Example search is ‘Sydney’ to ‘Everywhere’ for the month of ‘June’.

      2. www.wikitravel.org – My no.1 resource page on new locations. On Google or what ever you use type ‘wikitravel’ ‘Sydney’ or ‘Australia’ or ‘Antarctica’. Check it out www.wikitravel.org/en/Antarctica

       

      The next sites are all equal rating depending on your travel style.

      hostel world

      hostel bookers

      trip advisorescape artistcouch surfingbe welcome

       

       

      hospitality club

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

       

      Hostel World or Hostel Bookers. These two sites are the hostel main booking sites/engines used throughout the world. Slowly hostels in Central Asia, Middle East, Africa and remote countries are starting to use these sites as they get on to the Internet. Many other travel sites and blogs sell or resell accommodation by utilizing these two companies. I use these sites as a research tool. I use Hostel World with Wiki Travel. These Hostel Webpages are per-dominantly Western Backpackers. Wiki Travel on the other hand is for a broader range of travelers. Next, the Trip Advisor is for more commercial travels. I know a lot of accommodation and restaurants which have gained much new business by and sometimes charging more than their competitors by establishing themselves on Trip Advisor. In my opinion, Trip Advisor is like a Lonely Planet. Please note. All the above systems, including Wiki can be manipulated by false references.

      Escape Artist has been around for over 10years and is a great resource tool. Created in America, primarily for American ExPats. It contains so much information it’s not funny. Personally, I haven’t found the need for anymore information services as SkyScanner, WikiTravel, and Couch Surfing has done it all for me.

      Couch Surfing, is one of the worlds best websites for making friends and staying with locals abroad. Millions of users have profiles and interact online to exchange tips, assistance, views and then organize meet ups and plans to accommodate each other. I’ve personally helped thousands of people here, hosted over 100people in my apartments and my Mum & Dad’s house. I’ve stayed in 1-200 homes. Most of these experiences were directly through Couch Surfing or people I’ve meet through Couch Surfing friends. Adrian on CouchSurfing. Oh and it’s all free.

      Be Welcome is another hospitality site like Couch Surfing. It was actually made by Couch Surfing volunteers who were unhappy at Couch Surfing organizers. Couch Surfing is a company. It was founded through donations although it was and is a company, so Be Welcome is ‘owned by the people’  voting for head positions and direction. Personally, I hope and encourage all CouchSurfers to join BeWelcome. Although BeWelcome doesn’t have the funds that CouchSurfing has. A side note, CouchSurfing donations have been used to fly Organizers on world trips and have week long parties in places like Istanbul. BeWelcome Organisers have daily jobs and struggle to raise any money. Adrian on BeWelcome

      One last site is Hospitality Club. Outdated now, this site was pre-Couch Surfing couchsurfing. Note: The first forms of couch surfing was over 30years ago via mail.

      OK, I wanted to keep this short and just the best. If people would like to add their own welcome, now go on, get out there!

      Peruvian Woman in Fashion Markets

      Peruvian Woman in Fashion Markets

      Introducing Tammy’s Travel and Fashion Blog

      I would like to introduce to you my friend Tammy. Tammy is one of the super travelers I meet occasionally around the world, so I’m sharing her story to all of you.  Tammy has lived in four countries.  Pre-dominantly in New York, where she works in the Fashion industry.  At the end of this year, Tammy will pass the 100+ Countries mark.  Visiting over 100 countries before reaching the age of 30 is quite extraordinary, not to mention that she is a SUPER COOL CHICK!

      So this is Tammy’s travel and fashion blog where she talks about Travel and Fashion.  Check it out.
      www.edgymix.com

      Sometimes it helps to get someone else’s opinion when it comes to matters of the heart. So here are some dating tips that I will share with you guys that will surely help you in finding that “The One” in your life.

       

      What’s your intent in dating?hand heart

      I strongly feel 90% of issues can be addressed by focusing on the purpose or intent.

      What is your intent on dating? Are you after a long term relationship?

      Are you after the fun?

      Are you looking for “the one”?

       

      Make sure your frame (thoughts) supports your intent (purpose or goal). Personally, I feel you should also let your intent be known. By letting it be known, you are allowing it to flow into your life more easily, effortlessly and honestly. It’s alright to date for fun, or date to find ‘the one’. Simply let your intent be known.

       

      Clarifying what we want and actually writing it down will improve our chances of getting. The simple act of writing it down helps our unconscious and conscious work together in achieving what we want. Just by writing it down we can allow better results to flow into our lives.

       

      datingWho do you really want?

      Who do you actually want to  date? Please, write out all the things you are looking for in a partner. If this is difficult for you, an alternative is to write out all the things you don’t want in a partner i.e. “I don’t want a partner that smokes.”

      And then we can look for a positive re-Frame. ie.

      “I don’t want a partner that smokes,” could change into, “I want a partner that cares for their lungs and has good health.”

       

      What’s the most important trait you are looking for in a partner?

      When we know what we want, we will be happy with ourselves. Hopefully by doing what we love and following our passions we have gotten the opportunity to meet someone that could be the one!

       

      OK guys, totally honest, upfront, and direct to you.

       

      “I, Adrian Cahill want a partner that enjoys living a healthy lifestyle. Ideally, she will be into or interested in Yoga and running. She must enjoy reading, ideally books that I also enjoy or intellectual books (originally I had read books, and not read crappy magazines). She must be supportive to my dreams and goals”.

       

       

      Come on guys, I wrote it out and put it on the WWW. You can write it out too!

      There are many ‘Keys’ to dating, however,  you have to be complete and happy with yourself first. Sounds quite simple ?And yes it is.

      Life quotes from Buddha
      Once you get your head in the right place (with or without a little coaching), dating will simply be so much easier. These sum it up:healthy mind, healthy body, and healthy heart.

      By investing in a healthier lifestyle, you will naturally feel better about your self. A little daily meditation, exercise, socialization, bonding with family and rest are all ways to make your self feel better. Looking after your health and weight better would certainly help you attract the opposite sex, you know you feel so much better about yourself when you’re feeling healthy (here is an article we wrote on losing weight using your mobile phone). This naturally leads to better dating.

      A lot of the time when your not having success with something, its easy to feel down or depressed. There is a bad obvious catch here. Feeling down, brings you down, you meet someone and your down!  If your not having success at the moment with say dating, or even your finances, try concentrating on something else for a little bit. Try spending a little time improving another area of your life. Perhaps something as simple as going for a long run, walk, or bike ride. Perhaps spending time with family. Then later come back and tackle the dating or finances again.

      I strongly encourage a plan to improve all areas of your life as this leads to better dating.  Love, health, friendships, family, finance are all intertwined.

      Healthy Main Dishes

      Here are healthy main dishes recipes, including favorite ingredients like chicken , potato, beef , pasta , Mexican chef salad, shells and meatloaf.

      Caribbean Rum Chicken Recipe

      Check out our Caribbean Rum Chicken RecipeCaribbean Rum Chicken

      Ingredients 

      • 4 (110g) boneless, skinless chicken breasts
      • 1/4 cup rum
      • 3 tablespoons lime juice
      • 2 tablespoons reduced sodium soy sauce
      • 1 1/2 tablespoons brown sugar
      • 1 tablespoons Worcestershire sauce
      • 1 tablespoon olive oil
      • 1 tablespoon minced fresh parsley
      • 1/8 teaspoon pepper
      • 1 lime cut into wedges

       

      Method

      1. For the marinade, combine brown sugar, lime juice, rum, soy sauce, Worcestershire sauce, olive oil, pepper and parsley. Mix well.
      2. Place chicken breasts in a large resealable plastic bag, add marinade and refrigerate for at least 30 minutes. Turn chicken over occasionally.
      3. Add oil to a nonstick pan and heat over medium heat until hot. Add chicken and cook it for 5-6 minutes on each side until chicken is reach golden brown color. Squeeze lime juice over chicken and serve.

       

      Makes 4 Servings

      Serving Size: 1 chicken breast

      nutrients per serving
      calories: 211
      total fat: 5 g (25% of calories)
      saturated fat 1 g
      cholesterol: 66 mg
      sodium 412 mg
      carbohydrate: 6 g (14% of calories)
      protein: 27 g (62% of calories)
      fiber: trace

       

       

      Basil Mashed Potato Recipe

      Check out our Basil Mashed Potato Recipe
      Basil Mashed Potato

      Ingredients 

      • 4-5 medium red potatoes, washed and cut into quarters
      • 1/2 cup fat-free sour cream
      • 1 teaspoon dried basil
      • Salt and pepper, to taste

       

      Method

      1. Steam, microwave or boil potatoes until tender.
      2. Mash well with fork, adding sour cream, basil and salt and pepper to taste.

       

      Makes 4 Servings

      Serving size: 1/4 recipe

       

      nutrients per serving
      calories: 162
      total fat: less than 1 g (1% of calories)
      saturated fat less than 1 g
      cholesterol: 6 mg
      sodium 33 mg
      carbohydrate: 36 g (77% of calories)
      protein: 4 g (22% of calories)
      fiber: 3 g

       

       

      Beef Stew Recipe

      Check out our Beef Stew Recipe Beef Stew

      Ingredients

      • 900g lean sirloin tip
      • 1 tablespoon olive oil
      • 1 large onion, chopped
      • 4 medium carrots, sliced
      • 2 medium potatoes, cut into pieces
      • 2 medium celery stalks, sliced
      • 2 cups small mushrooms
      • 1 teaspoon dried thyme
      • 1 teaspoon ground mustard
      • 1 cup water
      • 1 cup dry red wine
      • 1 can (450g) no-salt added tomatoes
      • 3 tablespoons flour

       

      Method

      1. Trim excess fat from beef and cut it into cubes.
      2. Heat olive oil in a large pot over medium-high heat until hot. Add beef and brown on all sides. Add remaining ingredients except flour, salt and pepper. Bring to boil then reduce heat to simmer.
      3. Simmer until beef is cooked and vegetables are tender (about an hour)
      4. Combine flour with a small amount of water in a bowl. Whisk until completely dissolved. Add liquid to stew and continue heating until thickened (about 5 min).

       

      Makes 8 servings

      Serving size: 350 g

       

      nutrients per serving
      calories: 268
      total fat: 7 g (26% of calories)
      saturated fat 2 g
      cholesterol: 68 mg
      sodium 130 mg
      carbohydrate: 19 g (31% of calories)
      protein: 27 g (43% of calories)
      fiber: 3 g

       

       

      Honey Mustard Salmon Recipe

      Check out our Honey Mustard Salmon RecipeHoney Mustard Salmon

      Ingredients 

      • 1/4 cup lime juice
      • 3 tablespoons honey
      • 1 tablespoon prepared mustard
      • 4 salmon fillets, 150g each
      • 1 small yellow pepper, cut in slices
      • 1 small red pepper, cut in slices
      • 1 small green pepper, cut in slices
      • Salt and pepper to taste

       

      Method

      1. Preheat oven to 400°F.
      2. Mix the first 3 ingredients above to make the marinade.
      3. Place each salmon fillet on piece of parchment paper large enough to fold over and completely cover fish.
      4. Poke holes into each fish fillet with a fork. Divide marinade between each fish fillet and then top with 1/4 of the pepper slices. Add salt and pepper, if desired.
      5. Wrap the parchment paper over the fish and then wrap in tin foil. Bake until done, about 20 minutes.

       

      Makes 4 servings

      Serving size: 1 packet

       

      nutrients per serving
      calories: 201
      total fat: 7 g (33% of calories)
      saturated fat 1 g
      cholesterol: 62 mg
      sodium 288 mg
      carbohydrate: 7 g (15% of calories)
      protein: 26 g (52% of calories)
      fiber: 2 g

       

       

      Smoked Ham and Rosemary Pasta Recipe

      Check out our Smoked Ham and Rosemary Pasta RecipeSmoked Ham and Rosemary Pasta

      Ingredients

      • 4 cups cooked egg noodles (approx. 3 cups uncooked)
      • 1 teaspoon olive oil
      • 1 medium onion, chopped
      • 450g mushrooms, quartered (approx. 4 cups)
      • 2 tablespoons flour
      • 1 cup white wine
      • 3 tablespoons Dijon mustard
      • 1 cup reduced sodium chicken broth
      • 230g smoked lean ham steak, cut into strips
      • 1/2 teaspoon dried rosemary
      • 1/2 teaspoon black pepper and salt to taste

       

      Method

      1. Prepare noodles according to directions on the package.
      2. Heat oil in large saucepan over medium heat until hot. Add onion and saute until transparent. Add mushrooms and continue cooking until tender (6-8 minutes).
      3. Reduce heat to low and stir in flour. Stir over low heat for 2-3 minutes. Add wine, mustard and chicken broth and mix well. Bring sauce to boil over medium heat. Stir in ham, rosemary, salt and pepper then cover and simmer until heated through.
      4. Pour sauce over hot noodles and toss to coat.

       

      Makes 4 Servings

      Serving Size: 230g noodles and 170g sauce

       

      nutrients per serving
      calories: 343
      total fat: 7 g
      saturated fat 2 g
      cholesterol: 63 mg
      sodium 993 mg
      carbohydrate: 40 g (14% of calories)
      protein: 23 g (62% of calories)
      fiber: 3 g

       

       

      Mexican Chef Salad Recipe

      Check out our Mexican Chef Salad RecipeMexican Chef Salad

      Ingredients 

      • 4 corn tortillas
      • 450g ground turkey breast
      • 1/4 cup minced onion
      • 1 tablespoon chili powder
      • 1/2 teaspoon crushed red pepper flakes
      • 1/2 teaspoon dried oregano
      • 1/2 teaspoon ground cumin
      • 1/2 teaspoon cornstarch
      • 8 cups romaine lettuce, shredded
      • 3 green onions, sliced
      • 1/2 tomato, seeded and diced
      • 1 can no salt added kidney beans, rinsed and drained
      • 1 cup fat-free thousand island dressing

       

      Method

      1. Preheat oven to 350°F.
      2. Cut tortillas into thin strips and place on a cookie sheet. Spray both sides lightly with cooking spray. Bake about 5-8 minutes, turn over with a spatula and continue baking until lightly browned and crispy (5-8 minutes). Cool to room temperature.
      3. Brown ground turkey and minced onion in a large nonstick pan over medium heat. Add seasonings and cornstarch and mix well. Heat until thickened.  Remove from heat and allow to cool slightly.
      4. In large mixing bowl, combine cooled turkey and lettuce and toss well.  Top with green onion, tomatoes, kidney beans and dressing and gently toss.

       

      Makes 6 servings

      Serving Size: 2 cups

       

      nutrients per serving
      calories: 266
      total fat: 7 g (22% of calories)
      saturated fat 1 g
      cholesterol: 46 mg
      sodium 586 mg
      carbohydrate: 30 g (44% of calories)
      protein: 23 g (34% of calories)
      fiber: 7 g

       

       

      Turkey Marinara Sauce Recipe

      Turkey Marinara Sauce RecipeTurkey Marinara Sauce

       Ingredients

      • 450g ground turkey breast
      • 2 tablespoons olive oil
      • 3/4 cup chopped onion
      • 3 cloves garlic, minced
      • 1 can (850g) no salt added crushed tomatoes
      • 1 can (850g) no salt added tomato sauce
      • 2 bay leaves
      • 1/4 teaspoon pepper
      • 2 tablespoons fresh basil, chopped
      • 2 tablespoons fresh parsley, chopped

       

      Method

      1. Heat oil in a large pot over medium heat. Add onion and garlic and cook 2-3 minutes stirring constantly.
      2. Add turkey breast and brown until almost cooked through. Add crushed tomatoes, tomato sauce and spices and bring to boil. Reduce heat and simmer for 30 minutes.
      3. Remove bay leaves and serve over your favorite pasta.

       

      Makes 9 servings

      Serving Size: 230g of sauce

       

      nutrients per serving
      calories: 173
      total fat: 5 g (33% of calories)
      saturated fat 1 g
      cholesterol: 30 mg
      sodium 180 mg
      carbohydrate: 16 g (36% of calories)
      protein: 13 g (30% of calories)
      fiber: 4 g

       

       

      Stuffed Shells Recipe

      Check out our Stuffed Shells Recipe

       Ingredients

      • 36 jumbo pasta shells (approx. 1-350g box)
      • 450g part-skim ricotta cheese
      • 2 eggs
      • 1 1/3 cup shredded reduced fat mozzarella cheese
      • 1/4 cup grated parmesan cheese
      • 2 tablespoons fresh parsley, chopped
      • 1 recipe of our Turkey Marinara Sauce or 2 jars (750g) low calorie pasta sauce

       

      Method

      1. Cook pasta shells al dente in a large pot of water. Drain and rinse well. Do not over cook or the shells will be hard to stuff.
      2. Combine ricotta cheese, eggs, 2/3 cup mozzarella cheese, parmesan cheese and parsley and mix well.
      3. Preheat oven to 350°F.
      4. Spray a large baking dish with nonstick cooking spray. Spread 230g of sauce evenly over the bottom of the baking dish. Fill each shell with about 1 tablespoon of cheese filling and place open side up in the baking dish. Repeat with remaining shells.
      5. Pour remaining sauce over shells and sprinkle with remaining cheese. Cover and bake for 30 minutes. Uncover and continue baking another 10-15 minutes or until cheese browns a little.

       

      Makes 12 Servings

      Serving size: 3 stuffed shells

       

      nutrients per serving
      calories: 301
      total fat: 9 g (26% of calories)
      saturated fat 3 g
      cholesterol: 37 mg
      sodium 328 mg
      carbohydrate: 33 g (43% of calories)
      protein: 23 g (31% of calories)
      fiber: 3 g

       

       

      Turkey Meatloaf Recipe

      Check out our Turkey Meatloaf RecipeTurkey Meatloaf

       Ingredients

      • 1/4 cup ketchup
      • 2 tablespoons brown sugar
      • 2 tablespoons vinegar
      • 2 eggs
      • 1/2 teaspoon dried thyme
      • 2 teaspoons Dijon-style mustard
      • 2 teaspoons reduced sodium Worcestershire Sauce
      • 1/4 teaspoon hot sauce
      • 1/2 cup skim milk
      • 500g ground turkey breast
      • 230g lean ground sirloin
      • 1 medium onion, chopped
      • 2 cloves garlic, minced
      • 1/3 cup minced parsley
      • 16 reduced sodium saltine crackers

       

      Method

      1. Preheat oven to 350°F.
      2. Combine ketchup, brown sugar and vinegar. Set aside.
      3. Mix eggs, dried thyme, Worcestershire sauce, hot sauce, mustard and milk.
      4. Mix ground turkey, ground sirloin, onions and garlic in a large bowl. Add liquid ingredients, parsley and crackers and mix with a fork until mixture doesn’t stick to the bowl. If mixture sticks you can add a little more milk.
      5. Place meat mixture in a 9″x5″ loaf pan. Pour ketchup/brown sugar mixture over the top and bake uncovered for about an hour.

       

      Makes 8 servings

      Serving Size: 90g

       

      nutrients per serving
      calories: 251
      total fat: 11 g (41% of calories)
      saturated fat 4 g
      cholesterol: 70 mg
      sodium 248 mg
      carbohydrate: 12 g (19% of calories)
      protein: 25 g (40% of calories)
      fiber: 1 g